Sexual Insecurity?

Recommended Videos

Andrew_Waltfeld

New member
Jan 7, 2011
151
0
0
100% comfortable with my orientation (straight). and in bed. if that's what you mean. I honestly don't really care about anyone else - it's their own business what they do.
 

Gigano

Whose Eyes Are Those Eyes?
Oct 15, 2009
2,281
0
0
I'm very comfortable with my plain ol' heterosexuality.

Certainly wouldn't consider asking questions about other sexualities to be a sign of weakness. More likely it's just general interest or to know how not to offend them or something.

Personally, I harbour little interest in whatever harmless things others get their kicks from; unless it's a woman I'm eyeing of course, then it kind of becomes relevant whether she's heterosexual/bi-sexual or not.
 

Adam Galli

New member
Nov 26, 2010
700
0
0
I'm comfortable with my sexuality and I support those peoples whose sexual orientation differs from mine 100%.
 

Wondermint13

New member
Oct 2, 2010
935
0
0
I went through a terrible phase of Sexual insecurity when I was around 18 and that alone can ruin a good relationship, trust me.
But within the year I grew out of it. Damn comfortable with it now when one enjoys the fruits of their labor.
 

Paksenarrion

New member
Mar 13, 2009
2,911
0
0
I am so heterosexual, I felt I had to post my heterosexual status on this very thread as proof of my heterosexuality.

Also, [a href="http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/HaveIMentionedIAmHeterosexualToday"]Have I mentioned I am heterosexual today?[/a]

 

jawakiller

New member
Jan 14, 2011
776
0
0
I love the boobies... Rather simple actually. When I see a female (especially a hot one) I see sex. Looking at a dude I see, well a dude. And that is how my mind works. I am 105% secure in my hetero ways ( wait... is it 102%?). Women rock. Wouldn't want to be one. Never would get a sex change, hell no. LOVE BEING A DUDE! But I don't find any attraction in guys. that simple.
 

Yureina

Who are you?
May 6, 2010
7,098
0
0
I'm totally comfortable with mine. I don't go around telling everyone about my thoughts or what I think, but... that has more to do with me being a private person who likes to stay in their own little world more than anything else. :3

I'm Bisexual, by the way. Pan/Omnisexual too, I suppose, since that's pretty much the same thing IIRC. Its the person that matters to me most. :3

As for other people being insecure... I personally don't really talk much about orientation much at all. I do know some people who are very insecure about themselves in this regard though. The kinds who are always on the lookout to make sure that their behavior is "proper". That... makes me feel sad sometimes when I see it. Its not that I think people should be more "open" or be more accepting of different possibilities, but they shouldn't have to be worried about what other people think about them just because of their behavior. It makes me think that that person is living in a prison... but that's what stereotypes and "roles" are, ultimately.
 

ultrachicken

New member
Dec 22, 2009
4,301
0
0
Actually, no, I'm not entirely secure. It was only until a few months ago that I was perfectly certain that I was straight, but I've recently seen some things that turned me on despite the fact that I wouldn't expect them to. I'm not really torn about it, though. Not entirely certain which way I lean? Yes. But that doesn't bother me very much.
 

Wolf-AUS

New member
Feb 13, 2010
340
0
0
I'm straight and I'm fairly secure in that thought. Never questioned it to be honest. I don't think people who ask questions about sexual things are insecure at all. There's a number of reasons people could ask questions regarding sex.

Sure, one of those possibilities might be insecurity, but it wouldn't be my first assumption.
 

Allan53

New member
Dec 13, 2007
189
0
0
I'm heterosexual, but if I'm perfectly honest I'm probably not very comfortable with sexuality in general. That said, I'm measuring against a group I hang out with, who seem to have no problem discussing their sex lives and those of other people in disturbing detail in public...
 

notyouraveragejoe

Dehakchakala!
Nov 8, 2008
1,446
0
0
I've only very recently become comfortable with my sexuality (bisexual) as I've been questioning it for the last few years and I only just came out in public with it a few weeks ago. However, now that I am comfortable with it I don't ask many questions. I don't see asking questions as a sign of insecurity, many people have now started to ask me questions. I see it merely as curiosity to be honest.
 
