Question about sexuality.

[Mr. Doe]

Im a bit of a freak, Im a male anti-sexual with one exception; Ive always had no interest in sex or anything related to sex, I understand why people do it and that its a biological imperitive but its just unappealing to me. Its really wierd when people try to get with me Once at a GWAR concert I had to explain the entire concept and block a couple of physical manuevers while moshing. It also takes a toll on me in social interactions, once while playing World of Warcraft there was a female in ventrilo who was "teasing" everyone and I chimed in that we needed to stop horsing around or we wouldnt progress in the raid at all; They questioned my sexuality and I had to explain my entire situation to them. (Including the exception, which I wont go into detail about unless provoked.) So yeah, I guess sexuality only matters if you drag it up.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

Asexual. I just sort of grew up and never started to feel like I wanted to bang anything.

I think it only really occured to me that it was natural and okay to not like sex after discovering a few people like me on the internet. Before then, I was convinced I had to pretend to be as grotesquely obsessed with it as all my friends. If I didn't, I'd clue them in to whatever weird sickness I had and I'd be outcast or treated differently or something.

It was really great to learn the word for it, actually. So much easier to say than "yeah uh I don't actually like girls. Or guys. Or anything really."
Plus, if I use the term for it, there's less chance of someone going "OMG THERE MUST BE SO MANY THINGS WRONG WITH YOU". I do get the odd snarky jackass like "durrhurr u gunna go reproduce by urself nao" as a result, but dumb jokes aren't nearly as annoying as trying to explain that there's nothing wrong with you to an ignorant, hysterical moron.

 

[Paksenarrion]

Being heterosexual is kind of like being Undeclared in a college major.

So, I guess I'm still Undeclared.

 

[Ladette]

I'm a Bi female who heavily prefers woman.

I was pretty much asexual till my sophmore year of high school. Then I decided I wanted to get one of those "dates" for dances and stuff. I was pretty sheltered, so guy/girl was to my knowledge the only kind of relationship. By this point I started wearing guys clothes and people asked me if I was a lesbian, I wasn't sure so I decided to date a girl and see. After that I went back and forth all throughout highschool.

I still find some guys attractive, and if I found a guy worthwhile i'd give him a chance. I find woman to be much more attractive though, and the sex is better. I haven't dated a guy in five years.

 

[CoverYourHead]

Bisexual. Realized it early in the summer last year, so a bit after turning 17. Just realized that all my gay thoughts weren't something most guys had, that I found guys sexy, and that girls are still sexy too. It's a good world.

 

[bloodymassacre]

Im straight, always have been, but non-the less, it may be wrong, but i do sometimes feel uncomfortable when 2 gay men start making out, 2 women i can understand due to "bodily attractions" but 2 men just doesnt seem right to me, not to offend anyone, i have gay friends, it just makes me feel uncomfortable

 

[BENZOOKA]

That's a well put original post.

I am a heterosexual male. Always have been, and I can't see how that wouldn't be the case for the rest of my life. I've had time to think that through on several occasions and I don't have any sexual feelings towards the same sex.

As for "Does sexuality matter?" in a more universal way: No. Except in some, not that usual, scenarios. To myself: Not really. Although I come from a very small place with a rather homophobic atmosphere (if you haven't lived that, you don't know), and I don't actually know any people in real life that I'd know to be gay or bi, or actually I do know a couple girls who are gay and bi, so I don't know any bisexual or gay males.

I'll admit that I won't feel completely comfortable if a gay guy is checking me out or hitting on me, but I'd say that's something I can't control. Although, when that happens, I'm polite about it and say I'm straight an not interested, if it isn't already clear.

 

[Nimcha]

Pretty much always known I was gay, even before I even knew what it was. I had no clue I as a girl was 'supposed' to be liking boys, that thought only occurred to me when the other girls around me were starting to not think of boys as icky but as attractive. That's kinda when I realized it, think that was around the end of basic school so that puts me at like, 12, maybe 11. My parents knew about it before that but they decided to just let me all figure it out for myself, bless them.

And yes sexuality does matter in some respect, it has shaped the way I view the world. When I was younger, the world's blatant heterosexuality used to depress me a little, would you figure. I was always annoyed when in movies the girl went for the guy when she could also have gone for her cute friend. Ah, the ignorance of youth... So yeah, to me it has mattered. I still don't understand straight relationships, they seem alien to me. Though people do always come for advice to me about that because they say I have an objective view.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

I was liking women(I was hot for teacher many times)before I had any idea that homosexuality existed.

