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Helmholtz Watson said:
Awexsome said:
This isn't about other words, this is about rape. And how that in particular has such massive trauma and physiological effects on those who've experienced it.

Using the word casually even when not intending anything offensive or bad spirited at all still has heavy repercussions on those carrying that trauma. Not might, DOES.

That's why it makes someone an insensitive excuse for a human being if they ignore how it can effect others.
This is exactly about words. Saying something isn't the same thing as doing it.
If a person is easily offended by a subject, like rape, then they should avoid environments where the subject might come up. Everybody else shouldn't have to watch every word that they say on xbox live so that they don't offend the feelings of others. If the word rape is treattle to say if every possible phrase that might offend people was not spoken.
Those victims shouldn't have to live with that to satisfy others' preference to use whatever words casually they want.

In my opinion one person's freedom to speak what they want regardless of effects of others is not as important as another's freedom to go about their life without that trauma resurfacing and causing major damage.

I think very poorly of those who think that freedom of speech is more important than others well-being.
 

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Those victims shouldn't have to live with that to satisfy others' preference to use whatever words casually they want.

In my opinion one person's freedom to speak what they want regardless of effects of others is not as important as another's freedom to go about their life without that trauma resurfacing and causing major damage.

I think very poorly of those who think that freedom of speech is more important than others well-being.
Those victims have the right to go where ever they like, however people who use Xbox live also have the right to speak while using a hyperbole.

And in my opinion, being offended doesn't justify silencing others who say things that a minority group of people don' like to hear.

Well you are entitled to think poorly of people on Xbox live just as they are entitled to use a hyperbole.
 

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Helmholtz Watson said:
Awexsome said:
Those victims shouldn't have to live with that to satisfy others' preference to use whatever words casually they want.

In my opinion one person's freedom to speak what they want regardless of effects of others is not as important as another's freedom to go about their life without that trauma resurfacing and causing major damage.

I think very poorly of those who think that freedom of speech is more important than others well-being.
Those victims have the right to go where ever they like, however people who use Xbox live also have the right to speak while using a hyperbole.

And in my opinion, being offended doesn't justify silencing others who say things that a minority group of people don' like to hear.

Well you are entitled to think poorly of people on Xbox live just as they are entitled to use a hyperbole.
Just to clarify. It's not 'being offended'. It's being mentally scarred.
 

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Awexsome said:
Helmholtz Watson said:
Awexsome said:
Those victims shouldn't have to live with that to satisfy others' preference to use whatever words casually they want.

In my opinion one person's freedom to speak what they want regardless of effects of others is not as important as another's freedom to go about their life without that trauma resurfacing and causing major damage.

I think very poorly of those who think that freedom of speech is more important than others well-being.
Those victims have the right to go where ever they like, however people who use Xbox live also have the right to speak while using a hyperbole.

And in my opinion, being offended doesn't justify silencing others who say things that a minority group of people don' like to hear.

Well you are entitled to think poorly of people on Xbox live just as they are entitled to use a hyperbole.
Just to clarify. It's not 'being offended'. It's being mentally scarred.
No, I mean the word "offended". The person who is the rapist is the one who mentally scars someone, not the person using the hyperbole.
 

Awexsome

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Helmholtz Watson said:
Awexsome said:
Helmholtz Watson said:
Awexsome said:
Those victims shouldn't have to live with that to satisfy others' preference to use whatever words casually they want.

In my opinion one person's freedom to speak what they want regardless of effects of others is not as important as another's freedom to go about their life without that trauma resurfacing and causing major damage.

I think very poorly of those who think that freedom of speech is more important than others well-being.
Those victims have the right to go where ever they like, however people who use Xbox live also have the right to speak while using a hyperbole.

And in my opinion, being offended doesn't justify silencing others who say things that a minority group of people don' like to hear.

Well you are entitled to think poorly of people on Xbox live just as they are entitled to use a hyperbole.
Just to clarify. It's not 'being offended'. It's being mentally scarred.
No, I mean the word "offended". The person who is the rapist is the one who mentally scars someone, not the person using the hyperbole.
Did you even READ the article? About how instances of it being brought up with hyperbole can cause that mental trauma to resurface?

If you don't think that should be the person who uses the hyperbole's problem or concern then you're wrong.
 

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Did you even READ the article? About how instances of it being brought up with hyperbole can cause that mental trauma to resurface?
I was making the point that using a hyperbole doesn't cause mental scarring because the way you worded your last post, you made it sound like a hyperbole could do such a thing.
As for bringing up mental scarring, I go back to my earlier point. If you knowingly enter an environment where people swear, use hyperboles, and shout at each other, then you should prepare yourself or avoid it. For example, if I don't like racist/sexist/pornographic posting on message boards, then I should avoid 4chan.
Awexsome said:
If you don't think that should be the person who uses the hyperbole's problem or concern then you're wrong.
It is my opinion on a subjective matter and thus I can't be wrong. Nor can you be wrong for that matter. All that can be determined is that you and I have a difference of opinion on a subjective topic.
 

