So Let's Talk About Sex....

[Betancore]

I don't really care for casual sex myself, but I'm not into the whole saving myself for the right person either. As far as my first experience went, I can safely say that I'm glad I didn't, since I'd rather screw up with the wrong person than with the right person. Then when you find the right person, or at least someone you experience a strong emotional connection with or whatever, you know more or less what you're doing and everyone can enjoy it a little bit more.

So I'm sort of on the fence. I don't go out there and attempt to have sex with as many people as possible, but I reckon if you don't try at all, you're missing out on a bit. I know a guy (don't we all?) who has sex with most of the women he meets, and still claims that he's just looking for a relationship. But hey, I have reason enough to believe that it's all consensual, so I'm not about to tell him to stop or anything. Anyway, I don't think sex should be treated too lightly, but it shouldn't be taken too seriously either. In the end, it's just to make babies. Everything else is just a by-product. As long as you're aware of the consequences of what you're doing, and you're not hurting anyone in doing it, then you're fine by me.

 

[Eldarion]

Or more specifically, your feelings towards casual sex and romantic sex.

Just something I'm curious to find out, how does the Escapist feel about open relationships, casual sex or people who sleep around a lot?

This is something I've been wondering about for some time now but never really got around to asking it. I was talking with a certain user here who shall not be named, who is in full support for casual sex and open relationships. Now, I think I've made my stance on the subject clear by now, but for those of you who don't know, I am the type of person who wants to wait for someone I love until I have sex so needless to say, I don't agree in the least with those types of people who go round having sex with as many people as possible.

Note that I'm in no way saying my way of thinking is better, it just works best for me. I personally don't see the point in going around fucking everyone you possibly can when you have your hands to give you the same satisfaction. For example, I know a girl who is 19 and has had sex with 29 men. And she lost her virginity at 17.

Now I may be a prude or I may be close minded with an old fashioned way of thinking but am I the only one who is bothered when you hear about people like this?

And she's not the worst I know. Some are in the triple digits and they're not even 30. Some friends I know have friends at that age (19) who are in the hundreds. Personally, I don't see the point of that. Thinking about things like that makes me very uncomfortable and I know that's just me but I can't be the only one.

I'm all for sexual freedom, but when it gets to that point, it becomes a little much.

So, Escapist, what do you think about all this?

For those of you wondering, I am 16, a virgin and an atheist, so my opinions on sex are not affected by religious influence.

Old fashioned, just like you. I think it it supposed to be special.

 

[Sebenko]

Meh, I've slept with... a few people.

Not many. But I'm already tired of random sex. Seriously. It was fun and all, but explaining stuff to new people, making sure they're not an STD infested whore, etc. etc., then ending up with some mediocre sex because we don't really know each other or our likes and dislikes wasn't really that good.

Meanwhile, doing stuff with my boyfriend is great- we don't need to spend ages dicking around with finding out what we like. Great sex on tap, so to speak.

 

[Meanmoose]

Having sex for fun is totally fine... It's not like that's going to ruin sex with a partner you love later. Sex to me is either good or fantastic!

 

[Timmehexas]

Meh, I've slept with... a few people.

Not many. But I'm already tired of random sex. Seriously. It was fun and all, but explaining stuff to new people, making sure they're not an STD infested whore, etc. etc., then ending up with some mediocre sex because we don't really know each other or our likes and dislikes wasn't really that good.

Meanwhile, doing stuff with my boyfriend is great- we don't need to spend ages dicking around with finding out what we like. Great sex on tap, so to speak.

Sex in tap form you say? Where would I find said tap?

Is it wrong that I giggled just a tiny bit when I read the words dicking around? Well if thats wrong then I don't want to be right.

 

[Thisbedutch]

Sex is good.
I really dislike how a woman will get branded a slut/whore/slag, while the man will get high fived and told to "get in there" as long as no one is getting emotionaly hurt or physically, then shag away.

It's called Slut-Shaming, a well known sexist phenomena. Basically, as long as you use your head (no...pun intended...) and are safe, there's nothing wrong with sex. There are a lot of people who still infer morality based on sexuality, which is kind of ridiculous because morality really has nothing to do with something as primitive as intercourse.

 

[iLikeHippos]

I think it's how you value yourself.
If you think you need to put your needs to the maximum before anything else, casual sex is for you!

But if you'd rather just leave it to someone you actually have another interest in than eroticism (did I spell that right? Is that even a word?), than commitment sex might be something.

Personally, I choose the latter. I really can't be bothered by hyenas with delicious bodies. I need someone I can share interests with, cause... It's weird meeting people you've had sex with, but broken up with later, and be forced to meet day and day. For me, anyhow.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

I'm more of a romantic and although I do have a bit of a perve when I see an attractive person, I don't think I could ever just have sex for the sake of having sex, I need a spark to be there an emotional attachment. And some people just like to have some fun, to each there own.

Sex is about procreation anyway, that's why it exists...to make babies. We're such a self involved and narcissistic species that we make it about us.

Gah damn it, I knew I was doing it wrong.

I don't stuff my ears with cotton wool before I play the piano...

That's my feeling. As I said, I have no real sex drive to start with, and using condoms sucks hard.

 

[gynotikolobomass]

I'm 21 and still a virgin.
And I also feel that I may never find someone I'd want to do it with.
And I've been with many girlfriends.