 

[Dexiro]

Gay, realised it when I was about 14 I think.

The realisation really does just hit you. I was just casually watching gay porn one day thinking "la la la, feels good being straight" then I suddenly stopped and slapped some sense into my self. After that it seemed like the most blatantly obvious thing ever. I mean I'd been watching gay porn for months before then >.>

At that point I wasn't really in denial. I was quite happy about the realisation because it explained so much and excited about what the future held. The thought of myself doing things with other guys still seemed a little weird for a few weeks.

 

[SuperSuperSuperGuy]

I'm still trying to figure out my sexual orientation. Yes, I am attracted to women, but the idea of actually having sex puts me off. Like, a lot. It always has. All I know is that I'm heteroromantic.

Now, does sexuality matter? Well, kind of. In today's modern society, where we are accepting alternate sexual orientations more and more as time goes on, it doesn't matter as much as it used to. People's experiences change how they are, and those who are treated negatively because of their differences usually change to reflect that. Sexuality itself doesn't change a thing short of who they would like to have sex with. It's how they are treated because of it that changes things. As acceptance grows, we can expect that someone's sexuality will matter less and less.

 

[FalloutJack]

I never really had a question in my mind about that sort of thing. I'm straight, and it's been as natural for me to be that way as it is to breathe.

 

[Astoria]

I'm bi and always have been. As soon as I started getting interested in all that stuff I just found that I took interest in both genders. Sexuality doesn't matter to me.

 

[Penguinness]

Well I was attracted to girls from a very young age, and a lack of attraction for males, perhaps even repulsion.

There may be a lot of topics in this particular month because in the UK it is Lesbian Gay Bisexul Transgender month, although the only place I see stuff about this topic is here on the escapist.

 

[SimuLord]

I don't know that I ever "realized" that I'm 100% heterosexual. When the hormones started popping when I was eleven, I didn't need social programming or anything else to say "go find a girl and do what evolution says is right" (not that I'd have been able to do so at eleven, but...)

I just saw the girls who had started to develop and I had a Garth moment: "She makes me feel kinda funny, like when we used to climb the rope in gym class." The dudes sure didn't give me that feeling!

 

[warprincenataku]

Some people state that they don't fall in love with a particular gender, they fall in love with a person. Whether this is true or not I cannot be certain. This statement closely models the ideals of my bisexual friends, being happy with either one at any given time.

Apparently there's some sort of scale which allows you to check where you belong on the sexuality scale.

I believe it's 1 to 10 (or 1 to 7, I can't recall), 1 being gay and 10 being straight. A lot of people don't show up as perfect 1's or 10's. A lot of the time you may land as a 2,3 or 8,9. This is for many reasons. You may be able to find beauty in the same sex. You may have had a fantasy or two about the same sex, but you know you'd never actually do anything with them. I believe that it's not as simple as black and white, rather it's more of shades of gray.

Now if you're one of the few individuals that are quite homophobic, not a gay/straight thought in your body and loathe the other option, then yes, you may be a perfect 1 or 10.

 

[Dreltox]

(I made a bloody account to respond to this. Congrats on an amazing topic!) I'm gay, and I realized it mid making out with a girl. I realized that, well, it just wasn't, "right" for me. I think I had wanted so bad to be heterosexual, only because of the homophobic realm I had used to reside in. I think sexuality is a HUGE deal, particularly in it's conflict with religion. Being raised Roman Catholic, and told that it would mean an instant ticket to hell to be gay, really did not help the realization that I was gay. It also helps greatly in the push to be Atheist. I've never had a problem with straight guys, or girls. Just more over their personality, and as sad as it is, religious beliefs, do kind've hurt my thoughts on them. (I'm not a bigot, I swear!)

 

[Dreltox]

I was going to post hetero male, but then It dawned on me.
I haven`t been attracted to a girl in months. I`ve formed close freindships with them, but haven`t crossed the line into infatuation. And If it does appear, it stays for a few days and then vanishes.

So Im not at all sure about what I am 0.0

I don't want to scare you, but that's exactly how I was/am.

 

[William Dickbringer]

I've always knew I was straight and never really felt as attracted to guys as I do girls
as for should sexual orinrentation goes I really don't care if you're gay straight trans-gender bi

 

[Woodsey]

I am straight. Since that's "normal" I've never had any inner-debate with myself about my sexuality.

Does it matter what people are? For the most part, only if you're uncomfortable in your own sexuality, or are a religious zealot. So no, it doesn't at all.