Poll: Would you date a transgendered person?

[manic_depressive13]

I would not date someone whose skewed perception of gender prompted them to take hormones and undergo risky and expensive surgery. I just don't respect that kind of thing. Having said that, I wouldn't mind dating someone of the same sex as me.

 

[Cowabungaa]

Nope, because I just don't like men. Yes, I know they appear to be women, sometimes in many assets, but in the end they're still men; they have the genes of a man, started out with the reproductive organs of a man and can't get babies as a result.

And no I don't think that's shallow. I don't count not being gay as being shallow. And see it like this; more transgenders for everyone else!

 

[viranimus]

Wow, what a question.

I am not homosexual so I do not date men.

 

[Gmans uncle]

I'm Bisexual anyway, why would that even matter to me?
If I have romantic feelings for someone and I find them attractive I'll date them, male, female, and everything in-between.

 

[Agayek]

Well, there's 2 different ways it could play out.

1) I know about it before I get involved. In this case, the answer is flat out no. I have nothing against transgendered folks, it's just not something I could comfortably ignore. It'd always niggle at the back of my head, and I have absolutely no desire to deal with it.

2) I find out about it afterwards. In this case, it's hard for me to say. I'd like to think that if it was a serious relationship, I'd be willing to deal with it, but something tells me the combination of the feelings of betrayal for not telling me and the squickiness of it all would cause me to terminate the relationship right then and there. I honestly can't say for sure without being in that situation though, so I dunno.

It's not terribly fair, but that's how it's likely to play out.

 

[Knight Captain Kerr]

Yeah but it depends on the person. If i'm attracted to you i'm attacted to you, if not i'm not. As long as we both like each other the rest doesn't really matter.

 

[Monkeyman O'Brien]

Yes, because when you beat people to the ground for being trans and doing something you don't like being them to the ground can't possibly be considered a hate crime. Oh wait, it kinda is.

You do know that there's a difference between calling someone a bigot for not being in a certain group and for saying they'd beat someone to the ground, right? Maybe you don't notice it though. But hey, just so you know, there is a difference.

Just like mentioning that you're being bigoted when you said you'd beat someone to the ground isn't being a whiny minority. Btw in civilized places beating people to the ground isn't what we generally call 'when you disagree with them'.

Yeah, because getting into a relationship with you and waiting until after you have already been physically intimate to tell you can soo just be written off as "doing something you don't like" huh...

 

[Woodsey]

Nope, they'd still have a bloke's body, although I'll happily consider them women, and vice versa.

 

[Da_Vane]

I don't think I could ever look at them and REALLY see any post op as "their new gender". They will always be victims of a mental illness and medical misconduct to me. As such I will treat them with respect and I will be the first to support them in obtaining equal rights and good treatment, but they will never really be their new gender in my mind.

So you don't support them then? This is the very first decision everybody really needs to make when dealing with another human being - the moment you decide they will NEVER be their new gender in your mind, you have undermined their rights. That's like saying you have decided that they will NEVER be a human being in your mind. You don't have to be dating someone to make this decision - it is common courtesy.

You won't know if someone is pre-op or post-op until they tell you or you are close enough to get intimate with them, but you will be able to determine what gender they are and how they should be treated long before that. If your sense of what gender a person is is based on the status of their genitalia, then you are sadly mistaken, because unless you make the habit of wandering naked, this isn't something people normally see.

There are other gender cues, and these gender cues reinforce gender identity. If in doubt, go for the gender cues in the way people are dressed, and other conscious, deliberate choices they are making to reinforce those gender cues. These are simple things that, while they often come across as stereotypical, and trying too hard, are usually done for a reason - just like any other identity cue.

If ANYBODY feels they have the right to decide that someone else will NEVER be something, then perhaps they should be the ones diagnosed with the mental illness. Because they are obviously lacking in the courtesy and empathy required to be a human being, and maybe they should understand and experience what it is like to be treated as if they will NEVER be something that they care about, as much as they desire it. To never be treated as a reasonable person that has the right to share opinions in public on the state of others should suffice in most cases.

 

[Kanova]

Absolutely not, I personally find it disgusting.

 

[Cpu46]

I could get emotionally close to them but probably would never get into intimate relations with them, as in more than friends but less than friends with benefits. Nothing against them it is just a mindset that is really deeply embedded in me. Now lets say in 10-20 years if I had a kid that was pursuing a transgender I would be totally fine with it.

 

[TheRussian]

No, some of us do have standards.

 

[Kinguendo]

Thats... not relevent to what I said. I said you are attracted to female features, NOT feminine behaviours(though that plays a part). Initial attraction is visual, unless you are blind or dating over the internet(in which case it could easily be a guy).

