Poll: Would you date a transgendered person?

[hazabaza1]

I'd prefer my partner to be genuine to be honest.. It's a lifestyle choice but it would just seem fake to me if I were to date someone who was transgender.

(i'm not calling the act of being transgender fake, so please don't read it as if i'm insulting you)

not a choice...

I think that it is a choice to trade in your penis for a vagina. It's not compulsory or anything.

OT: No, I doubt I would. Bit weird for my tastes.

it's like the choice to breath or not.

I honestly doubt that. I recognise that the emotional side of this is not a choice, and I'm not trying to argue otherwise, but the OP is talking about somebody who actually had the operation from M-F or vice versa. That is a choice.

 

[hazabaza1]

I'd prefer my partner to be genuine to be honest.. It's a lifestyle choice but it would just seem fake to me if I were to date someone who was transgender.

(i'm not calling the act of being transgender fake, so please don't read it as if i'm insulting you)

not a choice...

I think that it is a choice to trade in your penis for a vagina. It's not compulsory or anything.

OT: No, I doubt I would. Bit weird for my tastes.

it's like the choice to breath or not.

I honestly doubt that. I recognise that the emotional side of this is not a choice, and I'm not trying to argue otherwise, but the OP is talking about somebody who actually had the operation from M-F or vice versa. That is a choice.

the thing i don't think you understand is the "choice" to have the GRS is one-like breathing (you may want the surgery, but affording it is another issue, and 2- I don't know a single (although i bet they are out there) trans person who given the opportunity to have the surgery wouldn't jump at it. Most trans people don't begin transition only to get 75% of the way there. Really, they may "choose" not to have GRS because they are older, and only want to live life as complete as possible, or can't afford it.

It's realy not easy to explain, but i have never met a trans person who chooses to go through everything they have to go through only to stop short.

Fair enough. It just seemed like a rather obvious assumption to me but I guess this is more something you need to experience to understand.

 

[BlazeRaider]

I occasionally enjoy some ladyboy porn >
I think that makes my position on the matter clear.

 

[GrimTuesday]

I don't think that I could do it. Its nothing to do with the other person, I'm sure there are plenty of transgender people that I would get along with very well, however, I don't think I could ignore the fact that they used to be a man.

 

[Jonluw]

A while ago I would definitely have said no, and I still probably would, but I've noticed my view on the matter has been starting to change, so I really don't know.

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

Hmm....It would REALLY depend...

*Is a guy*

If the person used to be a guy, but changed to become a girl by the time we started dating, I'd be ok with it. Yeah, it would blow my mind and I'd need to think about it, but I'd probably get over that pretty quick.

As for the other way around, it's a bit more complex.

If I knew they were trans (while still female), then I don't think I'd date them.
If they were female, and then eventually decided to change to male while i was dating them...I don't know. I have no clue what I would do.

FYI, though, I know a FTM trans person who's actually pretty damn cool...And they have a fiance (male), that was dating them LONG before they came out as trans. They're still together and doing fantastic. I applaud them for being able to stick together despite the change.

 

[BloatedGuppy]

FYI, though, I know a FTM trans person who's actually pretty damn cool...And they have a fiance (male), that was dating them LONG before they came out as trans. They're still together and doing fantastic. I applaud them for being able to stick together despite the change.

I actually knew a couple exactly like that too.

(wonders vaguely if it's the same two people)

 

[Burrito With Legs]

Assuming their parts downstairs are fully functional, I don't see any reason why not. If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, then it's probably a duck. Lack of reproductive ability might be a longer-term issue but I would be okay with adopting if there was no other choice.

Yes, but if that duck is completely fabulous and into interior design and designer labels, I don't think that duck and I would be right for each other.

 

[Asita]

Given my strong stance on LGBT rights, I feel kinda hypocritical for saying it, but I probably would not date a transgendered person if I knew that about them. After learning that, I feel I wouldn't be able to look at the person as anything other than biologically male, and I can't help but feel that would push me away. Perhaps ironically, I'm inclined to say that I might contemplate it if the process was more complete, if treatments allowed people undergoing the process to truly become biologically female instead of just mentally and cosmetically. At the procedure's current level though, I would have to say no. It makes me feel like a jerk to say it, and I probably offended someone in my explanation of my view (If so, I sincerely apologize), but that's my perspective on the issue and I feel it is important to be honest about that.

 

[Spy_Guy]

Not in a million years.

If someone told me they were previously male, I would never work up a romantic interest for them.
If someone I was dating told me they were male, then I'd break up with them, because our relationship would be based on a lie.

If we had sexual contact, I would break up, get very angry, then report them for sexual harassment. I had consent based on the belief that they were born female, rather than a restructured male.

The thought is appalling to me, and therefore, I vote no.

 

[Eclectic Dreck]

While my answer might vary where I presented with the scenario, I can say that my gut check reaction is no. The entire process of trans gender sickens me greatly (the medical parts) and my general distaste at the concept in play (likely because it is so alien to my line of thinking) means the person would have a hell of an uphill battle.

