I really think if you read through what I'm saying here, you're going to find we don't really disagree. You're just being a bit reactionary about this perceived targeting of video games.
Over time, that dynamic shifts. The mind makes the connection, cuts out the middle man, and now the subject begins to provide the comfort directly, while the conscious mind is completely ignoring the original negative stimulus. The person has conditioned himself to crave the subject, wholly separate from the original reason. That is the very essence of addiction.
Just fixing the underlying problem, while extremely important, isn't going to reverse that conditioning. The battle has to be fought on both fronts simultaneously. Fix the issue, so the issue doesn't pop up again, or simply change subjects (I was addicted to sex, now I'm addicted to crack), and at the same time reverse the conditioning surrounding the subject of the addiction.
What you are saying is true, and parents often use these nannies to keep the kids occupied in another room. This study is reinforcing the idea that this is a bad thing for the kids. The ones finding scapegoats are the psychologists that call everything a "genetic chemical imbalance." These folks are focusing on the things parents can (and should) control.
You need to go ahead and read the study, or at least the full article about it. The article itself doesn't cover the methodology they've used to account for the "other variables" that could factor in, and that's important information to have. But so far you've made several accusations about what this study did or didn't do, but you haven't presented any evidence that you've read the study. You've read part of an article about an article about the study, sure, but that's not going to cover the rigorous methods used in performing the study. Go ahead and find a link and read it, you may be surprised.
Yes, of course. And in the meantime, remove the enablers. Just like with an alcoholic, you need to treat the underlying depression... but you also want them to stop drinking in the meantime to allow the treatment to work. Treating a problem like this is uncomfortable as a process, and it is daunting. You want to be sure to remove those things that could be posing direct opposition (or, at best, distraction) from the process.AndyFromMonday said:Then resolve the original problem.dastardly said:This is illuminating the possibility that screen-as-coping-buddy is a problem at this crucial developmental stage. Rather than developing COPING mechanisms, these children are being herded toward AVOIDANCE mechanisms--which are completely different things. As a result, they are not developing the necessary coping skills, and the lack of these skills manifests as a problem. It isn't the entertainment CAUSING the problem, but it could be FACILITATING the problem.
I'm not sure you understand the science and psychology of addiction. Addiction is a behavior that is largely separate from the subject of the addiction. At first, a psychological problem leads a person to try some usually-destructive behavior. This will become the subject of the addiction--smoking, video games, porn, whatever. And at first, they engage in the behavior to avoid the negative stimulus... and that provides them comfort for awhile.Or maybe tackling the problem that made them drink in the first place. Resolve that and I'm fairly sure they won't have a reason to drink anymore.
Over time, that dynamic shifts. The mind makes the connection, cuts out the middle man, and now the subject begins to provide the comfort directly, while the conscious mind is completely ignoring the original negative stimulus. The person has conditioned himself to crave the subject, wholly separate from the original reason. That is the very essence of addiction.
Just fixing the underlying problem, while extremely important, isn't going to reverse that conditioning. The battle has to be fought on both fronts simultaneously. Fix the issue, so the issue doesn't pop up again, or simply change subjects (I was addicted to sex, now I'm addicted to crack), and at the same time reverse the conditioning surrounding the subject of the addiction.
I disagree. I think this study is doing the exact opposite--it is TELLING parents "Your child has these problems because YOU are letting them sit in front of the screen all day." The original articles even admonish parents to "pull the plug." It is working to encourage accountability in parents--telling them to take ownership over what their children use as entertainment.But this study is basically finding scapegoats for bad parents. "Your child has problems? No worries, it's because video games and TV increase the risk of that". Your parents payed attention to you and listened to your problems instead of parking you infront of a TV and hope you grow yourself up. Delve into this deeper and you'll see the reason for the "unbalance" isn't because children spend to much time on TV or computers, it's because parents don't pay attention to them. Raise your child and stop using TV and computers as "nanny's".
What you are saying is true, and parents often use these nannies to keep the kids occupied in another room. This study is reinforcing the idea that this is a bad thing for the kids. The ones finding scapegoats are the psychologists that call everything a "genetic chemical imbalance." These folks are focusing on the things parents can (and should) control.
Yes. Exactly. And this study is going after those parents. It's letting them know that 'parenting' is more than just 'giving your kids better toys and diversions than the other parents.' It's telling parents that they NEED to be more involved in keeping an eye on what their kids do in their free time. This study is on your side... it just happens to have offended you by appearing to target video games (even though it actually doesn't).Maybe TV isn't the reason. Maybe parents for not paying enough attention to their kids. Maybe the fact that most parents today care more about their job than their child. Who knows. Either way, you need to delve deeper into the problem before an actual correlation is found.
You need to go ahead and read the study, or at least the full article about it. The article itself doesn't cover the methodology they've used to account for the "other variables" that could factor in, and that's important information to have. But so far you've made several accusations about what this study did or didn't do, but you haven't presented any evidence that you've read the study. You've read part of an article about an article about the study, sure, but that's not going to cover the rigorous methods used in performing the study. Go ahead and find a link and read it, you may be surprised.