Redlin5 said:
Your heart is in the right place if you're constantly thinking about that little bundle of new life in the next room while gaming and checking your smoking habits. It's fair enough to post about a follow up here all things considered.
I wish you and baby Tali'Zorah the best of luck as you watch her go from rugrat to young lady.
Thank you. She's the center of my world now, and it happened to be a quick and painless process, transferring all of my desires onto bettering her life.
Maybe cancelling the Dark Souls 2 preorder was a little hard, but I'll play it eventually. It's amazing how little importance something like Dark Souls has to me now, actually.
Chemical Alia said:
Oh my God, you actually did it. D: Oh man. The apostrophe and everything...
Well, good luck with your kid. Don't know what else to say. Glad to hear she's healthy and normal.
It was always going to happen. I mishandled the last thread because I was freaking out a bit, there wasn't a chance that even a 100% group vote would change it. Though haven't there been experiments on the dangers of moving forward with an action just because everyone around you is in support of it, and how likely people are to do that? Anyway, thanks for the good luck.
FootloosePhoenix said:
First off,
d'aaaaaaaaw, she's so cute! Thanks for posting this. Once again, she's absolutely beautiful.
Of course. Like I said, I don't have a Facebook or a blog, and I told you guys about her first...so it made sense to update everyone on it. Whether out of pure curiosity or genuine interest, I figured there were some people who wanted to know what happened and how it's been, so here I am. Thank you.
EeveeElectro said:
D'awwwwwwwwww, she's so tiny! Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.(Even I was a bit hmmm haa hmmm about it because you assumed she would like it, which isn't always the case with people >.> but there's always options open for her if she doesn't.)
Anyway, good luck with the future and savour every moment! ^_^
To be completely honest, if I thought in my heart that her name alone would cause her any harm, it would be a different name. I also couldn't live with myself if people asked about her name and I had to either admit or think to myself "Well a lot of people on the Internet weren't happy about the name we had in mind, so I gave in to peer and cultural pressure and went with something 'safe'". Her life will be hard. Almost everyone's life is hard, no matter what their name is. The best thing I can do is be there for her, teach her how to treat people right, and how to handle adversity in all of its forms. To elaborate, I don't understand the line of thinking. That the best thing I could do would be to name her "Danielle Normal", not allow her to dye her hair blue or purple, and choose ultra-conservative clothing for her and not let her choose them so that she can best blend in and avoid any attention, negative or otherwise. Pardon me, but
fuck that.. I know I'm weird, and my mind probably doesn't work like other people's, so it turns out that I'm in love with the name I gave her. I can only hope that she loves it, and that we have a strong enough relationship to survive her changing the name if she doesn't like it. I'll do everything on my end to ensure that strength. Thank you to you as well.
Daystar Clarion said:
It becomes an issue when said parent asks people about said name, then decides to ignore all advice because he was never seeking it in the first place, only using it to garner attention, which sets off several alarm bells in my head.
Fulfilling a biological imperative doesn't make someone immune to criticism, if anything they deserve more, because it isn't just their life they're in control of anymore.
Man, Grumpstar is at full grump today XD
There's a difference between "I want attention" and "I'd really like to talk about this with someone, shame I don't have many friends in RL. Maybe I'll talk about it with that community I'm a part of". I admit that I handled it poorly, but I also admit that I was kind of losing my marbles over the fact that it was really happening and she was really coming. And let Grumpstar shine, at least you care.
Simple Bluff said:
DrunkOnEstus said:
I already encountered the "apostrophe not working in the computer system" at the pediatrician, so they just dropped it and it's "Talizorah" on the paperwork there.
Wait, really? Why would an apostrophe cause an error in the system? Lots of names have apostrophes - well not in their first name, granted, but there's plenty of "O' Neils, O' Connors" etc. That's an awfully silly system.
Anyway, congratulations on the baby. I didn't look at the pictures but she sounds well. I can't say I like the name Tali'Zorah (Tali sounds really nice on its own though), but you've thought about it a hell of a lot more than I have, and it seems like you done it for the right reasons. You seem to be doing a pretty good job of looking after her, and that's always nice to see.
Thanks for sharing OP. Made my day a little brighter.
Yeah, I didn't think the apostrophe problem would happen so soon, or that it would really matter. I guess it's not really a problem, just that the apostrophe isn't on that particular form. Thank you for your good wishes, and making me feel better about going through with sharing it with you guys. The Escapist is my "social circle", but I may have to find somewhere else to include fatherhood in the discussions. That's okay though.
CloudAtlas said:
Well, I still don't think it was a good idea, but the deed is done, so all the best to you and your child.
You and I may still disagree about her name, but I sincerely appreciate the fact that you cared about a stranger enough to expel the effort you did. Also, for being levelheaded and respectful in your disagreement. Thank you, and I wish you well.
Also, her Social Security card came in the mail today, really cemented it in my mind. I haven't loved the name more than seeing it on that card. It was like "wow, she's a real legal person now, and the government saw 'Tali'Zorah' and put it right through". I'm sure I'm set for more moments like that, this whole journey has been like nothing I've felt as a human.