Romance

[Nickolai77]

My advise is to continue to be scepical about fictional romance, thats a great start, take things easy and don't worry about girlfriends and whatnot for now.

Sure, I am sceptical of fictional romance, and I know that's good, but it worries me somewhat that I find reading romantic manga more fulfilling than actually pursuing a real relationship...

Edit: Hey, look! A hundred posts!

Only when you've been in a proper relationship can you know if reading romantic manga is more fulfilling than an actual relationship. It's strange though, usually reading lots of romance would make someone want a real relationship, but with you it seems the other way round. If reading romance manga means your not constantly worrying about getting a girlfriend then i'll take that as a positive thing. But, being the human that i assume you are lol, you will want a relationship with someone someday.


Personally i've never really liked romance as a genre, i find it too idealstic and nieve, but if you view it as a fantasy then i suppose that how you can enjoy romance manga's.

 

[Jonluw]

My belief is that things happen when you least expect them to, so dont focus on finding a relationship, just have fun and be yourself..and trust that things will fall into place by themselves.

This is pretty much what I'm doing right now. But the abscence of love in my life has me worrying if I am holding my self back, you know? I am afraid that if I ever feel the smallest ping of love I'll ignore it and kill it while it is still young and keep on doing this forever.

 

[Eldarion]

I believe in love. I've had a few girlfriends and even though we may have broken up/moved away/ect I can still genuinely say I still love them all. I've had real relationships that lasted about a year, on average.

I must be lucky or something.

 

[Jonluw]

Only when you've been in a proper relationship can you know if reading romantic manga is more fulfilling than an actual relationship. It's strange though, usually reading lots of romance would make someone want a real relationship, but with you it seems the other way round. If reading romance manga means your not constantly worrying about getting a girlfriend then i'll take that as a positive thing. But, being the human that i assume you are lol, you will want a relationship with someone someday.


Personally i've never really liked romance as a genre, i find it too idealstic and nieve, but if you view it as a fantasy then i suppose that how you can enjoy romance manga's.

I am actually quite content the way my life is now, and it would seem romance manga/anime has the function of satisfying what little need I have for romantic love at the moment, so I am not constantly worrying about getting a girlfriend; I am just a little worried that my situation will not change.

 

[Girl With One Eye]

My belief is that things happen when you least expect them to, so dont focus on finding a relationship, just have fun and be yourself..and trust that things will fall into place by themselves.

This is pretty much what I'm doing right now. But the abscence of love in my life has me worrying if I am holding my self back, you know? I am afraid that if I ever feel the smallest ping of love I'll ignore it and kill it while it is still young and keep on doing this forever.

Maybe you're just overthinking it. It sounds cheesy but when you've found the right person, its impossible to ignore. Like I said before, things have a tendancy to fall into place, and if it isnt happening right now then maybe its not supposed to.

EG: One of my friends never used to have a boyfriend, she used to moan that she would never find love...now shes 20 and engaged. You just never know what fate might bring you.

 

[Jonluw]

*high five*
Finally! Someone else who knows this stuff!

I don't think there is a group for us on this site. Even if I founded one, it would be pretty pointless because:
1)There would be extremely few members, maybe only us 2
2)With Carl Barks deceased and Don Rosa retired, there would barely be any updates :-(

*High five* *sigh* Maybe someday there will be an heir... We need a prophecy or something.

 

[Hammer's Girl]

I never thought of myself as romantic before but then I met my boyfriend. I have had other partners (both male and female) and have made some really bad mistakes. I think the difference here is that we were really good mates, got together almost by accident and are still really good mates. We have fun as well as doing 'couple' things.

As I said, falling in love with him was accidental, he was an amazing friend and I'm just lucky that he is an even better boyfriend. Don't be afraid to be single, it'll help you appreciate the one when you find them .

 

[Jedoro]

I'm open to the idea and madly in love with a lovely woman I went to high school with. All I can hope is that she falls in love with me as well.

 

[Billion Backs]

The concept of "unconditional undying love" is pretty disgusting if you think about it in-depth.

Would you really want to be chained to someone forever? Especially unconditionally, so even if they stab you in the back, you should continue loving them? Fuck that.

This post just made me realize how empty and hollow my life is. A life without any deeper feelings and romance...I like it that way

Thank you OP for helping me understand myself better

Off to senseless gaming and wasting my life away on minor matters.

Edit: No, really! I'm not kidding...

There are no deeper feelings. There are, however, people who choose to delude themselves.

 

[goatzilla8463]

For me, I feel that love is the only thing worth living for (well, that and contributing something extremely great for the world).

I am very cynical about love though. I believe it takes a lot of tries to find true love; most of the time, it is just lust.

 

[s0denone]

hate it. love to make fun of it. would rather meet new girls to hook up with than have that 1 girl for the rest of my life.

i like when the bad guy wins: arlington road, usual suspects, etc.

or just badass stuff: cowboy bebop (a little romance, i guess), samurai jack, 28 days later, fight club, batman begins, etc.

While I don't know Samurai Jack and have never seen Cowboy Bebop this pretty much explains my outlook as well.

