GrimTuesday said:
For discussion, have you ever had an experience like this, how did you react?
I have had damn near the exact experience. I have 4 older brothers (and one twin brother who is older) When we went to lollapalooza (i was 11 or 12.) My eldest brother, KJ (aged about 20-21 at the time) who was always a [a href=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hung_Ga]paragon of manliness[/a] in [a href=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bull_riding]his endeavors[/a], standing nearly 7 feet tall, I always looked up to him as what a tough guy is supposed to be, a man's man.
Then he got a little drunk and started making out with guys. So yeah.
I will admit at first I resented KJ. I felt like he betrayed our family, he was supposed to be the oldest and set the example for the rest of us. Only my 4th oldest brother Magnus (about 13-14 at the time), readily accepted KJ and said it's no big deal. But it took me a year or two to get past the 'weirds' and see that KJ wasn't any different he was still, tough and a good person. I even apologized to him for being distant and immature. When he was ready to tell our parents he had all his brothers sitting with him. My dad was unsurprised and unphased. My mother was upset for a few days but than said 'as long as your being safe i'm glad your happy.' My grandparents were pretty much kept in the dark but i'm sure they figured it out eventually.
Almost 20 years have passed since then my brother KJ is in his forties. No one in my extended family even thinks twice about it and he's been with the same guy for like 10 years now. It was hard seeing him and his partner struggle with when they wanted to adopt and never were able to do it successfully (they live in florida FYI) I think it's bullshit because him and his partner are very caring and excellent with the nieces/nephews, responsible never missed a mortgage payment in 8 years, stable jobs. What more does the state of Florida want?
Sorry that was a bit of a long pointless story.