I learned that in no way does doing good deeds equate to you receiving any. I don't believe in karma at all - it's just a comforting notion, but ends up making me expect something good to happen, only to be bitterly disappointed. The successful keep succeeding. Some unexpected glories occur to the most unlikely people. Good things happen to people, but so do bad things to even the unfortunate. Luck is shite. It's indiscriminate. You'd better learn to exploit people and opportunities if you want to secure some form of goodness for yourself.
I also learned the hard way that a lot of success comes down to looks and having the right contacts. When taking time to think about it, it's not that unrealistic a thought. Take attraction, for example:
-In such a fast-paced society, people barely have time to get to know many others well.
-With this, appearance is the first thing they notice.
-Do they like what they see? No?->end. Yes? Are they shy or just can't be bothered/have time constraints? If yes, end. If no, then they inquire further.
-Talking to you. Do they like their first impressions? No?->say bye awkwardly. Yes?->well done. You've passed the first stage.
Now factor in all the random bullshit that could happen, and you should count yourself lucky if people even find you 'attractive'.
Another way to increase your chances is to spend more time around more people. If you sit down all day, beaming electrons all the way around the world, then you aren't going to have much luck. Live too far away from most of your peers? GG. I could go on all day about all the possible mismatchings, but it's no stretch to say some have a greater edge against others.
The need for these types of relationships and to reproduce is hardwired into most of our brains. In history, people have fought wars, performed outrageous feats and created beautiful works just in the subconscious hope somebody will sleep with them. It's also why prostitution is one of the oldest professions in the world when some fail to find a mate.
It's a damn competitive world out there and I applaud you all for coming so far.