So you like a girl...

[Robert Ewing]

I usually get to know her over the internet first, then meet up a bit more and finally ask her out.

I'd like to clarify that I don't MEET them on the internet. I am aware of their presence IRL, then I add their email, etc.

 

[Von Strimmer]

Reading this thread makes me realize how I've dismally failed at telling a girl I like her.

I know the feeling. Its easy to say on the internet that its easy to ask girls out but it bloody well isn't.

My strategy? Dont use strategies, it just does not work. Everyone is different, however if I did have a strategy its be friends with them for long enough so you know if you stand a chance and how they would be most comfortably asked out.

 

[martin's a madman]

EDIT 1: Also, for the ladies out there, if your heterosexual, tell us about lads instead.

If you're straight? Do homosexuals not experience the same feelings?

 

[The Funslinger]

How do you deal with it? Do you tell them face to face or over text? Do you go for it and ask them out, or keep it quiet and hope they like you as well? What have you done in the past?

Share tales and experiences and tips as well if you want to

When I find another woman attractive, I usually mention in casual conversation that my spouse and I have an open marriage and enjoy threesomes (and foursomes).

No, I am not kidding.

You'd be surprised how often that technique works. ^^

Open marriage with orgies, eh?

That's the dream...

OT: Well, there's no concrete situation. I usually get a feel for the girl *not like that! D:* and let it go from there. As for the interesting tidbit, I lost my virginity by a river in a field. Which would have been wonderfully romantic if it hadn't been furtively, at night mid-November.

 

[keideki]

Hmmm, usually I just out and out say it. Sometimes it fails, but a large amount of the time it works well, although then I usually mess it up on the date. A lot of women are more open to giving a guy a chance than you think.

 

[Ruwrak]

Crush over her for years, and be the shy person.
Then years later you meet her again and she is about to get married.


Ho well..

 

[KingGolem]

I have a vow of chastity, but I have a fully functional heterosexual male libido. Whenever I feel an attraction towards a female, I just tell myself that it is the animal region of my brain trying to trick me into doing something foolish, like pursuing a relationship. I am twenty years old and have never had intercourse, I have never been in an intimate relationship, and if all goes according to plan, I never will. Surprisingly, dealing with my lesser nature is easy, compared to dealing with all the disrespect and accusations of falsity I receive from my peers and my own family.

 

[boyvirgo666]

Do what i do, push that feeling deep into your stomach until it eventually festers into a disease or mental sickness...thats the dwarven way.

 

[Truly-A-Lie]

You ponder for a bit, text her when she goes on a night out and then she rings you and refers to you to her friends as "this cute guy I met", and then next time you're face to face you bring it up, talk over the situation, "do the bad thing"...

It does happen.

Whether or not you're the kind of person who thinks nothing ever works out for them, or that luck is purely an antagonistic force that is hellbent on keeping you single, you just gotta keep talking to people, keep meeting them and eventually there'll be someone who it seems with no effort on your part you ended up with because things just... worked.

All this "tell them you like them, will they like you back?" stuff you had to go through at school just adds unnecessary pressure that only ever works against you. If you both like each other, chances are you won't need to say it in an awkward confession.

 

[Powereaver]

definately face to face... its easier to "Read" someone that way throws the whole body language into play which is handy

 

[karloss01]

Ask her "does this smell like chloroform?" and then press a cloth to her face.

 

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

This pretty much sums up what I think will happen anytime I approach a girl I like and thus why I generally don't:

If I approached a boy I like, I think they'd punch me. Yes, I'm aware I'm paranoid, why do you ask?

Then this is how you should approach them:

OT: I don't, I guess. I live in a small town and I have high standards. On any given night there should be 1 girl out that I would actually go for, mathematically speaking. However, even that is being generous.

In the event that there is someone out then yeah, I shoot for it. I don't go about my business saying 'oh, you're attractive, can I have your number' I work on making her attracted to me and then the pieces fall into place.

 

[OmniscientOstrich]

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Ah, touche. Though I'd imagine that would work somewhat better with someone I had gotten to know first rather than approaching the cutie at the bar type scenario. And like I said...I'm kinda paranoid about the fear of rejection thing...

 

[Ungenericteen]

I tried to ask a girl face to face once, my legs gave out from anxiety, ended up she was going with friends(it was a dance) ever since then I take my time, or I keep it to myself.

 

[philosophicalbastard]

I'm to much of a coward to do things face to face. The one time I have asked someone out was with a hand made valentine's day card, which I delivered personally.

 

[Svenparty]

I usually send a singing telegram...Hasn't worked yet!

 

[LiberalSquirrel]

I realise that they will never be romantically interested in me, and do nothing as a consequence. Any woman who purports to be romantically interested in me is only interested in exploiting me for profit or amusement.

Now, I doubt that's true. You never know unless you try. The one girl you don't ask could be the one girl that is romantically interested in you, too.

On topic: When I'm interested in a guy... er, well, I'm rather shy, so I rarely do more than flirt a bit. Very subtle flirting, may I add. I'm pretty bad at it. Now, if I were to work up the guts to tell someone, though, I'd prefer to do it face-to-face: I've had guys ask me out via text, and it's always struck me as a little callow.

 

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

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Ah, touche. Though I'd imagine that would work somewhat better with someone I had gotten to know first rather than approaching the cutie at the bar type scenario. And like I said...I'm kinda paranoid about the fear of rejection thing...

Yeah, I realised that as I thought of it but I followed through anyway. Pfft, you just need to build confidence, after all the worst thing that could happen is they say no and you never see them again. It's like every other stranger just with no added to it; and what's that? Two letters? Man, I shit more than that on a daily basis.

Just stand up straight, shoulders back, head up, big loud voice, smile and "Hi, how are you". Bish, bash bosh, next thing you know you're wondering why you're wondering what happened to your pants and why you're wearing their's.

 

[Michael Hirst]

Face to face, make sure the mood is good, doesn't have to be really romantic but you have to catch her in a good mood. Then say it clear preferably by means of a compliment as well. If you're sincere enough then you've done all you can, it can suck but being rejected at that point is fine, at least you know your bounds with said girl. If she says yes, awesome you sir just got the girl

Final tip if you like someone make it clear early in the relationship (not like 5 minutes after meeting but soon), the friend zone is too easy to fall into if you wait too long. I've had that shit twice because I pussied out on making my feelings clear early on and honestly I think it sucks more than just straight up rejection.

My current girlfriend did it all ass backwards and made the move on me, I'm not complaining though, best girlfriend I've had by far

 

[Shadow flame master]

I do nothing. I have liked a few girls in the past, but I never really told them that I liked them. A few weeks ago, a girl I had a crush on got into a relationship with some dude(don't know him)and I felt kind of bitter because for an entire year of class together, I never told her.

Also, I'm not as social as the "normal" teenager and I have a bit of a temper and a "I don't give a damn" attitude to boot. So if I did tell a girl I liked her, I probally wouldn't be too much fun for her.