Spongebob Not Good Enough For Ohio Cemetery

[MeChaNiZ3D]

To be fair, it looks fucking ridiculous, but having originally agreed to allow it, I don't think the cemetery should get to back out.

Cemeteries are stupid. All that land being used to plant dead people. It's just social conditioning. Why can't people just cremate their dead and keep their ashes in an urn if they really want to preserve their dead?

That's practically as bad. All that fuel and those jars being used to burn and store dead people. Why can't people just eat their dead and make cutlery out of the bones if they really want to preserve their dead?

 

[SacremPyrobolum]

That Sponge bob looks like it was taken out of a Deviant art post.

If my family members were buried there I'd have thier bones exhumed and moved immediately! I know, to each their own but this is just a little too much!

 

[Mister K]

Can't they just make a normal tombstone with Spongebob's image on it? Just to find a compromise?

 

[Dante dynamite]

NO. Putting tacky and annoying, YET easily removable, objects around the cemetery as a form of protest does not count as desecration in my book. Spray painting, urinating and/or defecating upon, and kicking over headstones however would. And oddly enough so does forcing a family to remove their chosen headstone for a beloved family member.

As you yourself and the obvious complainers have shown, you find the Sponge Bob headstone tacky. Well you know what? TOO FUCKING BAD. Until you or the surrounding plot holders pay for the actual grave space, you do NOT fucking own it. And the owners have the right to decorate the graves of their own family as they see fit. Anything else is just massive hypocrisy.

"Oooh we are offended that someone in a grave not payed for by us looks tacky" Yeah? Well tough shit. What's next? A family of an atheist or satanist buried there is offended by all the graves marked by Christian iconography? Get over yourselves.

FFS! It sickens me to think that so many people would let their own sense of taste override the will of the family to choose their own method of celebrating the life of, and mourning the death of, the deceased. In my book you people are fucking pathetic.

Please keep exaggerating what I said by comparing it to religious insensitivity it truly does demonstrate your point properly. (I'm a Hindu for god sakes we cremate our dead.)

Hypocrites says the person asking to respect other payed plots and advocating that by putting shit on others plots without their consent.

That too fucking bad thing works both ways
"Oooh this family wants to put this custom tombstone in a place of rest, well that's not allowed so though shit"

I'm not offended by it maybe you could try understanding the wishes of the other families that have loved ones buried, instead of thinking that its just pretentiousness. But no the article doesn't focus on them so why the fuck should their opinion matter. I'm saying there should be compromise but you are against the idea that the other families would be unhappy seeing that tombstone in such a place of solemn and the cemetery has the right to regulate the area.
There are others wishes that play in this scenario I'm not asking for a complete override of the families wishes just a tombstone that isn't so out loud (heck even a much smaller version of the Spongebob statue would be okay) but you are getting really worked up over this.

 

[Sarge034]

Actually, the cemetery is on firm legal footing. Even after the contract is signed it may be terminated by either party and all exchanges returned. In short the family is left with exactly what they entered into the deal with.

Depends on what the contract laws are in Ohio, but regardless the cemetery can't return all exchanges. Not technically, at least. The cemetery is unable to return the funereal itself, as an event. One could make the argument that the event itself was a perishable good due to the nature of events (time constraints -the body of the deceased namely- and the associated costs -family/friends out of state travel, the wake, food, ect-). Contract law dealing with perishable good are a little different as after the item is consumed often times there is no way to back out of the contract. Think of it like a burger at a fast food franchise. If the order is wrong and you take a bite or two and realize it is wrong you can get the order fixed, but if you eat the whole thing you are not entitled to another burger made the way you wanted for free even thought he contract was not honored. It is considered a complaint after the goods were accepted by both parties and thus the statute of limitation closed out.

Or how about this. What if a cemetery has done the funeral and met the contractual obligations, but the family decides not to pay and void the contract after the fact because they didn't like the hue of grey that was on an employee's shirt? Sounds pretty stupid when this situation is turned around, don't it?

Remember this is not just about their plot, unlike houses, you can't build a privacy fence around a grave... well they could but the family would likely toss a fit about those graves being walled off from the rest of the cemetery.

You could very well treat it like a house. A privacy fence is only to obscure the view, so why can't we start looking at that option? Why don't they (the cemetery) offer to erect a small tent like structure over the headstone until they can come to an agreement? It would still be a dick move, but at least the cemetery wouldn't have basically desecrated the grave after the family left without telling them. And you don't know how the family would react to this option so don't use assumptions as a basis for an argument.

The family is of course free to find another cemetery to bury their daughters in.

And the cemetery is of course free to honor the contract they signed.

As for Spongebob. Look that headstone did look a bit tacky. I mean it's a great sculpture but a tacky headstone. That's just a matter of my personal taste but i'm quite sure I'm not the only one.

Does it look tacky to me? Sure does, but it aint my headstone. The only headstone I care about is the one over my head. I can not let my personal feelings of this headstone affect my reasons for defending it. It is the family's right to put whatever headstone they feel most accurately complies with their daughter's wishes so long as it is not illegal. I will remind you that making someone feel like you are desecrating a holy place or hurting people's feelings with your opinions is not illegal so long as you don't do it in an illegal manner. SpongeBob is not illegal, and a SpongeBob headstone is not illegal.

 

[level27smartass]

Thinking about this objective view point there have been far tackier headstones for example an entire monastery. From legal stand point the headstone was already approved by the cemetery so, they have that going for them. Personally I say keep it as testament that individuality can and should be preserved after death.

 

[K12]

Not really sure where to go with this one. It's sad that the family haven't been able to get the memorial they cemetery owners have to think about all the families that visit their relatives graves here.

I can definitely see how it would be distracting and disrespectful to some people. I for one wouldn't mind if someone wore really brightly coloured clothes to a funeral but I respect that many people would and this headstone will always be there.

Still I think this could have been handed better, and maybe some kind of compromise reached.

 

[Flunk]

They should have decided before they erected the stone in the first place. But I can see why they wouldn't want that, it's really unattractive.