Interesting points, probably true, but way too over-analytical in my book. The tweens who say 'it's all about love' are as right as you are, in my eyes. It's their tween girl fantasy, and I doubt they'll be that influenced by the message of abstinence and obedience to their husband. Hell, if anything it helps to counter the 'bitches and hoes' attitude so prevalent in popular ""urban"" culture, no?
Now, if you excuse me, I'm going to watch an action movie in which the muscular macho beats up the bad guys, makes some explosions, drives a really awesome car and bangs a hot femme fatale whom he saved at least two times prior to the banging.