I never mentioned behaviour. Some of them look like chicks[footnote]Or close enough to fool those with weak vision.[/footnote] yet are still considered gay. Look up Chris Crocker for example. I will admit its a fuzzy issue but I stick to my position.

"I mean considering how overwhelmingly feminine an extremely large portion of homosexuals are" - Thats what you said, an extremely large portion... thats why I thought you were talking about behaviour rather than people in drag which is in no way a quality exclusely held by "homosexuals" or even a large portion of them considering Lesbians are homosexuals too and dressing as a woman is kinda... what they do every day.

As I said, being gay is being attracted to features of the same sex... do gay men find women sexually attractive? Do gay women find men sexually attractive?

 

[jayzz911]

I don't think I could ever look at them and REALLY see any post op as "their new gender". They will always be victims of a mental illness and medical misconduct to me. As such I will treat them with respect and I will be the first to support them in obtaining equal rights and good treatment, but they will never really be their new gender in my mind.

So you don't support them then? This is the very first decision everybody really needs to make when dealing with another human being - the moment you decide they will NEVER be their new gender in your mind, you have undermined their rights. That's like saying you have decided that they will NEVER be a human being in your mind. You don't have to be dating someone to make this decision - it is common courtesy.

I see where your coming from, but I don't agree. I'm all for gay rights aswell as transgendered ones but that doesnt mean I have to date them or change my personal opinion when referring to someone's gender. I agree that saying they have a mental illness is a bit overly harsh, but that doesn't mean you have to accept a transgendered as the gender they are becoming. Some people cannot get past the definition of a man or a woman, and like it or not, that's the way it will always be.

 

[UsefulPlayer 1]

I said no because in my mind they would still be a boy in some respect.

I am a heterosexual, so I do not date boys.

 

[Woodsey]

I have a question to those of you that say NOT telling you is a lie...how? It's a choice to unveil bits of a painful past. When you go into a relationship with someone, on that first date, do you describe every sexual encounter you've had, every quirk of your personality, every physical "issue" (be it VD, a cold, etc) you've had?

I am not trying to be argumentative, i am just curious if you expect "full disclosure" from your partner, do you give it back? I realize being trans is a little different, but if you have had regrets, mistakes, trauma happen to you, to you tell the person you're with every minute detail?

if so, good on you!

I'm not entirely sure that revealing intricate and minute details of your entire sexual history is quite the same as letting them know that you were once a man/woman, at the very least. I don't think that's exactly unreasonable. Saying that does not immediately necessitate everything and anything you went through to get to that point, in the same way that telling someone you're on a date with that you have a kid doesn't necessitate delving into your history with your ex.

 

[Andalusa]

Sure, why the hell not? If I find them attractive and I like them, there's no reason not to.

 

[Monkeyman O'Brien]

Yeah, it can. I mean you have no problem writing off beating people into the ground as 'disagreement' so I'm not sure why you're going to call that anything more.

Congratulations. You have just invalidated the very real and very horrific experiences of people who have been the victims of hate crimes.
Nice to know that if a minority does something to deserve a punch in the face then what they actually did does not matter and the other person clearly did it just because of their specific minority.

Beat me to it :0 and btw "trannie" is a derogatory term to most trans people. (not all, but most).

Beat you to saying nothing of worth? Yup. Please don't hang back and try to tag onto someone elses argument. Its really quite sad and does not get you out of the situation you put yourself in.
And no. Trannie is not a derogatory word. If some overly sensative moron wants to take it as such that is their problem however for those of us without persecution complexes it is simply a contraction of the terms Transexual or Transgender since people seem to not even be able to decide themselves which is the "correct" term.

do gay men find women sexually attractive?

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Do gay women find men sexually attractive?

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I really dont know...

 

[kasperbbs]

Nope, theres plenty of girls around here, i doubt i would go for a girl wannabe, not to mention that i would have to put a lot of effort into actually finding one.

 

[Raika]

I think most cisgendered people are just too shallow and superficial to comprehend the concept of 'gender' versus 'sex'. Who are you to say that, for instance, Terri O'Connell is and will always be a man, no matter how much she presents otherwise? What about Chaz Bono? Is he a woman? No, he isn't, and it isn't his fault that his body and his mind didn't initially fit and he managed to do something about it before people like you drove him to suicide like you've driven so many others.

To demand that someone abandon their identity just because you're too happy being ignorant to look past the physical attributes of a person is just asinine, not to mention disgusting and hateful. Suck my dick, I'm a fucking woman.