Samcanuck said:
solidstatemind said:
Lot's o' Snippage.
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I simply told him that he was not making his argument any stronger by being rude, and that if he was really interested in discussing what he perceives as the decay of her work, commenting on one video probably isn't the most prudent place to detail his opinion of the entire arc of her carreer.
Both of those I still think are entirely valid points.
So, tell me again how I "attacked" him?
Just picking up the conversation, but it seems to me that you are attacking his difference in opinion. Do you not see that? I think you just proved his point a wee bit, no? Just my own opinion. "This is too easy"...how do you expect anybody to take that but an attack?
Uhm, not to be rude, but did you read what I posted originally (since you're just picking up on the conversation)? The response I made to El Pup, that Xavier78 completely omitted when he called me a "fanboy defending RMM"? You may not think it's germane, but it's the heart of the matter, actually.
Was I 'attacking' Xavier78? I would more put it 'responding in kind', but you probably could make the argument that I was a bit testy with him--
but it wasn't over his opinion of the song. We were discussing what I said to El Pup, and how Xavier78 misrepresented it. Given that, I don't believe you can make the argument that I was 'attacking' Xavier78 (or El Pup) for his opinion (specifically of RMM), I was 'attacking' him for quoting my name only, and then removing all my words, and then accusing me publicly of saying something I did not actually say, i.e. for intentionally or unintentionally attempting to make me look bad by flat-out misrepresenting what I said, without including any of offending the statements he claimed I made.
It was particularly irritating because Xavier78 claimed that I was saying something that was the exact opposite of what I said. (I said, over and over and over, "you are entitled to your opinion. But 'opinion' does not entitle one to fling insults.") That kind of misleading behavior does, in fact, piss me off to no end. I get irritated.
I have said, repeatedly, that I have no problem with people who don't agree with me: for example, Archemetis does a fantastic job of explaining his position (including addressing my question of "if you don't like it, why do you watch it?"), and he didn't feel the need to be insulting and rude to Ms. Mayes while he did it. I don't necessarily agree, but I understand what he was trying to convey-- and like I said, he didn't feel the need to resort to immature insults. That's a productive exchange of ideas, in my book.
In re: the insults: There has been a serious decline in civility on these forums lately: yet, the eternal optimist in me doesn't see it as people trying to be Internet Tough Guys, I just think we're seeing an influx of new, younger people who don't understand the art of good argumentation; after all, the people who behave in that fashion are usually younger- they haven't been pushed yet by higher education and real-life employment to defend their positions in a logical, thoughtful, and
mature manner. I'm compelled by some neurosis to try to offer constructive criticism, even though usually my efforts are met with hostility and almost a willful misunderstanding. But I keep doing it. I guess I think maybe it'll sink in later, or maybe there will be some increment of change, no matter how small.
As I've said elsewhere, I think maintaining civility is very important (particularly in a medium where there are few repercussions for not behaving civilly), because if you start tolerating insults, virtually every disagreement will devolve into name-calling, and that's just boring and pointless.
I'd really rather not see the Escapist become another forum sewer that's just tarted up a bit by a semi-intellectual veneer.