Question of the Day, July 25, 2010

[runnernda]

Yes. My best friend since first grade is a guy, and there has never been any kind of attraction between us. Everyone always thinks we are or should be dating, but it's not going to happen. To be honest, it always kind of drives me crazy when people tell me I should date him...why is it so hard to believe that a guy and a girl can be just friends?!

 

[DrEmo]

of course they can...cant say anything abt the women but for men all you have to do is NOT think with your penis...i dont understand how this can be so hard...

I see what you didn't mean to do there...

No. It can't happen.

Girls watch a lot of chick flicks and Disney Channel and in both of those the boy and girl friends become a couple.
The girl will think something's going on, when it's not.

 

[AboveUp]

No. They can't. The second they meet, they immediately need to have sexual intercourse otherwise it screws with their biological system.

Spoiler

This post is filled with sarcasm. Please do not take it seriously.

 

[Mana Fiend]

I definitely hope so, I'm living with two girls next year! Seriously, I'm sharing a flat from September with two girls at university. One of whom I have never even met (she's the other girl's friend from France), and the other girl is a friend of mine and fellow society committee member. Which means that if you can't be 'just friends' with a girl it might make future society meetings that bit more awkward (we're a film-making group, for the record...)...

Trust me, it's not that difficult. I lived with two girls last year. The one advise I will give you is to watch out... The kitchen will at no time be as clean as you might think it would be. Guy or girl, students are slobs.

Oh, and watch out for those Top Model shows... They will be on!

As you can probably guess from that, then yes, easily. Granted, there is about 2% sexual attraction to even my best female friends, but it's always joked about. Helps that I'm extremely open about things...

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

I treat pretty much all of my female friends as "one of the guys". Most of them do have some form of attraction to me (that's not conceit, that's an unavoidable side-effect of natural charisma and strongly empathic tendencies), but I subtly make it clear to them that it's unrequited, and would remain that way despite any advances. Keeps things solidly in "just friends" territory. Despite my last few relationships being overall positive, I'm choosing to stay single for a long, long time.

So, I'm going to say "yes", because pretty much all friends of differing sexes have had that "if we were the last people on earth, then sure" thought, and I wouldn't say that counts.

 

[Shackels]

sure, even tho most of my female friends I've been attracted to at one time or another,or I still am. but I blame my lack of interaction between me and females up to a year ago for that.

 

[Shepard's Shadow]

Yes, of course. I've been just friends with someone for about three years now, and it's worked just fine.

 

[Adrian3670]

As far as I know (and I'm speaking from experience of both me and my girlfriend.) you need to have grown up with them for most of your childhood. After that you have to try to go out with them and both of you have to realize it wont work. Then your friendship has to survive that and they will still be you're friends but not like that.

"Note side effects may include: Obsession, heartbreak, and or a friend that is blatantly lying about just wanting to be your friend but who desperately wants to try again."

 

[Trivun]

I definitely hope so, I'm living with two girls next year! Seriously, I'm sharing a flat from September with two girls at university. One of whom I have never even met (she's the other girl's friend from France), and the other girl is a friend of mine and fellow society committee member. Which means that if you can't be 'just friends' with a girl it might make future society meetings that bit more awkward (we're a film-making group, for the record...)...

Trust me, it's not that difficult. I lived with two girls last year. The one advise I will give you is to watch out... The kitchen will at no time be as clean as you might think it would be. Guy or girl, students are slobs.

Oh, and watch out for those Top Model shows... They will be on!

As you can probably guess from that, then yes, easily. Granted, there is about 2% sexual attraction to even my best female friends, but it's always joked about. Helps that I'm extremely open about things...

Oh, I know all about that... in my house last year there were three kitchens. I had one almost to myself, only shared it with one of the other guys. The other guys had their own, and the girls had their own, and the girls' kitchen was a complete tip. We actually had mice in there at one point... of course, most of the house was perpetually messy anyway. I was probably the only person to bother keeping my areas (my own bathroom, bedroom and kitchen area) clean and tidy. It's okay though, I've been to the current flat of the girl I'm moving in with who I already know, and she's pretty tidy usually .

As far as those Top Model shows go, I had to put up with those last year, too. If it's something like Come Dine With Me or Glee or Coach Trip or the like, then I'll watch it too. If not, then I've always got my laptop handy...

 

[Waif]

I truly believe that men and women can be friends, it does take a special kind of person to achieve this. People who are driven by friendship, more than they are by romantic relationships. It certainly is possible, and I have friends who are girls, and don't think of the in any other light ^~^! I value them as friends way too much to ever consider anything else.

 

[Grey_Focks]

Yes, but don't be naive enough to think there won't be any sexual attraction. I have several lady friends, and they are just friends and I also think that most of them are pretty damn hot. Nothing wrong with this, as it has never affected our friendship aside from the occasional off-color joke/remark, but that's just how we are.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

I have a lot of female friends. Of course its possible.

 

[Naeo]

Speaking from experience, yes, they can. I was "just friends" with someone for a long time, and then I admit we later started going out. But, still, we were truly "just friends"- if really really good ones- for about a year and a half.

 

[jeejvebe]

I think so. But I also think there's always going to be at least a little sexual tension at one point or another, at least in 99% of all cases.

 

[mikespoff]

The assumption that finding someone attractive eliminates the possibility of a platonic friendship is incorrect.

It's like being able to say your cousin is pretty or that Johnny Depp is hot, I can see it, but it doesn't mean I want to go there.

Exactly.

 

[Unhappy Crow]

Of course. That's what I think. I have little friends soooooo it's possible.

 

[Nemu]

If you can't "just be friends" with a person of the opposite sex (or the same gender, if that's how you roll), you have issues. It's not any more difficult for a guy to resist attraction than it is for a woman, it's all a matter of willpower.

 

[ottenni]

Of course its possible. I have numerous female friends who are just friends. Hell my best friend is a girl. Although everyone seems to think we are going to end up getting married.

 

[ShrooM_DoughKiD]

I have female friends, but I have slept with them on various occasions, but all thats in the past. so, yeah...

 

[Thedayrecker]

If the guy is gay.

Really, I think if any guy has the chance to "do" a girl that is "just their friend" they'd take it.