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I think it's just a cop-out when a parent doesn't know what to do. The does something bad. You don't know how to discipline your kid? Wack him! It's the brute force approach to punishment.
I turned out to be a great kid. I respect my elders and authority figures, I'm great friends with my mom, act nice in public, and never get aggressive unless provoked. Even then, there's never hitting, only firm and angry words. However, for all intents and purposes, spanking didn't work for me at all.
Tantrums were stopped in their tracks when I was little, I rarely cried, and I was even polite as a kid. The only problem was schoolwork. Every now and then, after a little slip in concentration or a desire to play rather than work, I'd get an F. My mom spanked me for it. I learned immediately that Fs were very, very bad things to get, as were Ds and Cs. But as intelligent as I was, I hated doing homework instead of playing, and I'd still get them. And I'd still get spanked. By the time I was in middle school, I'd become a horrible student due to some bad happenstances outside of my power, and I was a liar. The only thing I lied about was homework. I was terrified to tell my mom. I wasn't spanked by then, but there was still that terrible fear of punishment for something I *knew* was bad and that I shouldn't be doing. I had no will to do it. Bad, yes, but making me feel worse about it never helped. To this day I still lie when I do less than perfect or forget an assignment or two, and I'm a straight A student.
But I've seen the other kids. Sometimes, it's necessary. For me, other forms of punishment/reinforcement should have been used. I didn't need it. But some kids are impolite little shits who hate authority and don't respect anyone but that kid down the street who stole his big brother's weed that one time. Spanking is a way to associate something undesirable for the parent with something undesirable for the kid. I understood it from the get-go, but my work barely improved because I was in a bad mental state.
tl;dr: Works for some kids, but not for all of them.
Tantrums were stopped in their tracks when I was little, I rarely cried, and I was even polite as a kid. The only problem was schoolwork. Every now and then, after a little slip in concentration or a desire to play rather than work, I'd get an F. My mom spanked me for it. I learned immediately that Fs were very, very bad things to get, as were Ds and Cs. But as intelligent as I was, I hated doing homework instead of playing, and I'd still get them. And I'd still get spanked. By the time I was in middle school, I'd become a horrible student due to some bad happenstances outside of my power, and I was a liar. The only thing I lied about was homework. I was terrified to tell my mom. I wasn't spanked by then, but there was still that terrible fear of punishment for something I *knew* was bad and that I shouldn't be doing. I had no will to do it. Bad, yes, but making me feel worse about it never helped. To this day I still lie when I do less than perfect or forget an assignment or two, and I'm a straight A student.
But I've seen the other kids. Sometimes, it's necessary. For me, other forms of punishment/reinforcement should have been used. I didn't need it. But some kids are impolite little shits who hate authority and don't respect anyone but that kid down the street who stole his big brother's weed that one time. Spanking is a way to associate something undesirable for the parent with something undesirable for the kid. I understood it from the get-go, but my work barely improved because I was in a bad mental state.
tl;dr: Works for some kids, but not for all of them.
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I would do it, if I had kids, however only if they were truly doing the wrong thing, and wouldn't listen to you.
However I still feel that most conflicts could be solved with words, it just depends on the child.
My parents probably hit me a total of 3 times, and even then it was barely hard, and it was only if I was being a real douchebag.
However I still feel that most conflicts could be solved with words, it just depends on the child.
My parents probably hit me a total of 3 times, and even then it was barely hard, and it was only if I was being a real douchebag.
It worked on me. I have encountered many children that have need a good spanking. Many parents these days are too afraid that it will permanently scare a child, mainly mentally. It just isn't the case.
This last Thanksgiving when I was at my aunt's house for the big family get together, one of my cousins brought his kids over. His oldest kid, she's like six or seven, I don't remember. She was up in the upstairs tv area with my brother, another cousin, and I. She was running around screaming and knocking stuff over and touching some of my aunt's stuff that she shouldn't touch. The cousin that is the father, just yelled up to her to settle down, of course she didn't stop. Then later my uncle yelled up to her as well. Not once did they come up and do something about her. My brother and I did the best we could to stop her from breaking stuff, but we couldn't doing anything that would really make her stop be wild, because we aren't the parents.
If I have a kid, there will be spanking if things like verbal warnings and time-outs prove unsuccessful.
This last Thanksgiving when I was at my aunt's house for the big family get together, one of my cousins brought his kids over. His oldest kid, she's like six or seven, I don't remember. She was up in the upstairs tv area with my brother, another cousin, and I. She was running around screaming and knocking stuff over and touching some of my aunt's stuff that she shouldn't touch. The cousin that is the father, just yelled up to her to settle down, of course she didn't stop. Then later my uncle yelled up to her as well. Not once did they come up and do something about her. My brother and I did the best we could to stop her from breaking stuff, but we couldn't doing anything that would really make her stop be wild, because we aren't the parents.
If I have a kid, there will be spanking if things like verbal warnings and time-outs prove unsuccessful.
Spanking is an acceptable means of punishing a child. There is no discussion on this matter.
It should however be only a last resort, provided the child doesn't respond to verbal warnings.
It should however be only a last resort, provided the child doesn't respond to verbal warnings.
im against beating a child
but if they do something wrong, then a smack, not too hard but enough to hurt them is fair enough
but if they do something wrong, then a smack, not too hard but enough to hurt them is fair enough
Well, I was never got spanked because I didn't say a word in my youth.
Never, I was just too afraid that anything I would say would do some harm against someone.
So, yeaaah I guess you could say I was always very polite.
Never, I was just too afraid that anything I would say would do some harm against someone.
So, yeaaah I guess you could say I was always very polite.
Spanking... Yeah we should definitely keep spanking...
Oh what, on kids? Whatever you're into, I'm not gonna judge.
But in all seriousness, hitting your kids hard and often isn't an effective method of education. You just let them know that the only way to get your point across is to hit.
Oh what, on kids? Whatever you're into, I'm not gonna judge.
But in all seriousness, hitting your kids hard and often isn't an effective method of education. You just let them know that the only way to get your point across is to hit.
I want my children to obey me out of respect, not fear.
I agree with a light tap on the bum, or hand if they continually misbehave, after a few warnings.
I hate the people who abuse the fact they have control over a child and use that to smack them over every little thing. I remember some disgusting little chav on the bus had a small child in a pram who was crying. Instead of trying to calm the child down, she full on smacked him round the face whenever he would make a noise.
Some woman at the front stood up and said she was absolutely vile and should not treat children like that. The chav replied, "Fuck off, don't tell me how to raise my child."
I agree with a light tap on the bum, or hand if they continually misbehave, after a few warnings.
I hate the people who abuse the fact they have control over a child and use that to smack them over every little thing. I remember some disgusting little chav on the bus had a small child in a pram who was crying. Instead of trying to calm the child down, she full on smacked him round the face whenever he would make a noise.
Some woman at the front stood up and said she was absolutely vile and should not treat children like that. The chav replied, "Fuck off, don't tell me how to raise my child."
