Poll: Who Should Make the First Move?

[Zersy]

It really, really shouldn't matter. I say shouldn't because some girls have it programmed in that the guy MUST make ALL the moves in a relationship.

These girls frustrate me.

Mind you... if a girl has the courage to ask me out, i'm rather impressed and find it very hard to say no.

Spot on

Girls please learn

just because we are Guys doesn't really mean we are the one's who should make the moves

afterall

Girls love Sex just the way guys do the only thing is Guys express it more

and i've actually had a girl say to me "that guy is such a asshole"

i said back in confusion "umm why ? i thought you think he is hot"

she then said this

"Ya but why hasn't He asked me out yet it's been like a month"

i just said in return

"Your a retard thats why"

anyway the points been made clear

 

[Shade Jackrabbit]

opinion

counter-opinion

I understand that it might be a difficult process, but honestly nothing worth having is ever easy. I respect the kind of guy who will work through the difficult insecurities and still ask me out. If they are not that kind of person, then I'm not sure I want to date them. In my experience if I ever make the first move it never works out. I'm not saying that if it felt right I wouldn't ask I guy out, I just respect the type of guy who would ask me out first. Like I said I'm really traditional and I think it just more romantic for thy guy to ask the girl. This is my personal opinion and I really didn't mean to offend anyone with it!

Oh, I wasn't offended. I'm just saying that it's somewhat dangerous under the wrong circumstances. In terms of preference, I personally see it as being more romantic as well, but in terms of emotional damage it just sometimes isn't reasonable to expect or put someone through.

Now then again, patience is a virtue. So under the correct circumstances if the gent is willing and able (emotional and psychological stability is a big factor here) to try and work through his inhibitions while the lady is willing to be patient as he goes through the turmoil, it certainly can work out just fine and perhaps could even serve as a confidence boost to the gent (which given the circumstances is probably much-needed) while being quite romantic as well. And, as you say, nothing worth having is ever easy.

Even so, I retain my thesis; that it's very dependant on the people involved. Obviously this situation is suitable for some, yet not so much for others. There's such a variety of people with differing levels of emotional strength that it's ridiculous to assume (not saying you did, Ridergurl) that there's a right way for everyone.

 

[Ridergurl10]

opinion

counter-opinion

I understand that it might be a difficult process, but honestly nothing worth having is ever easy. I respect the kind of guy who will work through the difficult insecurities and still ask me out. If they are not that kind of person, then I'm not sure I want to date them. In my experience if I ever make the first move it never works out. I'm not saying that if it felt right I wouldn't ask I guy out, I just respect the type of guy who would ask me out first. Like I said I'm really traditional and I think it just more romantic for thy guy to ask the girl. This is my personal opinion and I really didn't mean to offend anyone with it!

Oh, I wasn't offended. I'm just saying that it's somewhat dangerous under the wrong circumstances. In terms of preference, I personally see it as being more romantic as well, but in terms of emotional damage it just sometimes isn't reasonable to expect or put someone through.

Now then again, patience is a virtue. So under the correct circumstances if the gent is willing and able (emotional and psychological stability is a big factor here) to try and work through his inhibitions while the lady is willing to be patient as he goes through the turmoil, it certainly can work out just fine and perhaps could even serve as a confidence boost to the gent (which given the circumstances is probably much-needed) while being quite romantic as well. And, as you say, nothing worth having is ever easy.

Even so, I retain my thesis; that it's very dependant on the people involved. Obviously this situation is suitable for some, yet not so much for others. There's such a variety of people with differing levels of emotional strength that it's ridiculous to assume (not saying you did, Ridergurl) that there's a right way for everyone.

I agree that it's dependent on the people involved. I think you have the right idea, I'm just not sure I agree on how emotionally damaging it is, but I guess I'm not a guy so I'll have to take your word on it.

 

[justnotcricket]

I understand that it might be a difficult process, but honestly nothing worth having is ever easy. I respect the kind of guy who will work through the difficult insecurities and still ask me out. If they are not that kind of person, then I'm not sure I want to date them. In my experience if I ever make the first move it never works out. I'm not saying that if it felt right I wouldn't ask I guy out, I just respect the type of guy who would ask me out first. Like I said I'm really traditional and I think it just more romantic for thy guy to ask the girl. This is my personal opinion and I really didn't mean to offend anyone with it!

I suppose this (having tried both ways of doing things) is kind of where I stand - i do find it somewhat more romantic to be asked out! Having said that, I fully appreciate how gut-wrenchingly awkward it can be to make that first move, and no one gender has to have the monopoly on it...

Gorram it ( i just rewatched my firefly dvds =P ), we should all strap signs onto our backs saying " I fancy you! " as one of my fellow escapist put it in another ( pretty old ) thread.

Wouldn't that be great? Although you'd probably have to include a name, otherwise you could receive some pretty interesting propositions... =D

 

[This-is-Hip-Hop]

Whomever is more comfortable making the first move, should, but I do find it attractive when a Girl is interested in me enough to break the social model and ask me out first.

-This-is-Hip-Hop

 

[inkheart_artist]

As a guy, never expect a girl to make the first move, unless you're like Fabeo or some shit, because it's probably never gonna happen. But it always varies from person to person and relashionship to relashionhsip. Its deffinately welcoming when a girl makes the first move.

 

[Bulletinmybrain]

Extremely shy, and held in... I don't pick up on body expression very well... If a women initiates it? I would be happy.. But then, I am not as much of a soulcrusher like most people.

 

[AkJay]

well, it is the traditional thing to do, plus i have a lot of female friends, and they prefer it if the guys make the first move, so i'm going by that.

 

[INF1NIT3 D00M]

I asked mine out, but apparently she's wanted me for just as long as i've wanted her, so it didnt really matter. I wouldnt have been to wierded out if she asked me.

 

[justnotcricket]

Just looking at the poll results, it seems like I'm not alone here on the fence - rather, I'm in good company! Although if you discount the 'it depends' option it seems like 'the guy' is currently edging out 'the girl'...

Thanks everyone who's posted here so far, this is really interesting! Hope to see lots more discussion... =)

 

[Yog Sothoth]

Sorry if someone already said this, but the person who should make the first move is the one who rolled the highest initiative...

Sorry for that, I had to.....

 

[tthor]

i'd say the girl, but i guess thats just because i'm far too shy to ask a girl out myself ^^;;