Poll: Who pays on a date?

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Zhukov

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Whoever asked the other out.

I mean, you don't say, "Hey, I'd really like to get to know you better. How about dinner? You're paying."

Once you're past the delicate stage then you can work something else out.
 

Kurokami

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MASTACHIEFPWN said:
It is common curtosy for the guy to pay.

It leaves a "I'm a nice person" sort of feel.
Not really since everyone does it, it just means that nowadays if you don't you're the feminist jerk. ^_^
 

funguy2121

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I hate Morocco!

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Edit: I believe I said last night in another thread that if I ever claim to be classy or high-minded, I should be corrected immediately. ^Case in point.^

That was meant for one of a cluster of threads entitled "Why do you hate (country X)."

Apologies to all who were trying to engage in sociological discourse.
 

lovetropicana

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Kurokami said:
MASTACHIEFPWN said:
It is common curtosy for the guy to pay.

It leaves a "I'm a nice person" sort of feel.
Not really since everyone does it, it just means that nowadays if you don't you're the feminist jerk. ^_^
I dunno, I recken plenty of the females that have commented so far wouldn't mind splitting the bill
 

drisky

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If I asked her out on first couple of dates, I wouldn't mind paying. But I'd expect fairness at some point in the relationship. I want to make sure the girl wouldn't be just in to me because I'm buying her stuff at some point.
 

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lovetropicana said:
I've been wondering for some time, who pays on a date? If the guy pays, does the girl owe anything? If they go dutch, is that female equality? Is it better for the guy to treat the girl like a lady? What do you guys think?
And if your answer to the poll is "take turns" then who pays the first time, and how do you mutually agree? Does it just happen, or does it need a discussion?
As a girl, I'm always willing to pay. If the guy wants to pay for everything, I usually let him, but I never go somewhere where I wouldn't be willing to pay my share.

Oh, and as far as taking turns, that usually only happens with friends or boy/girlfriends I've been on several dates with, since I it can be reasonably determined that over time the various meals will balance out.
 

CouchCommando

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I usually insist on paying, but don't be a dick about it.
On that note thinking back the most enjoyable dates I've actually had actually ended up turning out dutch.
 

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SvenBTB said:
Generally it should be the guy (and yes, he should treat the girl like a lady no matter who pays). Although sometimes, if it's agreed beforehand, going Dutch is fine (it's hard out there after all, and dates can be pricey). If it isn't discussed beforehand though, it's assumed the guy will pay. That's his job as the man in the relationship.
What do you mean it's his job? A woman is just as capable for paying for the date as the guy. I'd like to think we've grown past these arbitrary gender roles.
sylekage said:
The guy. It leaves a good feeling in the girl if you pay for her food, if you're actualyl trying to date her.

If it's just friends? Screw her, money doesn't grow on trees!
Why can't the girl leave a good feeling in the guy instead?
 

Flare Phoenix

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Whoever askes the other person on the date should pay, regardless of whether they are male or female. If you ask someone out and expect them to pay, it just comes across as if you were trying to get a free meal. This whole "the guy should always pay for the first date" is complete crap. We need to be wooed as well, you know; guy's don't exist purely to acommodate women in the relationship.
 

Ironman126

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In my opinion, whoever asks the other person out. It's stupid to ask someone out and expect that person to pay for both of you. That, or go dutch.
 

Kurokami

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lovetropicana said:
Kurokami said:
MASTACHIEFPWN said:
It is common curtosy for the guy to pay.

It leaves a "I'm a nice person" sort of feel.
Not really since everyone does it, it just means that nowadays if you don't you're the feminist jerk. ^_^
I dunno, I recken plenty of the females that have commented so far wouldn't mind splitting the bill
I don't think any of my friends would have it, but then girls (my friend kind of girls anyway) do tend to be pretty damn pretentious and overly abusive of the power play that is a relationship.
 

Quesa

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My wife made 20k more than I did while we were dating, I paid for everything every time. She wasn't happy about it.
 

Trolldor

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It relates back to sacrifice.

Guy's would go out and hunt and thus demonstrate they can provide, which would make them ideal mates.
Can't exactly hunt anymore, for the most part, so it's about how much money you can throw around. Demonstration of your ability to provide.

Of course with rising incomes and greater equality this becomes a moot point. Maybe.
 

lovetropicana

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jonyboy13 said:
The guy, as it prevents any sort of fake feminism from the girl.
how does it prevent anything? If she was going to be a nasty i-have-teeth-in-my-genitals type paying for her dinner won't stop her (or you might get to the check and find out she already paid), I'm sure genuinely nice females wouldn't treat you differently if you paid or didnt pay o_O