Question about sexuality.

[Dense_Electric]

Personally, I'm just plain straight. Though unlike a lot of people, I don't feel the need to go around establishing my sexuality to everyone. Though I'm not attracted to it, I don't need to act like I'm somehow disgusted by male anatomy just to prove something. Short version, I like girls, and while I'm not attracted to guys, they don't bother me.

 

[Blobpie]

Being a hetro sexual male i have no idea how it works. But from talking to some of my friends (whom are not hetro) i can come to the conclusion that they know they're different, it just takes some time to figure it out. You just know.

 

[AbsoluteVirtue18]

I'm straight, but I will admit when I think a man is attractive. I've considered the alternatives, but they don't feel right, you know?

 

[Vault101]

Hetro, and I know some people have said everyone is a little bit bi, but ope, I dont find men attractive at all.
That out of the way, I want to ask something to any hetro women, I have seen women say "what is it with guys and thinking lesbians are hot" which made me wonder dont you feel the same way about 2 guys ?

Generally no I Dont think its the same for most straight women I geus mabye in a similar way that males strippers are more of a Novelty than anything considered really sexy (I think), that said I cant speak for every woman, mabye some do but they wont admit it

as far as all this goes for me....Im pretty sure Im straight, but then again does enoying the sex scenes from Black swan make me gay or bi? I dont know....

 

[Freechoice]

A wise man once told me that no teenager can truly know their sexuality. Why? Hormonal imbalance. You can probably get a good guess as to what it is, but the Kinsey scale might surprise you.

Asexual.

 

[BrionJames]

I'm a heterosexual male. I've been that way since as long as I can remember. Never had any interest in men. Don't really care if people want to be gay or transsexuals, so long as it doesn't effect me.

 

[Xojins]

Sexuality doesn't really matter. I think it's pretty sad when people make a big deal about it. I realized mine in high school and I'm fine with it.

 

[shadowsoul222]

Ok, I'll bite. Bisexual transgendered. I guess I figured, if I'm gonna have to run through BEING two different sexes, why limit my experiences? BTW, for those keeping score, sex and gender are two very different things. Most people, they coincide, but really gender is more of a social construct than anything else anyway.

I think there should be sex, sexuality, and gender. Gender being what you're born as, sex being what you feel you are, and sexuality being your orientation. Or you could simply call it orientation.

I'm not really sure what you mean by "sex being what you feel you are". do you mean what you feel your orientation is or what you feel your actual gender should be? or am I completely missing something here?

OP:I used to just always say "hetero male. always have been always will be." but while reading this thread I came across the "heterosexual bi-romantic", which I believe more accurately describes what I am. I wouldn't have sex with a man...I personally see no point, plus penises are kind-of weird haha I'm not sure why girls and gays are attracted to them. But I could see myself in a completely non-sexual relationship with a man, like just a romantic thing. hmm...this has made me think about myself in ways I haven't in a long time.
captcha: sbusta one-time

EDIT-I think we need a new term for "straight" or "hetero" that is easier to say haha

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I just supressed my sexual urges and introduced a negative stimulus (pain) each time I felt the urges until they stopped occuring altogether.

You know, for some people, that's a turn on. XD

On a more serious note though, Gestalt therapy is very useful to learn or unlearn things. Although you don't always have to use pain. I do think that since most people usually respond to pleasure or pain, doing that they can to either get one or stay away from the other.

Captcha: Internal Prldr

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I'm not really sure what you mean by "sex being what you feel you are". do you mean what you feel your orientation is or what you feel your actual gender should be? or am I completely missing something here?

That pretty much sums it up.

 

[TAGM]

I'm still not sure. I'm deffinatly attracted to women, so Gay's out, but between Bi or Stright... I'm not sure.
At this point in time, if I was really pressed, I'd say I was Bi under special circumstances. I won't go into what they are.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

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This sounds...painfully similar to a relationship I have with my best female friend. I got the whole "I don't want to ruin our friendship." thing too, but she only said that because she didn't want to tell me that she didn't want to go out with me. She even "went out" with me for a week to "test it out" but we never had a chance to do anything since we were both busy with highschool stuff and she didn't even hug me during that time, which is odd since she hugs everyone. I got her a CD that I was planning on getting her before the week trial thing and she saw it as me getting it for her because it was the week trial and tried to pay me back for it. It basically boiled down to two things, 1) she didn't want to date me period and 2) she "wasn't ready" to date.

