So Let's Talk About Sex....

[jamesworkshop]

my rules of sex

everybody involved wants to be involved
everybody involved is capable of giving consent

Frequency of sexual activity or gender of partners or number of participants is the business of those involved and nobody else.

 

[AlexinChains]

Sex is fun, and I have had a few one-nighters, but it really is best with somebody who cares about you enough to take the time to learn what work for you and learn your body. It really is a 'better when you're ready' scenario. I lost my virginity when I was 17, drunk and exploring Italy, and it didn't do much for my self-worth at the time.

 

[jowo96]

The only point I really take issue to about casual sex is that the people who have it often seem to be obsessed with it, I know a guy that apparently took a course in how to pick up women and at that point I figure that it is a little bit of an unhealthy obsession.

Basically I don't think that sex is important so people boasting about how many people they have been with isn't interesting to me.

 

[dogenzakaminion]

I have experienced both casual sex and sex with someone I actually care about, and while I'm not opposed to the idea of an open relationship, I find that sex with someone you care about and who cares about you is a totally different expereince (for the better, ofc). The most important thing in any relationship is communication and if both partners are aware and comfortable with the situation, there's no reason an open realtionship can't work.

 

[Macgyvercas]

I think that sex should only happen between people who are commited to each other. Casual sex is just silly and without basic precautions, crosses the line into stupid (STD's man. Gotta avoid them). So it makes more sense to wait until you find the right person.

As for me: I'm 21 years old, still a virgin and in no hurry to change that.

 

[Talon_Skywarp]

Oh Casual Sex

Lovely, dirty, shameful acts of drunken passion

Romantic sex...Never had it, I don't exist in a Jennifer Aniston film

 

[Lucifron]

OP

I look down on people who strive to have as many sexual partners as possible, however, I don't give a damn if you have a relaxed attitude toward it. You want to have sex? Fine, go have it with whoever you want, whenever you want, and however you want. I don't care, just don't make a big deal about it. If I was single and wanting to stay single, casual, carefree sex would be on the agenda.
That being said, I still believe that the best sex is had with a stable partner.

 

[Trogdor1138]

I think that sex should only happen between people who are commited to each other. Casual sex is just silly and without basic precautions, crosses the line into stupid (STD's man. Gotta avoid them). So it makes more sense to wait until you find the right person.

As for me: I'm 21 years old, still a virgin and in no hurry to change that.

Agreed with you.

I'm an 18 year old who had sex about... 5 months ago now and have been loving it ever since with my girlfriend who was also a virgin, we'd never been in a relationship beforehand etc. (though I'd made out with a few girls previously, she hadn't ever kissed anyone, I even feel a bit eh about having that, but it did kind of help for one of us to know a bit about what we're doing). We're massively in love and it's just been the best feeling to know that I waited, plus it came sooner than expected for me.

But yeah, stick to it

 

[daubie]

Casual sex and open relationships can be good in theory, but it never works out like you want.
Trust me, I lost a relationship of four years because my girl chose the other guy.

Poly-amorous my ass.

 

[Nex Vesica]

I sort of contradict myself, I'm 100% for open relationships, but can never see myself being in one/being part of one. I don't think there's anything wrong with it just *shrugs* not my style. I'll thumbs up towards casual sex though, used to treasure it more but really I think that was just being naive in my younger years. Under the right circumstances it can be a very romantic act and a way for two (or more if you're into that) people to share an intimate moment and be an expression of love, but it doesn't always have to be and its not like you're doing anything wrong if you throw down with someone else who also just wants to throw down, it'll still be just as special when you do find Mr. or Mrs. Right.

 

[Gordon_4_v1legacy]

I love sexy sex.

I have a dear friend who gets bored very easily in relationships, but is also very afraid to be single. She has a tendency to prefer sex over love. Personally I see nothing wrong with casual sex. If you'd rather fuck than love, then who's to say you're wrong?

For me, personally, I only have sex with someone I'm committed to. It's a very personal thing to me, and I don't like to just give it out for the sake of pleasure. Though the concept of "NO PENIS TIL I GET A RING" is really not suited for me. I take a "try before you buy" stance on that.

Me personally, I prefer monogamy because its actually easier than a casual sex life. You have one person with which to invest your time, and frankly the ensuing intimacy is far more rewarding. Seriously, best one so far. My dear girlfriend and I..well, you know. Then we ordered gourmet pizzas and snuggled in bed watching the Simpsons.

