Poll: You're a virgin, would you rather your first time be with another virgin or someone with experience?
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Definitely someone with some experience. The best part about my first time having sex was how open minded and helpful my partner was. Clear explanations of what she liked and didn't like, how much was too much, how much was not enough, etc. Another virgin might have some bullcrap in his/her head about he/she is "supposed" to like versus what he/she actually likes, and you don't really get to figure that out in the first go. If both participants are virgins, there's so much emotional baggage about how it should be that it could potentially be very distracting. If the experienced person knows you're a virgin, there's some understanding there that you're not going to great.
Honestly, this isn't something I could even bring myself to care about. What matters to me is that I care about the person and that person cares about me. I wouldn't want to choose my sex partner over some stupid reason like this.
Having sex with a virgin may sound like an advantage because the other person lacks the experience you lack too. However is this a good thing? You wont look like a fool in front of someone who is better at it, but if one of you have experience you can at least get some pointers. A common problem in sexual relationships, especially for the girl is that she doesn't know her body well enough to know what she likes or what she should feel. With a girl lacking experience this could still feel OK for the guy, but the girl might not feel comfortable and this can be devastating for the entire relationship.. However this is individual. If you are confident it wouldn't be too bad to pick one with experience, if you're insecure then a virgin might be better. Don't think too much about it, be casual about it and focus more on the relationship than the sex. A good relationship can survive bad sex better than a bad relationship.
Having sex with a virgin may sound like an advantage because the other person lacks the experience you lack too. However is this a good thing? You wont look like a fool in front of someone who is better at it, but if one of you have experience you can at least get some pointers. A common problem in sexual relationships, especially for the girl is that she doesn't know her body well enough to know what she likes or what she should feel. With a girl lacking experience this could still feel OK for the guy, but the girl might not feel comfortable and this can be devastating for the entire relationship.. However this is individual. If you are confident it wouldn't be too bad to pick one with experience, if you're insecure then a virgin might be better. Don't think too much about it, be casual about it and focus more on the relationship than the sex. A good relationship can survive bad sex better than a bad relationship.
To me it doesn't matter, as long as I love him and the feeling is mutual.
I'd hope he wouldn't compare me to his exes, that's a pretty dickbag thing to do. Or if I'm not as good as his exes, keep shush about it.
You can't expect someone who is a virgin to be fantastic in bed after all.
I'd hope he wouldn't compare me to his exes, that's a pretty dickbag thing to do. Or if I'm not as good as his exes, keep shush about it.
You can't expect someone who is a virgin to be fantastic in bed after all.
Lost mine to someone experienced, but I could've gone either way with it.
Either way, I think the question is wrong. You can think about which you would "prefer" in a hypothetical sense, but in real life it's more about who the person is and what kind of person they are, and how good your chemistry with them is.
And for all those people who chose "virgin" because they think there's something inherently better or "more pure" or more virtuous or some shit about a virgin, I feel bad for you. That's an archaic religious-based view which assumes that there's something inherently impure about being sexually active. Such an unhealthy way of thinking.
Either way, I think the question is wrong. You can think about which you would "prefer" in a hypothetical sense, but in real life it's more about who the person is and what kind of person they are, and how good your chemistry with them is.
And for all those people who chose "virgin" because they think there's something inherently better or "more pure" or more virtuous or some shit about a virgin, I feel bad for you. That's an archaic religious-based view which assumes that there's something inherently impure about being sexually active. Such an unhealthy way of thinking.
One thing that's great about girls who are experienced -- not all of them, but a lot -- they love to teach.Ultratwinkie said:
Less chances of something going wrong if an experienced person is involved. On the other hand, being on the same "level" leaves less room for embarrassment.
My first significant other was a virgin as well but looking back now many troubles and difficulties in the beginning could have been avoided if one of us had been more experienced.
The whole debate is irrelevant, though, as it isn't like you usually choose these things anyway.
My first significant other was a virgin as well but looking back now many troubles and difficulties in the beginning could have been avoided if one of us had been more experienced.
The whole debate is irrelevant, though, as it isn't like you usually choose these things anyway.
<3TizzytheTormentor said:
Experienced. I know of two virgins who had to have operations after they had sex because the girl's pussy was so tight that it caused the guy major injury.
My first time was virgin to virgin, it made it a lot more emotional and felt much more romantic that we were both each others first.
Admittedly kind of awkward but we got into it fairly quickly and it was pretty good especially for a first.
I would say it depends whether you're in it for the sex, which physically could be better with someone who knows what there doing, although just because someone isn't a virgin doesn't mean they are any good, but emotionally it felt great both being virgins.
Admittedly kind of awkward but we got into it fairly quickly and it was pretty good especially for a first.
I would say it depends whether you're in it for the sex, which physically could be better with someone who knows what there doing, although just because someone isn't a virgin doesn't mean they are any good, but emotionally it felt great both being virgins.
I lost my virginity to someone with experience, and i learned a lot from it.
People who vote "Virgin" because they're afraid of making a fool of themselves: You just won't learn that way, and you're not doing yourself a favor. There is no shame in having a first time, and you learn quicker the other way.
.oO(for the curious people, my first time was with a girl 9 years older than me. That's some experience, i tell you)
People who vote "Virgin" because they're afraid of making a fool of themselves: You just won't learn that way, and you're not doing yourself a favor. There is no shame in having a first time, and you learn quicker the other way.
.oO(for the curious people, my first time was with a girl 9 years older than me. That's some experience, i tell you)
And this is why you read the comments. It saves you time typing something that was already typed by another like minded person.Screamarie said:
Thanks for saving me 20 less seconds of my life until I get carple tunnle. Thanks
Agreed. Also because I'd prefer someone who knew how all my parts worked rather than someone who was totally clueless.bojackx said:
And actually, I have some experience with this. My first time with another woman, she was experienced (and I was a virgin, obviously) so that went really well. On the other hand, my first time with a guy was with someone fairly inexperienced (I didn't ask if he was a virgin, and he didn't say anything about his experience either way, but if he wasn't he definitely wasn't very experienced) was awkward and it took a few tries before we really had a handle on how to best accomplish mutual satisfaction.
So yeah, if I was cursed with virginity again, then I'd seek out someone with experience to de-hymenize me.
I'd rather it was with someone I care about, and who cares about me. The rest will take care of itself.
AHAHAHA! The joke's on you, because I actually AM a virgin! GWAHAHAHA!
Heheheh...
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But in all seriousness, I'd rather have the experience with another curious, 'untainted' individual. If I'm gonna look like a total idiot boning someone, might as well do it with someone who's just as dumb as I am.
Heheheh...
*sniff*
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But in all seriousness, I'd rather have the experience with another curious, 'untainted' individual. If I'm gonna look like a total idiot boning someone, might as well do it with someone who's just as dumb as I am.
Virgins suck at sex. It's true. That's why Im happy my first time was with someone who knew more then me. That way we can each get something out of it.
I lost mine when she lost hers, and let me tell you; That was pretty special, but also pretty unpleasant. as in, bloody. we tried again later with succes.
Someone attractive, nothing else matters.
Probably someone experienced though, it'd just be far easier. I'm not a guy who really cares what someone else is thinking so how they judged me wouldn't really matter, I'm not the one who gets the shit sex.
Probably someone experienced though, it'd just be far easier. I'm not a guy who really cares what someone else is thinking so how they judged me wouldn't really matter, I'm not the one who gets the shit sex.
I find it so funny that your avatar is a cherry (at least it looks like it). It's so appropriate for this discussion xDMonoochrom said:
To answer the question though, another virgin.