Sexual Insecurity?

[steampunk42]

im tottally comfortable with who i ma. and for all my life ive always been ok with anybody who may live by another style....their choice, and their happy with it...so i says go with it

 

[Engarde]

I am.... in a strange situation. I have no problems with who I am or what I am into...but I cannot stand public displays of affection and have trouble physically showing affection.

I'll hopefully get over it and man up soon.

I don't have problems with people asking about sexuality, but I do have problems with people asking (well, making fun of) my uncomfortability around public displays of affection.

 

[8bitlove2a03]

I'm quite secure in knowing my sexuality. I can't say that I feel entirely secure living with my sexuality in Kansas, but I'm pretty secure in knowing what my sexuality is.

Do you consider people who ask questions about other orientations to be insecure in their own sexuality? Would you consider any orientation other than heterosexual to be insecure if they asked questions about other people's sexuality?

It is very interesting that you ask the same question in two slightly different ways as to imply that the same kinds of questions should be considered differently based on the orientation they're asked from. In general I don't think there's any reason to assume a hetero is questioning their own sexuality just because they are asking questions about other orientations. The obvious exceptions to this are young teens who too young to have fully grasped their own sexuality, and anyone asking questions of a more *ahem* racy nature.

As for the other question regarding the other orientations, I would actually have to argue the opposite. Our world is a heteronormative one. If someone could actually grow up without any knowledge of heterosexuals, I would be absolutely flabbergasted. This would lead me to think that a non-heterosexual showing an interest would possibly questioning their sexuality to some degree.

 

[Nieroshai]

Just came out about being bi to my girlfriend. She understands but really no one else I know would understand. So yes I am kinda insecure.

 

[Fr]anc[is]

I'm pretty secure, but not especially confident about it if that makes sense.

 

[ModsDeleteThisAccountPlease]

Let me put it like this, "STRAIGHT PRIDE!"

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

It is very interesting that you ask the same question in two slightly different ways as to imply that the same kinds of questions should be considered differently based on the orientation they're asked from. In general I don't think there's any reason to assume a hetero is questioning their own sexuality just because they are asking questions about other orientations. The obvious exceptions to this are young teens who too young to have fully grasped their own sexuality, and anyone asking questions of a more *ahem* racy nature.

I worded the questions differently because, as you pointed out, we are a predominately heterosexual society. The person that said that I was insecure in my own sexuality specifically said that it made me look "gay" and another supported him but was a little different saying that I was "insecure." When I was thinking about it later, I wondered if there was a difference between the perceptions of someone who would otherwise be heterosexual questioning it, versus someone who is otherwise homosexual or another orientation, considering that most people from what I have seen have pretty much been their orientation from birth, or at least feel that way.

So, would homosexual people see someone who they knew to be homosexual and happened to be quesitoning it, see them as insecure?

I suppose to ask that question, you'd first have to establish how people of other orientations perceive each other.

Do homosexuals see other homosexuals as normal and heterosexuals as weird? I've seen a few homosexual people on here respond to my thread about kissing in public and a few said that they were uncomfortable when they saw heterosexual couples kissing, but I don't know if it's because they're heterosexual people kissing or because they're trying to eat each others' faces.

 

[Kermi]

I'm straight. I've never questioned it. What other people do is their business, and doesn't bother me. As long as no one's getting hurt... unless that's what they're into, anyway.

 

[Pain Is Inevitable]

I'm so straight I can shave my armpits and suck d*ck.

Oh wait...

 

[Wolfwind]

I'm pretty comfortable with my sexuality. To the extent where I often make jokes with friends just to get a good laugh from their reactions. For example;

Me: Hey, you wanna meet up and hit Wendy's or something?

Friend: Yeah, sure, I'll swing by your place in about 20 minutes.

Me: Sweet. I wonder what I should wear for our DATE?

Friend: I'll fucking murder you!

Me: Hahahaha!

Anyways, I don't think that people asking questions about other orientations means that they're insecure about theirs. You can be curious without being.... well..... curious!

 

[flim.geek.chic]

I'm comfortablely ... Bi I guess is the best way to put it. I love whom I love when I love them. Right nowI'm in a relationship with a wonderful guy but in highschool I was dating (secretly because of her parents) a Vivasious young woman. I've never felt ashamed of it, only a little confused at first.

 

[Asuka Soryu]

Yeah, I'm comfortable with it. If it existed. I just don't think having sex would really appeal to me. I kinda wanna date, but sex really doesn't have much appeal to me.

 

[Ham_authority95]

In one of my recent threads, someone said that since I post a lot of threads regarding sexuality and ask questions regarding the various orientations, it makes me look insecure. While I'm not terribly offended by such a remark, it got me to thinking about it a bit.

How many of you are comfortable with your sexuality? I suppose knowing your sexuality and coming to terms with it, as it were, aren't exactly the same thing. Some of us have always known that we're one orientation or another, but some of us take time to realize it and even do our best to deny it from time to time.

So my questions for this thread are fairly straightforward I think.

Are you comfortable with your sexuality? Do you consider people who ask questions about other orientations to be insecure in their own sexuality? Would you consider any orientation other than heterosexual to be insecure if they asked questions about other people's sexuality?

I'm sure there are more questions that I could add, so feel free to discuss any points you feel may be relative but not covered by the questions.

Same rules apply here as in all of my threads, keep in civil please.

I've only had sex with females and I only fap to female pictures, so 100% secure.

Anyone who says "That's fucking gay, dude!" to any habit I have will be ignored because of the above facts.

 

[Ham_authority95]

I'm so straight I can shave my armpits and suck d*ck.

Oh wait...

fucking hilarious. I might repeat this to the next male I interact with...

 

[keve4433]

Ya know I've never really thought about it. I guess you could say that though I'm not particularly sure about my sexuality at the moment, I still feel comfortable with it.

 

[default]

But I'm perfectly comfortable with my straight-as-an-arrow sexuality. Hell, I kissed a bi guy on the cheek at a party a while ago (as a joke). That's how comfortable I am.

Nope, you're clearly uncomfortable in your sexuality. Congrats.

I agree though, it is a real pain that people take that point of view on so many things.

Wait, I can't tell... Was that sarcasm? I'm perfectly straight, and I am comfortable enough in that that I could kiss that guy on the cheek without having any feelings for him at all. It's an ironic joke. Har har

 

[Thaluikhain]

I'm totally ok with my sexuality. But I really wish straight people wouldn't parade themselves in front of me...I don't care what you do in private, but could you at least pretend to be gay in public?

[small]Yeah, I stole that line from a float at the Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras[/small]

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

I couldn't be more secure about my sexuality than I am already. I'm straight and content about it.

 

[blankedboy]

I'm pretty confused at the moment, I thought I was bi for a while, accepted that, thought I was gay, accepted that, now I'm thinking I might be bi again. I've given up trying to make sense of it

 

[Mimssy]

I'm not uncomfortable or ashamed, but I do sometimes hesitate to tell certain people out of fear of what they may do. I wouldn't change who I am at all. I just have moments when who I am can bring me pain if that makes any sense- I'm at a loss for words to describe it.