Sep 19, 2008
237
0
0
I am completely secure... in that if I find something attractive you can bet I am going to attempt to hit that, although the obsession with sexuality is not something I have ever understood seriously can someone explain how you can question what is essentially a base truth about yourself, cause if you are in anyway inclined beyond the accepted norm then you just make life more interesting.
 

Yvressian

New member
Jul 19, 2008
20
0
0
I find it hilarious how much insecurity this thread provoked. :) OP, you're a genius.

In particular, it's interesting how many people are trying to prove they're not gay BECAUSE of something. Like having a gay friend, kissing a man on the cheek, etc. If you need to prove you're straight to an online community with anything other than the words: "I'm straight" it makes you come across as insecure.

It's interesting that most people respond to the question "Are you sexually insecure?" with an answer like: "I'm totally 100% straight. Straight as an arrow. Yessir. Absoulutely straight. Football. Sex with women. You wanna see me smash a beer can over my forehead? 'Cos that's how straight I am."
I'm not saying that all of those people are insecure. In fact, there seems to be some kind of social pressure to prove your sexuality, and I think it reflects the much bigger problem of the society on-the-whole that seems to generate such responses.

Specifically to this thread, why do so many of us need to prove that we can both be straight AND not homophobic?
I would like to think that in a perfect world, the absence of homophobia would make the question of orientation much less interesting.
 

Broken Boy

New member
Apr 10, 2010
399
0
0
Are you comfortable with your sexuality?

"I'm completely at ease with my bisexuality."

Do you consider people who ask questions about other orientations to be insecure in their own sexuality?

" That would not have been my first thought. Everyone has curiosities & if you don't ask questions it makes it harder to learn & grow as a person imo. "

Would you consider any orientation other than heterosexual to be insecure if they asked questions about other people's sexuality?

" Same as previous answer. "
 

MasterOfWorlds

New member
Oct 1, 2010
1,890
0
0
Digi7 said:
MasterOfWorlds said:
Digi7 said:
But I'm perfectly comfortable with my straight-as-an-arrow sexuality. Hell, I kissed a bi guy on the cheek at a party a while ago (as a joke). That's how comfortable I am.
Nope, you're clearly uncomfortable in your sexuality. Congrats.

I agree though, it is a real pain that people take that point of view on so many things.
Wait, I can't tell... Was that sarcasm? I'm perfectly straight, and I am comfortable enough in that that I could kiss that guy on the cheek without having any feelings for him at all. It's an ironic joke. Har har :)
Yes, it was sarcasm. It's just that through the perspective of some people, as you know, that would be considered insecure. I'm 100% secure in my sexuality, but I wouldn't kiss a guy even as a joke. Mostly because the idea just doesn't ever cross my mind.
 

MasterOfWorlds

New member
Oct 1, 2010
1,890
0
0
Asuka Soryu said:
Yeah, I'm comfortable with it. If it existed. I just don't think having sex would really appeal to me. I kinda wanna date, but sex really doesn't have much appeal to me.
But...you're Asuka, I thought you wanted to jump Kaji's bones? o_O
 

thom_cat_

New member
Nov 30, 2008
1,286
0
0
I'm straight.
I don't care about people who ask these questions.
People of other sexualities are of other sexualities, not insecure.

Actually I just don't like guys, I don't want to pull a guy close to me... in fact I'm just not attracted to them. I can't exactly understand how women are attracted to men either! Hence why if a guy likes a guy there's no difference, I don't understand it but I accept the possibility. Just as a guy can feel he's a girl in his mind.
 

ProfessorLayton

Elite Member
Nov 6, 2008
7,452
0
41
I live sort of a "don't ask, don't tell" life where I never actually talk about it because it doesn't matter at all. It's not about being insecure, it's about it being irrelevant. Although I'm sure someone will quote me and say that's exactly what an insecure person would say...

Oh yeah, and your other questions are no and no. Because I don't see why asking questions would make you insecure...
 

Chris^^

New member
Mar 11, 2009
769
0
0
I'm fairly comfortable where I am, doesn't necessarily mean I know where that is, but I'm just happy to go with it haha