Poll: You're a virgin, would you rather your first time be with another virgin or someone with experience?
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Well, I doubt having us both be virgins would accomplish anything, other than making things more awkward. At least if the other person was experienced they'd know what to expect. I learn more, they aren't left disappointed. Win win
Someone experienced. I don't want a girl to lose her viginity to someone who doesn't know anything about how to make it pleasurable.
I would actually much rather stay a virgin. I don't see why society has such an obsession with sex. It really boggles the mind.
I don't see any real value in the act of sex as I do not intend to reproduce.
I don't see any real value in the act of sex as I do not intend to reproduce.
A good experienced person will lead you into it like a teacher and will not expect you to preform expertly. They will not laugh at you and will turn you into better person sexually. A virgin may very well be clueless on this and it will lead to a bad first time on both sides.
Plus, someone who has had sex has already HAD sex. They wont get ultra pissed if it sucks because it wasn't their first time. Also because they are educated sexually they could make your first time very very good. Also you can usually rely on them to use protective measures correctly such as birth control and condoms.
At least thats what I think. I have never taken a virgin and I don't think I want that responsibility. I recall what I was like after I lost mine... the clinginess, the false love, admiration, the undignified.... huh, where was I? Anyway, I did and prefer someone who knows what they are doing. Especially when doing it wrong can pop out a baby.
Plus, someone who has had sex has already HAD sex. They wont get ultra pissed if it sucks because it wasn't their first time. Also because they are educated sexually they could make your first time very very good. Also you can usually rely on them to use protective measures correctly such as birth control and condoms.
At least thats what I think. I have never taken a virgin and I don't think I want that responsibility. I recall what I was like after I lost mine... the clinginess, the false love, admiration, the undignified.... huh, where was I? Anyway, I did and prefer someone who knows what they are doing. Especially when doing it wrong can pop out a baby.
A virgin, easily...
...I watch enough videos and practice enough that I'd like to think I have some idea what the hell I'm doing, but I'd still like the other to be oblivious to the fact that I'm pretty much stabbing in the dark...
...I watch enough videos and practice enough that I'd like to think I have some idea what the hell I'm doing, but I'd still like the other to be oblivious to the fact that I'm pretty much stabbing in the dark...
That doesn't happen to every girl and I've never heard of anyone having to squeal in pain either. The hymen can break because of other things too.BakaSmurf said:
OP: I chose experience in the poll but I lost mine to a virgin and it wasn't that bad. Don't get me wrong, the sex wasn't very good, but we had been together a while and it was nice to be each other's first. It is awkward though, a lot of fumbling and second guessing yourself.
Yeah thats a bit flippping dramatic `Extreme pain`, it hurt less than a grazed knee.Colour-Scientist said:
Also, I dont know anyone who bled. I didn't.
It's really not a big deal.
OT: I lost mine with another virgin, which was good because back then I was immature and thought being a virgin was important, when now I realise it really isn't. My boyfriend now wasn't a virgin when I met him, and before I lost mine I might have been bothered by that because I thought it was a big deal.
No way to say this without sounding like I'm bragging, but...
I lost mine to someone with experience. I didn't tell her it was my first time until after, when she asked me how I'd gotten so good at it. She didn't believe me.
In answer to the question though, I'd have still chosen someone with experience. That way, she could tell me if I was doing anything wrong/badly, so I could fix it. Would rather be told I'm doing it wrong than think I'm doing it right.
I lost mine to someone with experience. I didn't tell her it was my first time until after, when she asked me how I'd gotten so good at it. She didn't believe me.
In answer to the question though, I'd have still chosen someone with experience. That way, she could tell me if I was doing anything wrong/badly, so I could fix it. Would rather be told I'm doing it wrong than think I'm doing it right.
I lost my virginity to another virgin. Oddly, I think I was the one in more pain than she was.
I'm kind of torn on the whole subject. I liked the kind of mutual clumsiness about the whole thing the first time I did it...but there was some awkwardness and some pain too that lessened the whole thing. The very next girl I slept with was also a virgin, and being the more 'experienced' one and her being very comfortable in her own skin meant we had an amazing time.
Honestly, if you're comfortable with that person and confident in yourself, then it should be something great regardless.
I get a little sad though when most people I know lost their virginity to some random guy/girl on a night-out and don't even remember it. Sadface.
I'm kind of torn on the whole subject. I liked the kind of mutual clumsiness about the whole thing the first time I did it...but there was some awkwardness and some pain too that lessened the whole thing. The very next girl I slept with was also a virgin, and being the more 'experienced' one and her being very comfortable in her own skin meant we had an amazing time.
Honestly, if you're comfortable with that person and confident in yourself, then it should be something great regardless.
I get a little sad though when most people I know lost their virginity to some random guy/girl on a night-out and don't even remember it. Sadface.
You confuse obsession and biological compulsion.Liquidacid23 said:
One is natural, the other is a potential problem.
To be obsessed with breathing one would have to focus a good deal of their concious effort on the act of breathing alone, savouring each breath above and beyond what is vitally necessary. To hold it up as some mystical method to making yourself a better person by doing it in a certain way.
Now imagine everyone did this, it was sensationalised by the media and held up on a pedestal like some sort of unwritten convention.
Now imagine you're the only person who doesn't feel this way about societies view on breathing. Doesn't the world look strange to you now?
Now you see where my view on sex comes from. It is not some mystic arcane right, it is not some piece of mighty knowledge passed onto man by an all powerful sky-daddy.
Is it really so hard to believe that someone doesn't get why the mere act of procreation is regarded as one of the single most important things in a species that has long since advanced beyond the stage where large families are a requirement for survival.