The qualm with the "nice guy" characteristic is a large amount of men misunderstand the definition. When a girl states she would fancy a nice guy, she is not indicating she desires a submissive, clingy, shoulder to cry on, pat on the back, doormat. She is simply requesting someone who is general nice in the typical sense, someone who does the occasional generous thing for another person while it is not necessarily their defining trait. I characterize myself something of a jerk, and an exceptional tease. That being said, you ask any of the girls I converse with frequently and I am relatively certain I would receive compliments.
Example, I had a friend who was dealing with some family issues and spent some two hours talking to her, when she requested my opinion on things I provided a honest answer, even ones she may not have preferred. Furthermore, I opted to alter the conversation, focus her thoughts on other more positive things.
Suffice it to say, there is a significant difference between a "Nice guy" and a "Doormat."
As for the Friend Zone. I am of agreement it is exaggerated for those incapable of accepting that their crush may not reciprocate the feelings they possess. It is easier to blame another or a misguided theory than to blame oneself or simply accept her interest in you is platonic and nothing beyond.
Example, I had a friend who was dealing with some family issues and spent some two hours talking to her, when she requested my opinion on things I provided a honest answer, even ones she may not have preferred. Furthermore, I opted to alter the conversation, focus her thoughts on other more positive things.
Suffice it to say, there is a significant difference between a "Nice guy" and a "Doormat."
As for the Friend Zone. I am of agreement it is exaggerated for those incapable of accepting that their crush may not reciprocate the feelings they possess. It is easier to blame another or a misguided theory than to blame oneself or simply accept her interest in you is platonic and nothing beyond.
