Sexual Insecurity?

[MasterOfWorlds]

In one of my recent threads, someone said that since I post a lot of threads regarding sexuality and ask questions regarding the various orientations, it makes me look insecure. While I'm not terribly offended by such a remark, it got me to thinking about it a bit.

How many of you are comfortable with your sexuality? I suppose knowing your sexuality and coming to terms with it, as it were, aren't exactly the same thing. Some of us have always known that we're one orientation or another, but some of us take time to realize it and even do our best to deny it from time to time.

So my questions for this thread are fairly straightforward I think.

Are you comfortable with your sexuality? Do you consider people who ask questions about other orientations to be insecure in their own sexuality? Would you consider any orientation other than heterosexual to be insecure if they asked questions about other people's sexuality?

I'm sure there are more questions that I could add, so feel free to discuss any points you feel may be relative but not covered by the questions.

Same rules apply here as in all of my threads, keep in civil please.

 

[Berethond]

100% comfortable with my sexuality.

I do not consider people who ask questions about other orientations. They're merely curious - how else would I understand what goes through my gay friend's head if I didn't ask him questions about his sexuality?

I wouldn't any other orientation than heterosexual to be insecure if they asked questions about others' sexualities for similar reasons.

 

[TeeBs]

You know what annoys me about this whole subject. People who claim you're uncomfortable with your sexuality because you don't want to watch gay men kiss or stuff to that effect.

Just because I don't want to see it doesn't mean I'm insecure. Even slightly.

I'm perfectly comfortable with my sexuality. And I wouldn't think that anybody asking questions about another is unsure about theirs.

Sometimes it's just for the sake of learning.

Like, would you say 'you must be insecure with your culture' because they asked someone from a different country about theirs?

TBH. I think very few people are ever actually unsure about their orientation. Most who say they are, probably know, but don't want to address it.

Just for clarification, you are saying you don't want to be forced to watch two guys kiss, or you think that they shouldn't be allowed to kiss in public because there is a big difference.

 

[Leg End]

Entirely comfortable with my sexuality and myself.

Nope.

Not in any way.

Next question please.

 

[DefunctTheory]

My sexuality is like a mighty fortress. I am completely confident and comfortable in it.

Also, no gays allowed.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

Entirely comfortable with my sexuality and myself.

Nope.

Not in any way.

Next question please.

One of these days, I'm going to ask a question that will turn your world upsidedownface. XD

 

[default]

You know what annoys me about this whole subject. People who claim you're uncomfortable with your sexuality because you don't want to watch gay men kiss or stuff to that effect.

Just because I don't want to see it doesn't mean I'm insecure. Even slightly.

I'm perfectly comfortable with my sexuality. And I wouldn't think that anybody asking questions about another is unsure about theirs.

Sometimes it's just for the sake of learning.

Like, would you say 'you must be insecure with your culture' because they asked someone from a different country about theirs?

TBH. I think very few people are ever actually unsure about their orientation. Most who say they are, probably know, but don't want to address it.

Just for clarification, you are saying you don't want to be forced to watch two guys kiss, or you think that they shouldn't be allowed to kiss in public because there is a big difference.

A agree with him, I think I shouldn't be called a homophobe or uncomfortable with my sexuality because I don't like watching gay men make out, have sex, or anything else. And the way society as a whole views differences in sexuality is very different from an individuals personal view.

As a whole, we are a bunch of sexually immature twelve-year olds who still get icky about sex on television and alternate notions of sexuality.

But I'm perfectly comfortable with my straight-as-an-arrow sexuality. Hell, I kissed a bi guy on the cheek at a party a while ago (as a joke). That's how comfortable I am.

I can appreciate beauty in men and women to an almost equal degree (seriously, Jared Leto is GORGEOUS), and I can always appreciate or at least try to understand people's differences.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

My sexuality is like a mighty fortress. I am completely confident and comfortable in it.

Also, no gays allowed.

I chuckled mostly because of Trojan condoms, and the whole breaching the walls of Troy, which was considered a mighty fortress. Just a thought you might want to supress before you think too much on that one. XD

 

[Leg End]

Entirely comfortable with my sexuality and myself.

Nope.

Not in any way.

Next question please.

One of these days, I'm going to ask a question that will turn your world upsidedownface. XD

COME AT BE BRO!

XDXDXD

Though, really, my world already is upside-down.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

But I'm perfectly comfortable with my straight-as-an-arrow sexuality. Hell, I kissed a bi guy on the cheek at a party a while ago (as a joke). That's how comfortable I am.

Nope, you're clearly uncomfortable in your sexuality. Congrats.

I agree though, it is a real pain that people take that point of view on so many things.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

COME AT BE BRO!

...If I was gay, I'd totally make a super inappropriate joke, but since everyone here knows I'm straight, it wouldn't have the shock value of the fact that it might hold a hint of truth. XD

Also, I don't want to get warned or worse. >.>

 

[deleted_by_strongbad]

1: I'm pretty comfortable with my sexuality.
2&3: Nope, we should constantly ask ourselves and others questions about any assumption we are making.

While I agree with one of the original posters that most people are not truly unsure of their sexual preferences, that individual may be rejecting their impulses and may think their preference is other than what they are, and on the other hand I also feel that no one can be absolutely sure about their sexuality, as I feel like we are all wired at least a bit to be non-specifically sexual.

 

[Lord Beautiful]

Very secure and comfortable with my sexuality.

 

[lacktheknack]

So if I ask my math prof how calculus limits with square roots work, am I insecure about my abilities to do algebra?

Makes about as much sense.

 

[StormShaun]

My security is harder to break then Commander Sherperd's Normandy......BAM!.......Im confortable.....its like Vault 101 its really hard to open. (Fallout)

 

[DefunctTheory]

My security is harder to break then Commander Sherperd's Normandy......BAM!.......Im confortable.....its like Vault 101 its really hard to open. (Fallout)

Those are two really, really bad examples.

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

My security is harder to break then Commander Sherperd's Normandy......BAM!.......Im confortable.....its like Vault 101 its really hard to open. (Fallout)

Those are two really, really bad examples.

That's what I was thinking :/

I'm perfectly comfortable with my straight self

No, I don't think people who want to discuss sexuality are uncomfortable with their own.

 

[StormShaun]

My security is harder to break then Commander Sherperd's Normandy......BAM!.......Im confortable.....its like Vault 101 its really hard to open. (Fallout)

Those are two really, really bad examples.

Just making a point, Mabey I should of said something diffirent.....because The Normandy got a hole blow open in it in the finale and you escaped the Vault with ease and entered it again with ease.......hmmm Ill say is harder to open then trying to kill The Leader in Saints Row 2.....he can never die, which must mean im a walking fortress.....yep my point is now valid....

 

[Jumplion]

Oh, I'm perfectly confident in my sexual orientation.

It's my sexual promiscuity that I'm worried about, I'll admit >_>;

 

[dex-dex]

Alrighty then dude!
1.I am about 50/50 on it. I was secure but then a situation happened and it is now divided and I will not go into detail about what and how because it is not the issue at hand.
2.A majority of the time, people are just curious and just want questions answered. it does not make then insecure.
3.never.



People deal with themselves in different ways. just let them figure it out in their own time.