Poll: Would you date a transgendered person?

[Marmooset]

No.
But I wouldn't date a Flyers or Rangers fan, either. So don't feel too bad.

 

[Jamous]

I'm a guy. I'd date an FTM or MTF, if I was interested in them in that way. I don't really see the issue. :/

 

[Rheinmetall]

Yes.

You kinda... need to add more to your post... =/

I say yes, in the sense that I don't mind, as long as this person has something that I like. After I saw "The Crying Game", I think I became more open minded.

 

[Rheinmetall]

WOW.....I can't believe that I received a moderation warning for giving a short answer(!) This is crazy, and I don't like frequenting in a site with crazy rules.
Goodnight.

 

[deadish]

Sorry, but the fact that the person was formerly a guy doesn't sit quite well with me.

 

[Scorekeeper]

Male here. I would NOT date a MTF (or FTM for that matter). Romance is out of the question if my significant other has a Y chromosome. Nothing personal.

You might want to check quite a few women then - the XXY genetic mutation actually results in females...

I though Klinefelter's syndrome resulted in males...

 

[Crazycat690]

Sure, I go on personality anyway. And looks, have to admit that.... The important part is that I don't choose who I'm dating based on their plumbing.

 

[Jack Rascal]

Dating is harmless so I would date one, but not bed one. I don't mind the idea that the person I'm having a date with was born a woman, but I am uncomfortable of going any further than a date. I need all parts to be, um, "in good working condition". I apologize if that sounds rude, I mean no offense, but that's how I feel.

Just to clarify, I voted "I am a female, and I would NOT date a FTM". I voted thinking "would I consciously date an FTM and consider moving to a serious relationship?" and so I voted no.

 

[The Funslinger]

This is one of those cases of "You want to be X, go right ahead, but it's in no way something I'd want to be a part of".

Exactly. While all the shit they get is wrong, I'm not sexually attracted to them at all. Even if they look perfect, if I know, then that's gone. It's a psychological thing, but not one I'm of a mind to change.

I could happily be friends with one though. The same thing applies to hermaphrodites, too.

 

[Ledan]

Right. I finally figured out what my problem with transgenderism is. I don't think gender matters. Just like ethnicity or sexual orientation. It doesn't matter. You are not your gender, your ethnicity, or sexual orientation. You are independent of these things. They affect you, shape your life to a certain extent, but they are not fundamentally you. They are just aspects of you, and in a perfect world they would not matter one bit.
In a perfect world a gay guy would live a completely normal life, and the fact that he loves men in a sexual manner wouldn't matter. It would be as important as him having brown hair. In a similar manner, ethnicity and gender wouldn't matter.

So my problem with transgenderism is that gender and sex becomes too.... important? Sex is a biological thing. Gender is a social construct. Ethnicity is a biological thing, but its also a social construct.
An African child adopted by German parents become socially German (he thinks and acts like Germans). You could be sexually male but socially a woman(you think like a woman and act like one). But the German African shouldn't attempt to change his skin color, just because he's white culturally. Because then skin color matters, and it doesn't. Similarly, why should someone who is socially of a different gender attempt to change their biology? Then you are implying that your genitalia matters, but it doesn't!

I would be against my friend changing his skin color, just like I would be against my friend changing his genitalia.
The fact that my German friend has dark-skin color doesn't matter, doesn't change who he is. If someone said they find people with dark skin color attractive, it point them his way (depending on who he found sexually attractive) . If someone told me they find people with male genitalia attractive, i'd point them to my other friends way (depending on who he found sexually attractive).
The problem for me occurs when a transgender person thinks that they have to change their biology, just as if a person felt that they HAD to change their skin color. Neither genitalia or skin color matter. Be proud of what you have. By trying to change it you are attaching to much importance to it. Breast size doesn't really matter, neither do skin color, genitalia, hair color, ethnicity, etc.
But I personally have a thing for people of northern Asian ethnicity with female genitalia . 'Course, in the long run it's their personality I stay for.
I know that there is a huge flaw in my argument, but I'm to tired to sit up and figure out how to defend it.
If it doesn't matter, then why wouldn't I date a MTF?
Here is a short version: Because to me personally it matters. And because I feel that being socially male or female isn't binary, there is no such thing as being male or female psychologically. It's just a term we use to define people with certain behaviors. When I say that I'm heterosexual, I mean that I like people who have female genitalia, not people who have the socially defined female psychology. A transgender person is still biologically male, his psychology doesn't matter when it comes to sexual compatibility, his genitalia does.
Since I'm hetero, the person I date must for me must first be biologically male. After that I can find out if we're socially compatible.
Finally: I don't know what kind of brain I have. I don't think my masculinity or femininity should matter enough for me to change my body, and I don't think anyone should let it define them.

 

[Agow95]

I have nothing against people who would, but I wouldn't date a woman who used to be a man, it is a bit too gay in my opinion, even if they are physically female, it's just that they used to be a man.

 

[Goodbye.Kitty]

I am male, and would date a m2f transgendered person without reservation. (and have in the past) I'm afraid that I don't have time to write a deep and detailed explanation of my reasoning, except to say that I fully support the right of people to decide 'who' they are and how they wish to present themselves to the world. I don't consider myself gay, but then again, I don't consider m2f persons "male" even pre-op. It's what's on the inside that counts.

 

[Slayer_2]

I wouldn't want to be with someone so insecure and shallow that they feel the need to undergo hideous mutilations and lengthy hormone "treatments" to attempt a sex change. Instead they just come off across as a grotesque mix of two genders. If I craved dick, I'd go gay. Since I prefer vag, I'll stick with (and in) that as long as it keeps working for me. I'm not being transphobic, I'm judging your personality based off of your actions, which is completely fair and reasonable. Be happy with the body you have, unless you have some mutation or crippling injury, in which case, my sympathy.