Although she loved to point out to me that she had had a crush on me a few times and that part of the reason she never said yes was "Because I always thought that you saw dating as a serious thing since you don't look at other girls when you date."

My response was something along the lines of, "...Isn't it normal not to be interested in other people when you're dating? I thought the whole point of dating was to be exclusive? I'm not dating to marry someone right now, I'm dating to have fun."

She seemed dumbfounded that I had such a view. >.>

We're still friends...kinda. As in, we don't talk except for the few times a year we get together with all of our buddies from high school, her bf hates me and I hate him. She hasn't met my gf yet, but she assured me that when I did start dating that the girl I dated would have to pass her inspection. I told her that if I liked her, it'd have to be enough since I don't butt in on her relationships.

It took me a long time and almost giving up on relationships to get over her. I had decided to give up on them until I was done with college but then I met my current gf. Funny how things work out that way. I just clicked with her, and here we are, almost a year later.

Oh yeah, and I got stabbed while trying to go out with a girl who apparently had a bf that she conviently forgot to mention. >.>

But that's a story for another time. XD

 

[DocBalance]

I've always been straight as could be, though I can acknowledge and appreciate the attractiveness of my male friends. It's not that I'm attracted to them, more that I recognize why someone would be attracted to them easily. As to the sexuality of others, I could not care less. In fact, that reminds me of a funny story.


I'm sort of an intelligence agent of sorts in my group of friends. I'm very good at gathering information and reading people, so naturally I get a lot of questions. This led to my best friend sitting down with me and admitting to me that he was bisexual and really wanted me to look into whether a guy we were working with at the time was into him. This increased my already not inconsiderable respect for him, because of how hard it was not only for him to tell himself, but also to tell me. He was raised Catholic, and I was raised Protestant, and he naturally assumed that my views on bi/homosexuality were as disapproving as his once were. It was an incorrect assumption, but not an unfounded one, and it took a lot of courage for him to go ahead and tell me despite the perceived risk of ending our long friendship.

 

[Teige]

Ok, I'll bite. Bisexual transgendered. I guess I figured, if I'm gonna have to run through BEING two different sexes, why limit my experiences? BTW, for those keeping score, sex and gender are two very different things. Most people, they coincide, but really gender is more of a social construct than anything else anyway.

I think there should be sex, sexuality, and gender. Gender being what you're born as, sex being what you feel you are, and sexuality being your orientation. Or you could simply call it orientation.

Psychology and sociology haven't quite caught up with the times, so some of the theories are a little dated. Although there are some people working on them from what I understand. Being a sociology major myself, and interested in the research side of it, I decided to conduct a series of polls on here. Feel free to check them out if you want. It's all unofficial of course, but it's good to have a general idea of what's going on with people.

From what I understand there is already something like this.

The definition of gender that I know of and understand is: gender is the more mental state of sexuality, the identity of being a man, woman, boy, girl, etc.

The definition of sex that I've heard is: Sex is whats between your legs

But on topic:

I'm pansexual, I realized this after I started analyzing myself and researching gender and sexuality since last year or so. I've also been going through a gender identity crisis and currently I'm trying to understand it, so I'd currently have to say I'm transgendered and pansexual.

 

[jawakiller]

Hetero male... Completely. Boobies rock! But I would never want a pair cuz while I like to bang chicks I like having a pair of balls. They too are awesome. But only mine.

 

[Kakashi on crack]

Heterosexual man, I probably realized this when I was almost thirteen and me and my friend were looking up eh... "Images" on our PSPs. As for other sexual preferences and such? I could care less, its their decision to make so long as they don't bug me about it. (heck I have more homosexual and bisexual friends then I do heterosexual friends.)

 

[ScorpSt]

Male Lesbian.

