So i'm going to confess my feelings to my crush.

[BENZOOKA]

Go ahead and do it.

You'll regret a hell of a lot more not doing it, than actually doing it.

I admit I bailed out from few that kind of situations when I was younger than you. Those don't bother me anymore, but back then, for quite a while those really did bother; that I didn't say some things to certain girls.

 

[Ima842]

You're not going to get a good response from people over the internet who don't know your crush. At all. The most we know is that your crush has a vagina, and there's no such thing as a code of conduct on how to deal with all people who have that set of genitalia.

well she's a pretty standart girl I often speak to her.

 

[Ghengis John]

Eh just be yourself man and tell her you're interested in her before some other guy does. If she doesn't like you for you, then find a girl who does.

Also this may sting little. I've never been rejected, but then again I never move on a girl without months of prep work and research.

 

[Ima842]

Hit her with a dragon.

But I donk have a Dragon, I'm screwed

Everyone else has pretty much covered everything so, umm... use words, preferably in a sentence form.

Damn I wrote her a poem in binary code.

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

Hit her with a dragon.

But I donk have a Dragon, I'm screwed

Yes. Yes you are. Good luck, buddy.

 

[dark_seraph]

This may be my first post...

From my experience, having admitted that I 'had a crush' not once but twice, I would suggest not using those words or making it a huge admission.

Just ask the girl out and don't make it appear like a huge deal. You lose a lot of ground with admitting a crush.

Oh man, bad memories. Can I have some of that whiskey?

 

[LightspeedJack]

Yeah, that, do you have any usefull advice.
Edit: Is a she.
Edit2: If I was in the US i will be starting High school.

Be casual.

 

[hurfdurp]

Aww, that's so exciting, I wish I was worrying about that. I say just do it, start getting experience while you're young or you'll end up like me and my fleshlight.

 

[Gralian]

Confess? You make it sound like a dirty little secret.

Just don't be too nervous. Don't be too arrogant, either. Be confident, but not over-confident. Be assertive about how you feel, but don't push her into answering with the reply you're hoping for. And for the love of god, don't come on too strong. That's always a put off.

I suppose you could come out with something like 'Look, i think you're really cool, and i'd like to go out with you sometime. What do you say?" or something like that. Try to act casual. It's only high school.

Be prepared for rejection.

You should also make sure she isn't currently with someone before you ask her out, too, or that could make for an uncomfortable situation.

Beware of being put in 'the friend zone'.

Good luck!

 

[Droppa Deuce]

Just don't faff about with it. Be direct. Don't come across too needy though. And for fuck sake, DO IT IN PERSON.

Perfect response.

And whatever the outcome, it'll add to your experience. Another lesson learnt.

Good luck bruh

 

[e2density]

glhf!
tell us how it goes.

 

[Nouw]

Use Oldspice. Everything else in this thread is now redundant.

You can also try by simply telling her but I should warn you, being too open has it's downsides as I learnt that the hard way.

 

[Darkpumpkin 21]

2 things, 1- i'm used to getting rejected, me not really being good at anything more then not caring what other people think and me and the girls that said no r still friends, 2- Good luck, just say words, prefebly ones that get her to say yes

 

[II2]

I've been through dozens of painful, confusing, and down right miserable excuses for relationships and attempted relationships. I do have a wife now though. So please understand that this is the voice of experience and not that I'm trying to bring you down.

You're screwed.

Chances are she already knows about your feelings and just tactfully hasn't brought it up because she doesn't feel the same. You are NEVER as good at hiding your feelings as you think you are.

Besides, once she views you as a friend then there's no going back. No matter how much she says she wishes she could find someone just like you, it will never actually be... you. Welcome to the hell that is being in love with a friend of yours.

This guy's experience is subjective TRUTH (for him) and he's trying to give it to you straight... but, I recommend ignoring everything quoted, excepting that if you end up in unrequited love - cut your loses and cash out early; it's a painful dead end.

You aren't screwed.

The 'ladder' theory most people are familiar with is funny, but basically bullshit. The ladyfolk communicate differently, but they're just as human and want much the same things as guys

My advice is two part:

1) Don't TELL her how you feel; SHOW it, with confidence. Hang out, have some drinks, hold her hand, see how she reacts. Let romantic affection grow organically, not with a statement/request that basically reads "will you be my girlfriend, please?"

