So Let's Talk About Sex....
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as someone who has a casual sex buddy at the moment, it would be hypocritical of me to say that i believe in romantic attitudes but i can understand why people wont have sex until they are in love. to be honest i dont see sex as that much of a big deal :/. never have, probably never will.
I'm not going to speak out against people having multiple sexual partners (I'd be a hypocrite if I did) but I think as long as you're responsible then there's no problem with it. It's people who sleep around with no care leaving behind a trail of illegitimate children and STDs that piss me off. They're also the ones that seem to be the most prevalent these days, at least around here.
Dawww. I am a little feminine featured rascal ^-^yoyo13rom said:
And yes to both. I don't believe in any form of marriage as I don't really understand what a piece of paper changes. People say "Well, it's because they're making a commitment to one another" but how is that commitment any different than saying "I love you and want to be with you for the rest of my life"
You can still love someone unconditionally and not be married.
Some people always go "I love you and want to be with you for the rest of my life" without meaning it. Financial risk(you lose half of everything if you divorce), the obligation to socially share your life with an other(for better or for worse), and ritualistic/religious marriage are meant to show/reinforce to the significant other your true feelings.Julianking93 said:
It's like a leap of faith, imo.
"I love you!" "Prove it!"
"I'm binding my soul to yours." "Not good enough."
"I'm going to share all my wealth with you" "Still not good enough"
"I'm going to have a baby with you"(you need a family name, otherwise the poor kid will just be confused) "Still not good enough"
"I'm going to legally let you take everything(or half of it) from me if I ever do you wrong" "Hm... we're getting somewhere!"
And so on.
That doesn't sound like love. Rather it sounds like some greedy **** wanting to divorce you for all your shit.yoyo13rom said:
That's why I don't believe in marriage. True love doesn't need all that bullshit. When you're really in love with someone, you know it and you believe them when they say it. When you need so much reassurance that they really love you, perhaps that love isn't all that after all.-
Yep that's pretty much my opinion. Hey I'm a man, I can't help it. I think a lot of people (including myself) are all "oh man, sex with the one you love only, yeah that's how it's done man" until they actually have sex. Then it's "shit, why the FUCK don't I do this more often?"Souplex said:
Edit: I read some more of the posts. I'm a little surprised how many people on this site think of sex as such a magical and precious thing. It's putting a penis in a vagina (or other place) and moving back and forth. It's humans' natural urge to reproduce and it feels good. That's it.
Married and we have a girlfriend we haven't had sex with. We are for commitment and love but we also want to have a bit of extra fun. That is my viewpoint, "whatever works for you" and make sure it actually is working.
It doesn't sound like love because it isn't. Marriage has almost nothing to do with love. It may arise from love, but it's merely correlated and not related. It's a social construct that was adopted to signify possession (whether it be a person or object).Julianking93 said:
OT: To steal a line from the great Lewis Black: "Everything is better in anticipation... but the moment is reality, and reality always kind of sucks."
That kind of sums up my first experience. It was still awesome, just not nearly as awesome as imagination makes it out to be.
I'm all for casual sex/relationships. But being the grotesque that i am I don't have that option.
But if your gonna be safe, and there is consent, then by all means, fuck anyone ya want. I think calling someone a whore because she likes sex and has had quite a few partners is unfair. If she can't remember a quarter of them because she was so wasted/high and didn't use any protection and did in just a dirty,dirty way (the bad dirty), then I guess that's a reasonable response.
But if your gonna be safe, and there is consent, then by all means, fuck anyone ya want. I think calling someone a whore because she likes sex and has had quite a few partners is unfair. If she can't remember a quarter of them because she was so wasted/high and didn't use any protection and did in just a dirty,dirty way (the bad dirty), then I guess that's a reasonable response.
I find that people can have a very black and white view of "Casual sex partners" and "Relationships"
In my experience, its very easy to live in the grey area. Yes, I've had lasting relationships that meant alot to me, Just as I've had a couple of people with whom we've been using each other as sex toys that lasted upwards of three months.
I don't think of the latter as a romantic relationship, despite the fact that those girls did mean alot to me. An agreement to meet up and screw one anothers brains out could be called casual sex (we certainly called it that) but it sounds like a lot of people only think of casual as one night stands.
In my experience, its very easy to live in the grey area. Yes, I've had lasting relationships that meant alot to me, Just as I've had a couple of people with whom we've been using each other as sex toys that lasted upwards of three months.
I don't think of the latter as a romantic relationship, despite the fact that those girls did mean alot to me. An agreement to meet up and screw one anothers brains out could be called casual sex (we certainly called it that) but it sounds like a lot of people only think of casual as one night stands.
My point exactly.Pingieking said:
Marriage isn't showing your love for one another, it's just to show everyone else that you love each other and honestly, who gives a fuck what anyone else thinks?
Just because society wants you to get married doesn't mean you should. A little piece of paper saying that I'll give you half my shit once you decide this is over doesn't change your feelings towards one another.
Hell, I even know about 6 couples who have come out and admitted that the whole reason they got married was for money.
I don't like sex nor do I like wanking/porn....but a few people here already knew that...you, OP, even questioned it once.
I'm a practitioner of Zen philosophy, but that has nothing to do with it. My self-reasoning has come up with two conclusions:
A) I have erotophobia.
B) I have extreme control over my hormones.
I'm a practitioner of Zen philosophy, but that has nothing to do with it. My self-reasoning has come up with two conclusions:
A) I have erotophobia.
B) I have extreme control over my hormones.
One night stands are for the attractive people you meet who aren't a personality match and monogamous relationships are for attractive people whose personalities do match. (attractiveness in the eye of the beholder)
this is how i treat sex, I may have slept with a larger number of people than average but i have also had three long term fulfilling relationships. sex isn't better either way, it's always different.
Oh and OP your hand is not the same as a shared sexual experience and this will become clear once you lose your virginity
this is how i treat sex, I may have slept with a larger number of people than average but i have also had three long term fulfilling relationships. sex isn't better either way, it's always different.
Oh and OP your hand is not the same as a shared sexual experience and this will become clear once you lose your virginity
Well, I'm 15, and I have basically the same views. There are lots of people in my grade who are having sex all the time (even the people who are gay/bi), and it can honestly really irritate me, especially when sex is held as some symbol of prowess or something, like because you've had sex early on in your life you're somehow better than everyone who would rather wait for love.
Eh..........I'll feel like making a choice when the topic comes up to me irl, if not then, on with my life.
I also really hate that crap in school. =.=....Dango said:
Then one of your friends sucumbs to actually doing it then that just will piss me the h3ll off the deep end...if reasons are ya'know for that.
And to you I give you this.InnerRebellion said:
Us people gotta stick together.
I don't like how people do the whole rule 34 thing to everything. I avoid that stuff as much as possible, though I unfortunatly know a lot of it due to school. -.- (speaking of, I heard teachers in some schools are giving out condoms to kids who are gonna do it -.-...).
For the time being, I have no interest in anything, nor I would ever give pleasure to anything. When the time comes, the time comes.