You can't really replace that kind of closeness ladies and gentlemen, its truly something that must be felt to enjoy. Plus, sex with someone you're close too is really fun

 

[Anima the Aeon]

I think less of people who seem to jump into bed with anyone that enters their point of view. I don't see why you would do that. If it were me, I'd find someone to love, to cherish, to be with. Not someone I can toss away after a one night stand or a week's worth of f***ing.

 

[johnsom]

....baby, lets talk about you and me....

 

[Aerodyamic]

Being in an open, polyamorous relationship, I'm totally cool with them, provided that communication is open and paramount in the relationship, and all parties are responsible about their sexual activiites. Mind you, none of the people involved in my situation are randomly sleeping around.

On the other hand, I'm technically the 'slut', in my situation; at last count, I'd slept with more than 4 times more partners than anyone else involved, and being that I'm straight, that cuts the prospective pool in half, immediately.

I find the content of this post to be ironic considering your choice of avatar.

The choice of avatar is supposed to by ironic amusing, particularly during discussions concerning sex....

 

[The Man With the Soap]

She lost her virginity at seventeen? Damn, that's late. My friend's son was born when we were in eighth grade.

I know plenty of people who had to leave school in the 8th grade because they got pregnant.

It may be a little late, but it's still under legal age here.

I don't care about casual sex or intimate sex. It's all ultimately meaningless. Besides, that would require me to care about others.

I'm going to take a shot in the dark and guess that you're a nihilist.

You read me like a book.

 

[thenumberthirteen]

There's a line between casual sex and going at it like rabbits as demonstrated in the OP. Personally I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with someone I didn't feel a romantic connection to (not nesicarrily love per se). As with most things in this subject area I respect peoples viewpoints on the matter and if someone wants to go around having sex like it's going out of style then feel free. Just stay away from me.

 

[Tsun Tzu]

Sex is disgusting, but fun. But it's disgusting...but it's fun. But it's disgusting....but it's fun.

Ahem, sorry, Penn moment.

Me and my current "partner" (That's a whole can of worms best left unmentioned) get into disagreements about this all the time. She claims that my wanting to be out in the world, free to flirt and talk to whoever and whatever, be it about sex or about weather, is akin to wanting to pounce on the nearest available tail at my earliest discretion without so much as asking their name.

This isn't true. I just like being flirtatious, it's apparently in my nature and has been a part of my life for the past decade and a half.

What I actually want is just to be able to...well, be free. I don't want to be married just yet. That doesn't mean that I wouldn't and couldn't be head over heels with someone and they'd then become my world and such, but at present I'm just kind of wandering around in romance.

Sex is sex. It's a biological act brought on by chemical interactions in your brain and a certain subset of pheromones in either party being appealing to the other. Love and romantic involvement are a secondary aspect. You have sex because you want to have sex (masturbation counts too in terms of relieving that desire). You have sex with that particular person because you like that particular person and want to share that aspect of life with them.

I'm not all that jaded really...sex, on a casual level, isn't for me. I don't really like the idea of sharing bodily fluids with a stranger. ;P

 

[BringBackBuck]

I don't go shopping, I don't wear pink or rainbows, I don't think things are fabulous and I didn't suddenly acquire a lisp.

Shhh... if you go around saying things like that they'll kick you off the team you know.

OT: Sex is just sex. It's fun to do. It's fun to do lot's of times with lot's of of people (maybe not all at once though). At my age, I would think less of a person who was a virgin, than someone whose number of partners was 100.

 

[Da Chi]

One line that always makes me smile is from Red vs. Blue
"Women are like Voltron, The more you hook up, the better it gets."
Personally I like having a healthy sex life involving new people. I'm not going around and humping everyone I see, but I certainly think sex with randoms shouldn't be ignored. It's just awesome!

 

[EeveeElectro]

Ha, I think people like that deserve to get sexual diseases. They obviously don't regard their sexual health and well being, so balls to them. (Quite literally...)
It's usually because those people have incredibly low self esteem, sleeping around ups it for a while but destroys it when they realise they were used. I pity them more than anything.
I'm probably just a prude though, I only sleep with my boyfriends and pretty much everything on TV seems to think it's fine to cheat on your significant other.