Well, in that case, there's two things you need to understand: for one thing, that standard of "your best" that you tell yourself you set only applies to the specific material that you were covering when you did it; on one unit, your best might be an 80. On another, the material might really click with you, and you might get a 90 or even 100. On yet another assignment, the teacher may as well be speaking moon language for all that particular section makes sense to you, and your best might be a 70 -- or even lower. "Your best" isn't a number; it's an amount of effort.4173 said:And as soon as someone tells me what reasonable is, or what possible means. Seriously, did you ever have a teacher tell you, "eh, you did good enough?"Owyn_Merrilin said:Edit: Also, it's clearly not holding you to a standard you can't achieve. A paper with absolutely no marks is perfect; there is no such thing as a perfect paper. What you need to aim for is a passing grade, preferably the highest passing grade you can reasonably get. You don't need to aim for perfection, but you do need to understand that if you don't do your work perfectly, it will have marks on it. That's going to be true no matter what color of ink is used. Don't think of it as holding you to a standard where you're expected to be perfect; think of it as a standard where perfect is the ideal, and you want to get as close to it as possible, but it's not the end of the world if you don't hit it.
Actually, I should refine that a little bit. Once one reaches a certain standard, then one will never hear "good enough" again. Let's say I get a 92% on the first assignment, I've just set a standard. No one will tell me that 80% is good enough. Then I'm left guessing* what amount of time and effort will replicate that 92% when we move to the next topic.Owyn_Merrilin said:Edit Edit: And your last line is particularly telling. You do not have to memorize the entire text book to avoid failure. You need to get better than 60% of the questions right, at least with the system we use in the US. Besides, a properly written test won't be picking out obscure facts from the text book; it's going to be based around main ideas, things that are repeated constantly, titles, and things that are in bold print. If you're getting random questions about things neither the text nor the instruction stressed, you've got a teacher who doesn't know how to write tests. Otherwise, you probably don't know how to properly read a text book to get the information that is most likely to be on a test; there's a definite pattern to it. I'm not saying that to demean you, I'm just pointing out where a likely flaw in your study habits. If it sounds like what I'm saying applies to you, see about getting some tutoring. There's absolutely nothing wrong with asking for help.
I realize this represents to some extent (big or small) a reflection of my personality and experiences as opposed to what we would want to call typical. At the same time, I can't be the only one who thought this way either. It took me years before I bought into the idea that perfect isn't the standard, the goal, and I still have to remind myself that before every paper or test.
I'm probably switching tenses something fierce. The more extreme statements are how I thought in grade school. I have curtailed it somewhat today.
*and I really do mean guessing
The second thing is that at some point, one of your teachers really should have explained this to you -- not in a way that discourages you from shooting for perfection, but in a way that encourages you that it's not necessarily a bad thing if you don't quite hit that target. For an example, look at the NRA B-27 target that law enforcement agencies use for handgun training:
Now, looking at the circles, you'd think you'd be aiming for the big X in the middle, and that you'd lose points if you wound up outside it. However, in an actual law enforcement test, any hit from the 8 ring down to the bullseye counts for full marks. You still want to aim for the red[footnote]There's a variation of this target that has the bullseye area colored red. I didn't notice when I posted the pic, but this is the version where it's all black and white[/footnote] X, but it's not the end of the world if you don't actually hit that particular spot.
Am I making sense?