Vault101 said:
Yokai said:
Vault101 said:
CM156 said:
When my cousin "Krista" told me they were becoming "Kris" (I understand that Transgendered =/= gay) , I was a bit shocked, and told them I needed a moment.
We have a decent relationship, and I call him the older brother I never had (Which he really likes)
so she had a sex change?
I wasnt even sure that was physically possible..as female to male (if thats what happened)
your right in being Transgendered and gay isnt the same thing, I found it made alot more sense if I imagined them as (in this case...I think) a man but he has a females body
Personally, I don't quite get transgenderism. I'm not even remotely homophobic and I have many gay friends, so I guess it makes me a horrible supporter of double standards, but I just feel sorry for them. I don't understand how someone could be so unhappy with their very genetic makeup that they feel the need to undergo traumatic surgery to change it. Couldn't they just, you know, act more feminine/masculine/whatever, rather than subject themselves to a flawed process that's more likely to alienate them from others? I certainly don't want to condemn anyone's choice, it just makes me sad when I see or hear about people who thought the change was necessary.
As for the OP: Yeah, I'd not have a bit of problem with it. I might be a little surprised if I had previously had them pegged as straight, but I certainly wouldn't react negatively in any way. Basically, good for them for coming out.
assuming your male how would you feel if you woke up one day, and you had breasts and yeah that other part (no more man sword)
ok mabye the first reaction might be AWSOME! I could explore myself ect...and be a lesbian totally hot!!
but that aside that your now expected to act all feminine, and if not then I supose you could go down the butch lesbian route, but would that really be you? in your head your not a woman your a man
I watched the movie Trasnamerica a while ago, and as I said before, I stoped looking at the main charachter as a man dressed as a woman, but instead a women, who had male genitals, which she said she found "disgusting" and repulsive,
I mean she was a woman not a gay man, or a man who dresses up as a woman, but she could never FULLY be a woman...who she was untill she had her body changed
I mean Id imagine they are happy when they are fully changed, and thats whats important
That's basically what I thought too, for a while. I guess I should explain where my perspective comes from.
Three years ago, a family I knew split up when the mother decided she was lesbian after being happily married to a man for twenty years. Immediately after this, their daughter, who had been quite comfortable with her femininity up to this point, suddenly got the idea that she was a man stuck in a woman's body. She went through the hormone treatment and such, but honestly, she still looks and sounds like a girl, yet gets very defensive when people refer to her as such. Now, before this, I would have supported her choice and done whatever I could to help her acclimate, but the fact that it occurred right after a traumatic divorce and sexual confusion among her parents makes me think her sudden transgenderism was the result of psychological stress as opposed to some deep-seated belief.
Essentially, she's been through the expensive and undoubtedly taxing operations and hormone treatments and such, but is still unmistakably female, and is now less happy than she was because everyone still refers to her as such. What I see is that she made a poorly-thought-out decision as a result of trauma, and now has to live with her choices even though the drawbacks outweigh the benefits. That's why I'm not entirely supportive of transgenderism, because it appears to be a mindset that can be brought on by outside influences and the processes involved can permanently alter a person, but not always in the way they intended. With our current medical knowledge it's impossible to completely switch genders, so why put oneself through an essentially cosmetic process with a variable success rate at the risk of one's entire identity? Maybe this girl was the exception to the rule, but it's something to think about.
Sorry about the rambly wall of text; this has been kicking around in my head for a while.
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