Hang out with? Sure, if they're cool. Go out in public with? Not a problem. Have sex with? Now you've lost me.

 

[Yureina]

Oh cool, it's The Escapist's Transgender thread that comes up every 3 months or so! It's the thread where the discussion inevitably turns into a flame war between people who think transgenders are immoral/wrong/etc and transgender people themselves. Oh, and it probably will get about 10 pages of posts.

Don't you love this sort of thing? XD

Anyway, enough amusement for me. As for my opinion... why not? If I like the person, i'd date them. As someone who has had several TG friends in the past, and still some today, I don't have any problems with them at all. They're still people, and most tend to be quite interesting ones at that. :3

So yeah... no problems from me. :3

the thing i don't think you understand is the "choice" to have the GRS is one-like breathing (you may want the surgery, but affording it is another issue, and 2- I don't know a single (although i bet they are out there) trans person who given the opportunity to have the surgery wouldn't jump at it. Most trans people don't begin transition only to get 75% of the way there. Really, they may "choose" not to have GRS because they are older, and only want to live life as complete as possible, or can't afford it.

It's realy not easy to explain, but i have never met a trans person who chooses to go through everything they have to go through only to stop short.

TG's who choose to not "go all the way" with the surgery and stuff are actually quite a bit more common than you might think. What few people seem to grasp is that people who are TG's have a gender dysphoria, not a sexual one. Most TG's i've run into care far less about sex than they do simply being accepted as the identity that they believe themselves to be.

 

[MammothBlade]

Oh cool, it's The Escapist's Transgender thread that comes up every 3 months or so! It's the thread where the discussion inevitably turns into a flame war between people who think transgenders are immoral/wrong/etc and transgender people themselves. Oh, and it probably will get about 10 pages of posts.

Don't you love this sort of thing? XD

Anyway, enough amusement for me. As for my opinion... why not? If I like the person, i'd date them. As someone who has had several TG friends in the past, and still some today, I don't have any problems with them at all. They're still people, and most tend to be quite interesting ones at that. :3

So yeah... no problems from me. :3

Yes, I agree with this.

As someone who is quite fluid in who they can find attractive, I could easily appreciate an MTF for who they are.

 

[Asita]

Not in a million years.

If someone told me they were previously male, I would never work up a romantic interest for them.
If someone I was dating told me they were male, then I'd break up with them, because our relationship would be based on a lie.

If we had sexual contact, I would break up, get very angry, then report them for sexual harassment. I had consent based on the belief that they were born female, rather than a restructured male.

The thought is appalling to me, and therefore, I vote no.

...I sincerely doubt any respectable court would accept that claim of sexual harassment. The sexual advances made were not understood to be unwelcome, consent to sex with this person was given regardless of your perception of your partner, and by all indications the act would be better interpreted as second thoughts after the fact rather than any real legal violation. It's closer to a frivalous lawsuit than anything else.

 

[Yureina]

Yes, I agree with this.

As someone who is quite fluid in who they can find attractive, I could easily appreciate an MTF for who they are.

Are you stalking me by any chance? O_O

[sub]Kidding. [/sub]

 

[OmniscientOstrich]

Given my quite conspicuous dearth of giveafuckability (totally a word) in regard to gender, as long they're parts are working and I'm attracted to them, then I'm game.

 

[BloatedGuppy]

Oh cool, it's The Escapist's Transgender thread that comes up every 3 months or so! It's the thread where the discussion inevitably turns into a flame war between people who think transgenders are immoral/wrong/etc and transgender people themselves. Oh, and it probably will get about 10 pages of posts.

Don't you love this sort of thing? XD

Aww. I wasn't flame baiting, I swear. I tried to keep the OP as boring as possible to avoid exactly that kind of thing.

 

[MammothBlade]

Given my quite conspicuous dearth of giveafuckability (totally a word) in regard to gender, as long their parts are working and I'm attracted to them, then I'm game.

Also, this.

Only thing I can't really stand are beard. No thanks.

Yes, I agree with this.

As someone who is quite fluid in who they can find attractive, I could easily appreciate an MTF for who they are.

Are you stalking me by any chance? O_O

[sub]Kidding. [/sub]

No. Why would you think that?

[sub]Please don't look in your fridge.[/sub]

 

[Psykoma]

Given my quite conspicuous dearth of giveafuckability (totally a word) in regard to gender, as long their parts are working and I'm attracted to them, then I'm game.

Also, this.

Only thing I can't really stand are beard. No thanks.

If a MtF has a beard tell her to get her ass to an electrolysist or laser tech.
It's expensive.
It's torture.
It's so worth it.

 

[Yureina]

Aww. I wasn't flame baiting, I swear. I tried to keep the OP as boring as possible to avoid exactly that kind of thing.

I wasn't accusing you of that. I was just expressing my prediction about how this will turn out. XD

No. Why would you think that?

[sub]Please don't look in your fridge.[/sub]

I seem to see you alot in threads I post in.

*looks in fridge* WHAT THE FUUUUUU-