I'll just copy what I put in the Pro Choice vs Pro Life thread;
If I found out tomorrow that I was pregnant I would almost definately have a termination. I'm not saying that I might not feel different in the actual circumstance, but I do think it's unlikely. There are several reasons for this;
1)I'm unemployed, and struggling to find work. As such, I can barely afford to live as it is; to add another life onto that budget would be a nightmare. I want to at least have a job before I start thinking about bringing someone into this world.
2)My partner and I aren't in a position where we can provide a stable home yet. I live with my mother and I wouldn't dream of using her willingness to let me live here while I look for work just so I could get a live in babysitter. My partner lives in a one bedroom flat; I don't feel it's anywhere near enough room for two adults and a baby to live in even temporarily. And while on the subject of my partner, I've already discussed this with him at length, and he says that he completely understands my reasons and will support me no matter what choice I might make in the future. So please don't use the 'what about the father' argument on me, because I am thinking about him in all this.
3)This is probably my main reason. It's not that I don't want to become a mother. I know that eventually I will want and will have a child of my own, because I'm already getting 'broody' moments. I'm not even scared of the prospect of giving birth (to tell the truth I'm more scared of that needle they put in your hand). But when I think about living in my current situation, but with another human being that's completely and utterly dependent on me to look after it, feed it properly and make sure it's healthy and safe all of the time, the idea physically makes me feel sick with worry and nerves, and I can't even imagine how terrified I'd feel if I were actually pregnant. Not every woman leaps with joy upon the discovery that they're pregnant, and this reaction to me is a sign that I'm not yet ready to have a child. When my body feels ill at the prospect of having a baby, I'm going to listen to it because it's trying to tell me something.
If I found out tomorrow that I was pregnant I would almost definately have a termination. I'm not saying that I might not feel different in the actual circumstance, but I do think it's unlikely. There are several reasons for this;
1)I'm unemployed, and struggling to find work. As such, I can barely afford to live as it is; to add another life onto that budget would be a nightmare. I want to at least have a job before I start thinking about bringing someone into this world.
2)My partner and I aren't in a position where we can provide a stable home yet. I live with my mother and I wouldn't dream of using her willingness to let me live here while I look for work just so I could get a live in babysitter. My partner lives in a one bedroom flat; I don't feel it's anywhere near enough room for two adults and a baby to live in even temporarily. And while on the subject of my partner, I've already discussed this with him at length, and he says that he completely understands my reasons and will support me no matter what choice I might make in the future. So please don't use the 'what about the father' argument on me, because I am thinking about him in all this.
3)This is probably my main reason. It's not that I don't want to become a mother. I know that eventually I will want and will have a child of my own, because I'm already getting 'broody' moments. I'm not even scared of the prospect of giving birth (to tell the truth I'm more scared of that needle they put in your hand). But when I think about living in my current situation, but with another human being that's completely and utterly dependent on me to look after it, feed it properly and make sure it's healthy and safe all of the time, the idea physically makes me feel sick with worry and nerves, and I can't even imagine how terrified I'd feel if I were actually pregnant. Not every woman leaps with joy upon the discovery that they're pregnant, and this reaction to me is a sign that I'm not yet ready to have a child. When my body feels ill at the prospect of having a baby, I'm going to listen to it because it's trying to tell me something.