2) Number One is how I'd generally recommend doing things, but everyone's different. There are girls that respond better to verbal advances. If you're set on "confessing your feelings", don't say it like you're sorry about it - confessions imply penitence. Just throw it down, honest but upbeat - "Ya know, I think you're really awesome and I've got some real feelings for you; not expecting anything, but I wanted you to know". Just an example: use your own words.

G'luck, young lover. ^_^

 

[Jamous]

Yeah, that, do you have any usefull advice.
Edit: Is a she.
Edit2: If I was in the US i will be starting High school.

Everyone else seems to have got the right idea across to you already; I can only add that just asking her would be a good idea. When I asked out my GF (couple of years older than you I think) I bumbled and stumbled over my words a lot. Just ask her. Take a minute to collect yourself, and ask her. Wishing you all the best, good man.

I've been through dozens of painful, confusing, and down right miserable excuses for relationships and attempted relationships. I do have a wife now though. So please understand that this is the voice of experience and not that I'm trying to bring you down.

You're screwed.

Chances are she already knows about your feelings and just tactfully hasn't brought it up because she doesn't feel the same. You are NEVER as good at hiding your feelings as you think you are.

Besides, once she views you as a friend then there's no going back. No matter how much she says she wishes she could find someone just like you, it will never actually be... you. Welcome to the hell that is being in love with a friend of yours.

I'd been really good friends with my girlfriend for a couple of years before we got together. She did think it was a bit weird at first, but she liked me too. We've since been together for over a year, and that doesn't look to be changing. Just saying that it does happen; as infrequently as that might be.

 

[gallaetha_matt]

Depends on her alignment. Evil aligned women tend to enjoy displays of power and brute force, so beat up/magic a weaker classmate to express your dominance. Good aligned women like nice, stable men who look out for other people and animals. Buy a box of kittens/puppies/babies and arrange for them to be crushed somehow (this is your crush, not mine; but I like to use railway tracks for this). Then swoop in and save them in the nick of time; you'll be a hero and she'll probably make the first moves. Just make sure she's watching though, and for the love of Cthulu don't let her find out you were the one that endangered your box of squishy things in the first place.

Although chances are she's probably one of those damned neutral aligned chicks. They can be hard to predict. Try to fall between the two extreme examples I illustrated above. About all you can do is ask her out in person at the most comfortable and convenient time for the both of you.

And for the love of Llolth don't fail your charisma roll. Then you'll be a laughing stock in front of everybody.

 

[Sacman]

The most useful advice ever told to me:

There's no point your gonna be shot down anyway...<.<

 

[NezumiiroKitsune]

Listen to these some of these guys advice, I wish I'd had it way back in high school, I made some really obvious clumsy mistakes; I still wince at the thought of it. However most relationships that occur during high school are doomed for reasons that become more clear as you the fog dissapates, so don't beat yourself up and spiral if this doesn't go down as you'd like, it's significance is at this point dubious at best. Not that I'm saying you won't spend the rest of your lives to together disgustingly blissful and happy within a bubble of utter indifference, but I wouldn't free up the next 30 years just yet.

Damn that was longer than I intended.

Oh I should definitely second, if you've been friends or known one another a while, as this thread seems to be hinting towards, yeah she already knows. It takes years of experience to hide how you feel, years of experience and alcohol.

 

[lokun489]

I'm tempted to do the same thing actually. If I weren't such a coward...

 

[CatsAttackAgain]

Its pretty difficult to get yourself to go for it.
Im the strong and silent type, so girls are usually too intimidated to go out with me (that must be it), but when it does work out, I follow a few rules:
Don't exadurate, you're young, a simple crush feels like the love of your life, but its not.
Don't let your mind wander. An erection at the wrong time can really mess up a conversation.
Be confident. Stay calm.
Stick to the point.
Be yourself. Some people think this wouldn't work, but if the girl doesn't like you for who you are, then you're better off without her.
GO FOR IT.
Feel free to edit my post with your own rules and ideas.