 

[SuperCombustion]

and now to quote from Yu-Gi-Oh the Abridged Series:
"Now Yugi, playing card games is alot like making love; It usually involves two people and is often done on a table, and the older you are the less fun it is. Also you often feel a deep shame afterwards. So always remember to wear a condom while playing card games..."

that pretty much sums it up ^_^

 

[FamoFunk]

I'm more of a romantic and although I do have a bit of a perve when I see an attractive person, I don't think I could ever just have sex for the sake of having sex, I need a spark to be there an emotional attachment. And some people just like to have some fun, to each there own.

Sex is about procreation anyway, that's why it exists...to make babies. We're such a self involved and narcissistic species that we make it about us.

Gah damn it, I knew I was doing it wrong.

I don't stuff my ears with cotton wool before I play the piano...

That's my feeling. As I said, I have no real sex drive to start with, and using condoms sucks hard.

Argh! I hate this attitude that "condoms suck" no wonder why STI's and underage pregnancies are so high. I think some people really need to be educated in safe sex and STI's

 

[Engarde]

I totally agree with you OP, and it shall remain in my mind as something special for the utmost romatic intimacy with someone truly special. Alot of people I know are not like that, and I find it....a bit disgusting, and well, unmoral.
16 and virgin too, for anyone interested (such a terrible joke I just made......)

 

[Sebenko]

Is it wrong that I giggled just a tiny bit when I read the words dicking around? Well if thats wrong then I don't want to be right.

Pun totally intended.

Argh! I hate this attitude that "condoms suck" no wonder why STI's and underage pregnancies are so high. I think some people really need to be educated in safe sex and STI's

They do. They suck harder than me.

 

[MicrosoftPaysMe]

Safe sex is great sex
better where a latex
cuz you don't want that lay text
to read "I think I'm late ex"
... Thats all I got

 

[Timmehexas]

For some reason it double posted instead of editing, just ignore this space.

 

[Timmehexas]

Is it wrong that I giggled just a tiny bit when I read the words dicking around? Well if thats wrong then I don't want to be right.

Pun totally intended.

Thank god I just thought it was my 6 years of repressed sexuality hyper sexualising everything.


And my response to virginity in general...

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, there seems to be some sought of rush going on now days that the quicker you lose your virginity the cooler you are. People like different things some people would rather just have a bit of fun with sex and others want to wait not particularly for the person they're going to spend the rest of there lives with but at least with someone they care about.

I'm still a virgin but as I only came out 3 days ago, I haven't really had much of a chance to form any kind of relationship... Although I did have my first open man crush on the train to work yesterday it was totally short lived because he got off at the next station. I'll never forgive him for it.

Argh! I hate this attitude that "condoms suck" no wonder why STI's and underage pregnancies are so high. I think some people really need to be educated in safe sex and STI's

They do. They suck harder than me.

Oi no stop that! Thats just silly, all of you its just silly.

Spoiler

 

[Sebenko]

I'm still a virgin but as I only came out 3 days ago, I haven't really had much of a chance to form any kind of relationship... Although I did have my first open man crush on the train to work yesterday it was totally short lived though he got off at the next station. I'll never forgive him for it.

Well don't start waving your hands and calling things fabulous, or I will be forced to burn your house down with a rainbow flag.

Also, don't get into all that weird gay shit- gay bars and clubs. Wow, the gay "scene" really is a cesspit. I met by boyfriend though the joys of the internet and having my luck maxed out. There are sexy desperate gay geeks out there. But be careful.

I also hate parades and quiche.

EDIT: And children, people, and happiness in general. And... nah, that's enough.

Oi no stop that! Thats just silly, all of you its just silly.

Spoiler

Never!

 

[Timmehexas]

I'm still a virgin but as I only came out 3 days ago, I haven't really had much of a chance to form any kind of relationship... Although I did have my first open man crush on the train to work yesterday it was totally short lived though he got off at the next station. I'll never forgive him for it.

Well don't start waving your hands and calling things fabulous, or I will be forced to burn your house down with a rainbow flag.

Also, don't get into all that weird gay shit- gay bars and clubs. Wow, the gay "scene" really is a cesspit. I met by boyfriend though the joys of the internet and having my luck maxed out. There are sexy desperate gay geeks out there. But be careful.

I also hate parades and quiche.

Haha don't worry about that I have 3 sisters and they're all complaining that I'm not a very fun gay brother. I don't go shopping, I don't wear pink or rainbows, I don't think things are fabulous and I didn't suddenly acquire a lisp. The gayest thing I do (except for the whole liking men thing) is cross my legs when I sit at a desk, I dunno why but I always do.

 

[Sebenko]

Haha don't worry about that I have 3 sisters and there all complaining that I'm not a very fun gay brother. I don't go shopping, I don't wear pink or rainbows, I don't think things are fabulous and I didn't suddenly acquire a lisp. The gayest thing I do (except for the whole liking men thing) is cross my legs when I sit at a desk, I dunno why but I always do.

Gayest thing I do is have sex with dudes.

 

[Timmehexas]

Haha don't worry about that I have 3 sisters and there all complaining that I'm not a very fun gay brother. I don't go shopping, I don't wear pink or rainbows, I don't think things are fabulous and I didn't suddenly acquire a lisp. The gayest thing I do (except for the whole liking men thing) is cross my legs when I sit at a desk, I dunno why but I always do.

Gayest thing I do is have sex with dudes.

I said except for that! Stop gaying up this thread ya homo, god.