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I rarely read articles on The Escapist, i just ignore em' most of the time. Im truly glad I did not ignore it this time. Thank you truly
 

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Helmholtz Watson said:
Awexsome said:
Did you even READ the article? About how instances of it being brought up with hyperbole can cause that mental trauma to resurface?
I was making the point that using a hyperbole doesn't cause mental scarring because the way you worded your last post, you made it sound like a hyperbole could do such a thing.
As for bringing up mental scarring, I go back to my earlier point. If you knowingly enter an environment where people swear, use hyperboles, and shout at each other, then you should prepare yourself or avoid it. For example, if I don't like racist/sexist/pornographic posting on message boards, then I should avoid 4chan.
Awexsome said:
If you don't think that should be the person who uses the hyperbole's problem or concern then you're wrong.
It is my opinion on a subjective matter and thus I can't be wrong. Nor can you be wrong for that matter. All that can be determined is that you and I have a difference of opinion on a subjective topic.
That doesn't mean we have to take your opinion as a given, nor does it mean your opinion is beyond criticism. And again, you fall back to that same baloney censorship idea. I'm curious, what are these offensive things that are so worth saying, the ones you scared we're going to lose if we stop creating a hostile environment on XBox Live?
 

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I'd like to say this:

The Feminist Agenda in the early 20th century was "Equal Rights"

Currently though it seems more like "We deserve more than men because uterus."
 

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Thank you, for sharing this. It's made me realise I have some things I need to think about.

Also, if I ever used the word as slang before, written, verbally, and it caused someone pain, whomever you are, I'm sorry.
 

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Helmholtz Watson said:
It is my opinion on a subjective matter and thus I can't be wrong. Nor can you be wrong for that matter. All that can be determined is that you and I have a difference of opinion on a subjective topic.
It's an ethical and a social question, not a purely subjective one. Without getting into the wrongs and rights of it, the way we speak to and around others does affect them - it's why even judicial systems with strong protection for freedom of speech tend to have exceptions for harassment, hate speech, "fighting talk" and "shouting fire in a crowded theatre".

Personally, I do avoid 4chan and Xbox Live and the like. I can't be doing with all the racism, sexism, homophobia and other assorted bigotry. People have a right to say certain things; I have a right to think they're dickheads.
 

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That was not easy reading and I cannot imagine how hard it was to write. I believe every other account I have read may have been indirect, however detailed...and they were enough to scar my sense of what people can be, and wake up to the reality of it. I am so sorry for the pain you have experienced and continue to. I honestly hope that your article, and what you have given to everyone else, goes some way towards developing thoughtfulness across the gaming community. What you have written was perfectly human and argumentatively perfect. How we *make* games and how we talk to people *in* games intimately involves how we think of or treat other people.

I'll be holding on to this article and will pass it on any time it is pertinent.

[Trigger warning for just about everything: Words denoting horrendous things are mentioned, but the things themselves, except death, are not discussed.]
I have once made the mistake of speaking, without trigger warning, about a fictional rape narrative (although in serious and critical terms) to a dear friend who turned and said "Can you please...not talk about this any more." with her eyes tearing up. You never know who has been through what and you never expect it. I hope your article wakes people up, into thinking before they speak, so that they never have to experience that guilt of naively and unintentionally opening the deepest wounds of a loved one, or indeed anyone. When we hear the words "step-dad", notice a home has only one parent, see scars, or family photos with more members than the family, we know that there's a story there, that we ought tread softly. Psychological trauma doesn't leave visible scars, though it may associate with them: suicide, abortion, rape or abuse - we have no idea who has been marked by them.
 

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Although I will probably never experience the emotional turmoil you're going through, I only have a notion that what was done to you was "Bad" but nothing else. That may make me sound callous but as I understand it: you can only understand the person if you went through what they went through. Not that I'm asking to be raped, but it's just that I will never know (exactly or vaguely)how you feel unless I am subjected to it.
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That being said:
1. Very strong penultimate paragraph.
2. Well done.
3. Thank you.
 

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First off, props to Anonymous. This article took courage and was about something that needed to be said. You are awesome.

Second, I've been reading through a couple pages of the comments. Both sides make good and not so good points. I find it curious that there seems to be a lack of completely disgusting and ignorant comments. So far almost all of the people who've commented, from what I've seen, have tried to have serious conversations without derailing into just tossing insults at one another. I think that the type of people who tend to make those misogynist or homophobic comments don't want to speak up since they know they would be torn to pieces here. I think that is a small win for the gaming community. If we encourage this type environment, a place where peer pressure creates social consequences, we would see a huge improvement in our community.
 