 

[DudeistBelieve]

No. I would not. A "mTf" transgender is just a man with an unfortunate gender confusion who, instead of being given psychiatric help by his society was set lose to surgically mutilate himself.

Transgender is a different thing from homosexuality or bisexuality entirely despite what political correctness would have you believe. The only negative effects of sexual orientation are those stigmas created by bigoted members of society. For that reason, though they are abnormal (statistically out of the ordinary) mental states, they are in no way mental disorders, hurt nobody, and should be accepted. However, transgender is an abnormal mental state which causes the sufferer to hire a person to physically mutilate them. Ultimately, yes, it is their choice and if we took no actions to hinder people's choices: sure. However, a person suffering from documented depression is not allowed to purchase firearms because society has taken it upon themselves to stop them from doing what they want to do (end their life). Why would it be so wrong for society to stop transgenders from doing what they want (mutilate themselves irreparably)?

However, I guess this is a bit of a digression from the exact topic at hand but before I get back into a concise answer I will say this: I don't dislike transgender people. They have an unfortunate condition and I feel sorry for them.

However, first of all, an "mTf" is just a man who had his dick and balls lopped off and as a heterosexual male I would not be with another man, and second, I have dealt with too many mentally unstable people in my life up to this point. Not taking on another one.

I normally would not touch a post like this with a 40 foot pole, wwwwaaayyyyy to many opportunities for me to get in trouble so I won't outright argue with you about how I feel your viewpoint is incorrect...

That said, I just sincerely need to know the answer to this, because this is the sole reason I found your particular post so interesting... You do realize to a self-accepting trans-person the most inflammatory thing you said was "I feel sorry for them.", right?

in all serious, not flame bait, I probably won't even respond to your reply, but I gots to know this.

 

[llubtoille]

heh "desperately lonely" I must be, but not "anyone who would have me",
there's got to be a reasonable level of attraction and compatibility / friendliness.
I don't think it would be a deal breaker if someone was transgender however.

 

[Reggie Rock]

I wouldn't want to be with someone so insecure and shallow that they feel the need to undergo hideous mutilations and lengthy hormone "treatments" to attempt a sex change. Instead they just come off across as a grotesque mix of two genders. If I craved dick, I'd go gay. Since I prefer vag, I'll stick with (and in) that as long as it keeps working for me. I'm not being transphobic, I'm judging your personality based off of your actions, which is completely fair and reasonable. Be happy with the body you have, unless you have some mutation or crippling injury, in which case, my sympathy.

Being trans isn't rooted in insecurity. It's a misalignment of physical body and your brains gender. If being happy with your body was how everyone lived, then people wouldn't undergo weight-loss surgery, lift weights (extensively), have other plastic surgeries, etc... many people are not trans undergo surgery to "correct" issues they have with themselves.

The diet industry is a billion (probably multi-billion) dollar a year industry. People are most definitely NOT content with their bodies... even people in shape are not completely, look at the fitness industry... another HUGE industry.

Life and existence is not so black and white as many people make it out to be, it would be nice if it were, but alas it is not.

Your brains gender? That's ridiculous. You either have a Y chromosome or you don't. You can feel whatever gender you like, but your brain has no gender just as it has no race nor sexuality.An FTM is still a female and nothing can currently change that. To me, a gender is definite.

Dont get me wrong, if i meet anyone who happens to be transgender, i'll treat them the same as anyone else. They're people. I'll call them their preferred gender, but i'll never agree with it, Nor will i ever be attracted to them.

I will get so much shit for saying this, but sexuality absolutely 100% is a choice.
Regardless of what anyone may have you believe, you aren't born with a sexuality. You develop a sexuality through experience and depending on how you review those experiences, you choose which path feels right to you.

 

[Rayne870]

no i would not, the issue isn't who they are or how they look or what gender they formerly were, none of that really matters to me. the issue for me is that they would not be able to bear my children, and the only reason i have to date, or more accurately have my fiance is so that we can one day combine our DNA and make two children.

so wait, you are with your SO so you can procreate? not because you love one another? What if you found out one of you was sterile? would you leave and find someone else?

No, im with this particular SO because i love her, i chose to have a SO so i could procreate. if either of us is sterile we go into alternative forms of procreation if possible, or we consider adoption, but only because we have an emotional investment, i would not begin a relationship with someone that was sterile.

Also both of us are very much capable of having children and i find "what if" questions to be a little simple. What if either of us gets hit by a rogue meteor, well i hope the surviving member finds another life mate.

 

[floppylobster]

As much as I'm okay with anybody being anybody if it doesn't do it for me, it never will.

I mean, if I fell in love then maybe, but the older I get, the less I feel love.

I'm the same with food (not to trivialize a person's gender). But if I know there are baked beans in anything I eat, I cannot enjoy it, no matter how much I like the look of it.

I blame my brain, it has some deep-seated preferences and phobias that I inherited but don't fully understand. One of which is a fear of buttons, so go figure. I can't explain it, but I know what I like. And I know what works for me. Transgender just does not 'float my boat', but more power to people being who they are despite the pressures of others to be what they're suppose to.

 

[ElPatron]

You could equally "cure" someone's fantasy that they were a dog by doing surgery to make them more dog like and calling them a dog. You would however not have made them a dog, nor would you have fixed the screwed up part of their brain that made them think they were a dog. In fact, rather than help them, you have reinforced their illness and just hidden the symptoms.

Except the part where the person really has a dog brain and trying to mess around with what a person is is just wrong.

 

[Erana]

If they're right for me as a person, then fine. After all, I'm not looking to be getting into anyone's pants as it is. I just want someone I can enjoy as a person and who will do right by me and my family.

I don't like identifying people by their genders much, anyway.