Poll: Would you ever pursue someone who is taken?
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I couldn't... I'd hate it if I was with a girl, and a guy did that too me... In fact, that would really wind me up! I couldn't do that to another guy, even if I didn't like him all that much!
No.
However, I may stay close as a personal friend and if the relationship shows signs of cracking or breaking down I might not stop it.
However, I may stay close as a personal friend and if the relationship shows signs of cracking or breaking down I might not stop it.
I did this accidentally once (I didn't know he was taken), and to my credit, HE started it. Once I found out, I cut off all contact.
That being said, it would depend on the situation. If I know they're taken, I would never initiate things. But if I happen to not like the person they're dating and they start something with me...I mean, I wouldn't actively pursue them, but I'd probably flirt back.
That being said, it would depend on the situation. If I know they're taken, I would never initiate things. But if I happen to not like the person they're dating and they start something with me...I mean, I wouldn't actively pursue them, but I'd probably flirt back.
Wise Wise Wise Wise words.JesterRaiin said:Yes if she wouldn't be 100% happy with her current relationship and there would be some chemistry between us.Brawndo said:
There's this saying about love and war...
By the way...
If you managed to steal her away, what chances are for her to repeat this in the future ?
I persued and admited by feelings to my current girlfriend while she was taken. She was very unhappy with her boyfriend, but i made a few things clear:
1. You cant run from him to me, you gotta give it a month before we should date, before that we should be friends and see if you still feel like we should date.
2. No weirdness, if you arnt happy, even if you never get with me, fix it. Be good to yourself for you, not so you can date someone else.
Remember kids, girls that cheat with you will cheat on you.
I dunno how i feel about this. I said some things, made no pressure and didnt advocate her breaking up with him. It just kinda happened. We waited a month, and then we dated. Its been nice so far. I think it works. Just be carefull.
Sounds like a sure-fire way of getting punched in the fact and being called a scumbag, in my opinion. How confident in you would that woman be if you won her over by not caring whether she was in a relationship or not? How confident would you be knowing she can quite easily cheat on her boyfriends?Brawndo said:
Trust is a big thing.
I don't really know how to describe my feelings on this. I do not actively pursue women who are involved in relationships. However, if the relationship is bad, then I wouldn't have any problem letting her know that if she wants a change, I'm up for it. I guess that's the best way I can describe it. Although that seems a little more on the yes side than what I actually mean.
Oh well.
Oh well.
Dennis Reynolds isn't my idol for nothing!
so yes I would, unless it was marriage because they've made the commitment and I'd feel like a dick if I broke it.
so yes I would, unless it was marriage because they've made the commitment and I'd feel like a dick if I broke it.
Yes, you have to look after your... wait, you mean "taken" as in "seeing someone else", not as in "kidnapped by a rival clan", don't you?
'eh, too late to change my vote now, but, no, if a girl's seeing a guy, that means she likes him, this isn't some movie where women are inexplicably going out with men they hate for plot convenience. If she wanted to be with you, she'd be with you, wouldn't she?
No reason you shouldn't hover around like a vulture waiting for them to break up, though.
'eh, too late to change my vote now, but, no, if a girl's seeing a guy, that means she likes him, this isn't some movie where women are inexplicably going out with men they hate for plot convenience. If she wanted to be with you, she'd be with you, wouldn't she?
No reason you shouldn't hover around like a vulture waiting for them to break up, though.
Relationships, however troublesome, are not to be violated. Besides. If you go after a taken woman, and she turns away from her boyfriend and onto you, how long do you think you'll last before you start arguing over whose turn it is to do the dishes, and she lets herself be whisked away by the next 'exciting' new face?
If you have any success in taking a taken woman, it means other people will be successful in taking her from you. If you have any respect for the woman, for the concept of relationships, and for yourself, you'd stay safely away.
If you have any success in taking a taken woman, it means other people will be successful in taking her from you. If you have any respect for the woman, for the concept of relationships, and for yourself, you'd stay safely away.
I've tried back in high school with a girl that was clearly about to end the relationship anyway. still left a bad taste in my soul though.
I did, and to a certain success I might add.
It was under circumstances, her ex was srsly controlling and really making her unhappy, so I white knighted her out.
Never a married woman, ever.
It was under circumstances, her ex was srsly controlling and really making her unhappy, so I white knighted her out.
Never a married woman, ever.
I wouldn't say that makes you "True Neutral" so much as "a self-centered d-bag." At the risk of a flame warning, but seriously, we're talking about breaking up a relationship based on what you want. How else does a halfway decent person describe it *without* coming off as flaming?TheDarkEricDraven said:
Absolutely not. Having been on the receiving end of that once--where someone else was going after my SO at the time and eventually that led to me getting cheated on and eventually dumped for the other person--I wouldn't want to risk inflicting that sort of thing on anyone else.