Fuck me if Arlington Road & The Usual Suspects aren't awesome movies

Sorry for stealing your post here, but I have a little to add, as well:
We are certainly in the minority. While not looking for romance per se we don't really fall into the "I'm an angsty nerd fool who don't believe in love and does not believe in romance or relationship" - I have to admit that shit is tiring to read. Every topic concerning "Love", "Romance", "Sex" or anything of that sort, we are bombarbed with it.

I may have strayed a little off topic here, but still, I can see the relevance!

 

[FightThePower]

I'm quite a romantic person which is ironic considering I've never had a girlfriend.

I've come so close recently; she even likes me back, but doesn't want to screw up our friendship. Women eh?

 

[Naheal]

Romance would be nice were it possible. I used to believe in it, but I've yet to find more than a few working romantic relationships.

 

[redblinky]

Love seems to be one of those topics that is really hard on alot of people.
Personally I have no idea what love is and I figure if your going to have it, it will find you.
I had a very long term relationship 4 years or so. I lived with the girl I worked for her father we had joint bank accounts I thought I was in love with her. But then I very quickly found I wasn't.
I've always been very emotionless I've never thought death was sad I never missed people or gotten homesick. At every stage of my life I would dump the friends i had just because I didnt care enough to keep in touch. Its funny I had a good friend in middle school my best friend we went on vacations together really close. We go to the same college now and I see him all the time but I went over a year of seeing him pass by before I even spoke to him and then we've only spoke briefly twice (sad thing he didnt recognize me, guess i'm not the chubby kid with the thick glasses anymore lol thank you puberty). I'm not sensitive at all lol. So it leads me to wonder if I could ever love someone. If there was someone out there who would actually make me love them. Hoping for the best, in the meantime casual relationships are always fun .
I think looking for love is a waste it'll find you or it wont.
My relationships are based around finding another person I can have fun hanging out with and am attracted to physically.

 

[MatsVS]

Video games = seriously fucking up today's youth.

I remember when I was young, the closest thing to a "relationship" I had found in a video game was the Mario/Princess Peach thing, and that hardly prepared me for what it was all about. Of course, there were still films and such, but for the most part, relationships and love was an unknown quantity, something enigmatic and mysterious, and it was wonderful.

And yes, you SHOULD have a girlfriend or boyfriend when you're 16, because love will never be the same later in life. It's a window of opportunity that you do not want to miss, and I pity those of you who do.

 

[s0denone]

hate it. love to make fun of it. would rather meet new girls to hook up with than have that 1 girl for the rest of my life.

i like when the bad guy wins: arlington road, usual suspects, etc.

or just badass stuff: cowboy bebop (a little romance, i guess), samurai jack, 28 days later, fight club, batman begins, etc.

While I don't know Samurai Jack and have never seen Cowboy Bebop this pretty much explains my outlook as well.

Fuck me if Arlington Road & The Usual Suspects aren't awesome movies

Sorry for stealing your post here, but I have a little to add, as well:
We are certainly in the minority. While not looking for romance per se we don't really fall into the "I'm an angsty nerd fool who don't believe in love and does not believe in romance or relationship" - I have to admit that shit is tiring to read. Every topic concerning "Love", "Romance", "Sex" or anything of that sort, we are bombarbed with it.

I may have strayed a little off topic here, but still, I can see the relevance!

I agree 100%, you're a smart man. It's very annoying to hear that defense of "You just have never experienced true love." And girls who get mad at me for not calling them or not falling in love with them. Geeeeez, I'm sorry I didn't fall in love with you and don't want to spend the rest of my life with you.

You should check out Cowboy Bebop if you like animated shows. The movie is good too.

Cheers man. I don't really like animated shows, but I'll give it a shot due to your recommendation. Have fun

 

[Ironic Pirate]

Well, I'm mildly asexual (not arromantic) so that could put a crimp in things.

I would like to have a girlfriend, but my quirks would probably prevent anything serious.

Ah, well.

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[The Eggplant]

Euchh. Had you asked this about a week ago, I would've had some soppy bullshit about true love to throw out there. However, recent...developments...have reinstated my natural stoic bitterness, and I'm at this point firmly convinced that no woman can be completely trusted.

That said, I'm unfortunately also a hopeless romantic. I may have a fairly caustic personality, but when I fall for someone I fall hard and fast...and when my relationships inevitably end, I fall even harder. Currently, I'm falling through the fallout of a falling-out (try that one five times fast), and at the rat I'm going I confidently expect to reach terminal velocity within the week.

 

[MajorKris]

It took some hardships to realize it, but you don't always need a significant other to be happy. It's true that waking up to an empty bed after a really close and long relationship has ended is difficult, but you shouldn't always let long term commitments to one person control all your actions.

All I can say is that you are young, and the best kind of love is from a person you have taken time to understand and become friends with. You have high standards, but that isn't a bad thing. It simply means that you have a general idea of what you want in a relationship. Take your time, and don't worry about it so much. Just do what you love and I'm sure what you're looking for will find you first.