Basically, I'm a heterosexual man who, while not uncomfortable with being a man, is uncomfortable with traditional male gender roles. Being born a woman would be preferable, not for the body (I'd be fine with either one), but for the societal acceptance women receive in not being forced into one specific gender role (i.e., women being able to exist anywhere on the line between masculine and feminine).

I have been attracted to women since I was about 11. I never had any attraction to men, though I did experiment just to be sure. I found that, while I have no real aversion to the penis, I find the male form to be unattractive.

As far as whether sexuality matters, I personally don't think it does. I used to be uncomfortable around gay men kissing, but I've since gotten over that.

 

[Vitor Goncalves]

Around the age of 6., I guess.
Sexuality can be important depending on the context.
But shouldnt be source of discrimination (hell, nothing should be source of discrimination, with exception of dangerous xenophobic and serious criminals).

 

[Le_Cable]

I like to say "Love the person, not the gender/sex."

What does that say about my sexuality? I do not know.

That's pansexuality in a nut shell.

 

[paintb11dud3]

Hetro, and I know some people have said everyone is a little bit bi, but ope, I dont find men attractive at all.
That out of the way, I want to ask something to any hetro women, I have seen women say "what is it with guys and thinking lesbians are hot" which made me wonder dont you feel the same way about 2 guys ?

Generally no I Dont think its the same for most straight women I geus mabye in a similar way that males strippers are more of a Novelty than anything considered really sexy (I think), that said I cant speak for every woman, mabye some do but they wont admit it

as far as all this goes for me....Im pretty sure Im straight, but then again does enoying the sex scenes from Black swan make me gay or bi? I dont know....

From my very basic and limited knowledge/exposure to the actual scientific side of it. Women associate sex and stuff more with emotions than men. Beyond that statement I'm merely speculating and very possibly may be wrong when I continue with that is why Girls or Women who are raped or have been abused will sometimes go for a more sexual relationship. It seems weird because that is such a painful memory but from what I've seen of girls that I've known that have been raped, abused, or had some kind of sexual misdeed done to them. I'm only 18 and a High School Senior and I know 5 girls that have been raped. Two of them before the 5th grade, the other three in High School. The two that were raped before 5th grade both have a huge amount of problems with boys. They need to have a boyfriend and typically will do what the boyfriend wants as long as he says he loves them. One was at her brothers party (she was a freshman then) and one of his friends raped her. We were dating at the time (she didn't tell me this happened) and we went on to have a very physical relationship. Another one was raped after her and I broke up and now she doesn't trust any guys, sadly part of the emotional damage was preexisting from when we broke up. And the last one was a girl I know and was raped by a freshman and she is a senior. She is the only girl I know that actually reported the rape and she is in litigation about it now. Another one of my ex's had her soon to be step dad force her to take pictures of herself and give them to him. She was only 14 at the time, our relationship was only sex and to my knowledge she has slept with almost every guy since we broke up.

That was a long one and I got kind of sidetracked... Anyway onto my sexuality.

A wise man once told me that no teenager can truly know their sexuality. Why? Hormonal imbalance. You can probably get a good guess as to what it is, but the Kinsey scale might surprise you.

Asexual.

This very well may be true for me, as I previously stated I'm 18 and about to graduate High School. I've been strongly attracted to women for a long time. But recently I've kind of been messing with my style to see what I like and have been acting a little more... "eccentric". I've started straightening my hair, wearing super skinny jeans (like the ones girls wear), and occasionally I'll put on some black eyeliner. Basicly a kind of emo style I guess. But with this I have been wondering about my feelings about guys. Typically I feel no attraction to them whatsoever but there have been a couple times where I've seen/met a guy who I am attracted to. Even in all of these cases nothing about sex appeals to me, but I could see myself making out with a guy. I don't know what to classify that as, biish? Maybe? Oh ya, my aunt (moms twin sister) is a lesbian and she is probably the closest family member that I have out of the few others I have. Her partner and her have been together around 12 years. So as long as I could remember I've been raised around them. So I have no problem whatsoever with homosexuality. If I had to pick a label I guess I'd say Hetero who is a little bi-curious?