Would I ever? Yes, under most circumstances. No one I know is married (yet), so I can't speak for that, but I have pursued taken women before, as sleezy as it makes me feel at times.
Poll: Would you ever pursue someone who is taken?
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It depends. How are hostage negotiations holding up? Do we know where the kidnapped person is being held?
Oh, you're talking about relationships? Meh. I'd never, if only because I'd never anyway. I'm better off without any of that messy stuff.
Oh, you're talking about relationships? Meh. I'd never, if only because I'd never anyway. I'm better off without any of that messy stuff.
If the guy she's with is abusive or just a **** in general, I might.
Otherwise, hell no, she should not betray the trust of her boyfriend and neither will I tempt her to.
sersiously, I've been there, and I do not wish it upon any other person.
Otherwise, hell no, she should not betray the trust of her boyfriend and neither will I tempt her to.
sersiously, I've been there, and I do not wish it upon any other person.
If these "ladies" are showing interest in you while with other men, then what makes you think they would not follow this set pattern when they are then your girlfriend. And women who dump men only when they have the next vic...I mean guy set up...well there are certain words for those types of females.Brawndo said:
When people show you who they are, believe them. They know themselves better then you.
Unfortunetly, I already have. Lots of times.
When I was a teenager it was kind of a hobby for me to go after girls who had a boyfriend.
Yes, I know I'm a horrible person... Some of the boyfriends were even good friends to me.
When I was a teenager it was kind of a hobby for me to go after girls who had a boyfriend.
Yes, I know I'm a horrible person... Some of the boyfriends were even good friends to me.
I've done this once, and I felt seriously horrible about it afterwards. I would never, ever do it again. Full disclosure: I've been cheated on in the past, and the thought of inflicting that type of emotional hurt on someone else (regardless of their personal character) is totally soul-crushing to me.
I kindof....maybe...am =P
She seems a little unsure of her current boyfriend situation though, so for the moment I'm just happy to spend a lot of time with her, but the 'signals' are definitely there, both ways. All my friends can tell that I like her and are fairly certain she likes me. However, that said, I do have SOMETHING of a moral compass, and I will not kiss or date her or anything like that while she's still with her current boyfriend. I've been on the receiving end of similar treatment, where, if your girl decides she's not interested in you any more, and decides to leave, it's nowhere near as bad as if she were to cheat on you. That's just cowardly.
She seems a little unsure of her current boyfriend situation though, so for the moment I'm just happy to spend a lot of time with her, but the 'signals' are definitely there, both ways. All my friends can tell that I like her and are fairly certain she likes me. However, that said, I do have SOMETHING of a moral compass, and I will not kiss or date her or anything like that while she's still with her current boyfriend. I've been on the receiving end of similar treatment, where, if your girl decides she's not interested in you any more, and decides to leave, it's nowhere near as bad as if she were to cheat on you. That's just cowardly.
I have recently. The girl's boyfriend was a dick, so I really had no qualms with it. He ended up cheating on her, and I was right there with my arms wide open.
Ahh... She was *****.
Ahh... She was *****.
As my mother always said `If they will cheat WITH you, they will cheat ON you`.
I met my boyfriend while I was still with my ex, and I really liked him, but I didn't do anything with him. I broke up with my ex (for other more complicated reasons, but the relationship was dead, trust me), and waited a month before going out with my boyfriend.
I still got accused of cheating, so I may as well have, but thats not the kind of person I am.
I met my boyfriend while I was still with my ex, and I really liked him, but I didn't do anything with him. I broke up with my ex (for other more complicated reasons, but the relationship was dead, trust me), and waited a month before going out with my boyfriend.
I still got accused of cheating, so I may as well have, but thats not the kind of person I am.
There are seven billion + people on the planet so odds are you'll find one of the billions of women whom you find attractive and who also is single. Keep on looking dude, you can find what you're looking for. You may just need to open up to the possibilities of online dating.
Yes. Under any and all circumstances except (there should be an option for this) if she was with a friend of mine. If they were serious she wouldn't be sleeping with me. I'm not the one doing something wrong (unless I get her very drunk or she's with a friend of mine, hence the exception) so why should I abstain from trying?
Well, I have done, and it was a relationship that I have no regrets about, but we'd both known each other a long time and were more or less in love with one another (and I only had a month or so left before I left the country, so it was kind of a 'now or never' kind of thing). I do wish I hadn't hurt a friend in the process though.
Oh, and my current girlfriend. She had a boyfriend but was clearly flirting with me, and despite my complete denseness over the matter for the next few months (partly intentional, since my last relationship had been with somebody who was taken and I didn't have any intention of doing it again), I eventually caught on, and we got together as soon as he dumped her (we later found out he intended to take her back later, although I have no idea what his logic was on that one). That one kind of balances out karma-wise though, since he was an abusive bastard who wasn't fit to so much as stand in the same room as her.
...I was originally going to write "Of course not, unless there were some pretty convincing reasons behind doing so," but then I looked at my answer and realized that it's probably easier to stop justifying it and making excuses and just say "yes."
Oh, and my current girlfriend. She had a boyfriend but was clearly flirting with me, and despite my complete denseness over the matter for the next few months (partly intentional, since my last relationship had been with somebody who was taken and I didn't have any intention of doing it again), I eventually caught on, and we got together as soon as he dumped her (we later found out he intended to take her back later, although I have no idea what his logic was on that one). That one kind of balances out karma-wise though, since he was an abusive bastard who wasn't fit to so much as stand in the same room as her.
...I was originally going to write "Of course not, unless there were some pretty convincing reasons behind doing so," but then I looked at my answer and realized that it's probably easier to stop justifying it and making excuses and just say "yes."
If you're going to pursue a taken person, don't expect to make a lasting relationship with them. It will only end badly. Once a cheater, always a cheater is the rule, rather than the exception. If you're going for the "hit it and quit it" type relationship, then that's all well and good, if you're looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend, well, what goes around comes around.
Because when you pursue a taken person, you send her two messages:
--I am ok with you dating two guys at once, as long as one of them is me.
--I expect you to trade up to whomever makes you happier, regardless of circumstances.
I--personally--want long term and stable. You don't GET long term and stable in this way; once she ditches her guy for you, you have already guaranteed that she will prepare to ditch you for someone else.
If you like 'em disposable, fine with you, otherwise, no.
--I am ok with you dating two guys at once, as long as one of them is me.
--I expect you to trade up to whomever makes you happier, regardless of circumstances.
I--personally--want long term and stable. You don't GET long term and stable in this way; once she ditches her guy for you, you have already guaranteed that she will prepare to ditch you for someone else.
If you like 'em disposable, fine with you, otherwise, no.
I have tried (and succeeded) before. I like to say that then, I was stupid. I didn't really care because I never saw what it was like to be in the other person's position. Then, I wonder if it was worth it, and it wasn't. There are other people in the world, lots of which who are single. People who are nice and attractive.
I feel really bad when someone tries to even flirt with my girlfriend--I know she won't do anything, but the idea gets at me. If I've made someone feel the way that I feel or similar, it wasn't worth it to put someone through that.
I feel really bad when someone tries to even flirt with my girlfriend--I know she won't do anything, but the idea gets at me. If I've made someone feel the way that I feel or similar, it wasn't worth it to put someone through that.