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ms_sunlight said:
It's an ethical and a social question, not a purely subjective one.
I hope I don't have to point out to you that ethics and social values are also subjective. Just look at how people were punished 200 years ago and how people are punished now. What people and society considers ethical changes over time.
ms_sunlight said:
Personally, I do avoid 4chan and Xbox Live and the like. I can't be doing with all the racism, sexism, homophobia and other assorted bigotry. People have a right to say certain things; I have a right to think they're dickheads.
And you have every right to think that.

CaptainKarma said:
That doesn't mean we have to take your opinion as a given, nor does it mean your opinion is beyond criticism.
Never said you had to nor did I say that my opinon was free from criticism. I only stated that my opinion on a subjective matter is neither wrong nor right. It is just an opinion.
CaptainKarma said:
And again, you fall back to that same baloney censorship idea. I'm curious, what are these offensive things that are so worth saying, the ones you scared we're going to lose if we stop creating a hostile environment on XBox Live?
Any phrase that a person finds offensive, and seeing as how being offended is a subjective thing, I couldn't possibly list all the things that a person finds offensive.
 

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evilthecat said:
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Right, no one ever gets convicted based on an accusation and little to nothing else, not even say Paul Greig in Ireland, or Brian Banks for a recent US example, and no one only escapes by having a mountain of exculpatory evidence because they happened to be in the right places at the right time like Louis Gonzales (who got off primarily because his location was only unaccounted for for 6 minutes out of the entire day), right?
Juries make mistakes, which is why it's not always a good idea to ask for trial by jury. In the Grieg case, it seems pretty likely that they didn't make a mistake. There are dodgy elements, but there was a stronger case against him than you're making out. Maybe don't get your information from MRA sites.
Actually I used STV and the BBC, who are of course totally MRA sites. Do you have a source somewhere that supplies more information than the BBC and STV articles on the case, or am I missing something besides the victim testimony and "clearly damaged"?

evilthecat said:
Brian Banks pleaded guilty. He wasn't found guilty, he wasn't convicted on the basis of evidence. He was accused, and he pleaded guilty. The justice system cannot find you innocent if you plead guilty.
A black man facing a rape charge, why ever would he go for a plea deal against a crime in which victim testimony only is frequently enough for a conviction in a justice system where both conviction and sentencing are biased against both blacks and men (it's actually better to be a black woman than a white man when it comes to sentencing)?

evilthecat said:
There's no evidence that Louis Gonzales' case would have been found either way. It's empty speculation to claim otherwise. If you're saying it's bad because he shouldn't have been arrested, perhaps bear in mind that a woman was actually raped and tortured in that case. Yeah, I don't think she's doing as well as he is.
Really? The main reason he wasn't convicted is because it was shown to be physically impossible for him to committed the crime (the utter lack of physical evidence that he had committed the crime didn't seem to be an issue to the prosecution after all, so they at least felt they had a decent chance using only victim testimony).

As for Tracy West, wasn't there some evidence that suggested she may have set it up (for example, that she researched the knots used to tie her beforehand)? Of course, I can totally accept that "This specific man, my ex, did this to me in this narrow time frame because I was at this specific point in my schedule when it happened (at least until revealed he couldn't possibly have done it then, in which case I was mistaken about the time, and it could have happened at any point between when he got off the plane and when I was found). He brought with him a rape toolkit that he used in order to remove or destroy all possible physical evidence that this ever happened (including mittens so she couldn't scratch him, gloves and coveralls for himself, and so on), and he used a clothes hanger to perpetrate the attack that he also removed and destroyed without a trace along with the kit, so don't be surprised when there's absolutely no evidence that he did it, or any physical proof that anyone unusual was even here. He also did this in a fashion that bears none of the medical markers of this type of assault. You can find him over there, waiting to pick up our child for his side of our custody agreement that I've been doing everything else in my power to prevent."

To quote the LA Times (totally an MRA site) article on this case:

As the custody battle staggered on, hearing by hearing, Las Vegas family court Judge Bill Henderson wrestled aloud with the implications of the criminal case. He didn't believe Gonzalez attacked West. But must he conclude, he asked, that she made it all up? Perhaps someone else attacked her?

No, testified John Paglini, the court-appointed psychologist who had interviewed West four times: Either Gonzalez attacked her, or she lied.

"She could have said, 'On Feb. 1st I was attacked by somebody, I don't know who it was,' but she picked this guy out, and she was very definite," Paglini told the court. "It couldn't be somebody else. She said, 'I heard his voice, I saw his face.'"

Asked about the events of that day during a deposition, West invoked her 5th Amendment right against self-incrimination.
Of course, Gonzales was completely unaffected by his nearly three months in jail, and narrowly avoiding a lengthy sentence for a crime he didn't commit solely through having a very thorough alibi:

What if he had grabbed breakfast in Las Vegas before boarding his flight? He wouldn't have needed that bagel in Simi Valley, so he wouldn't have gone to the bank for cash, and wouldn't have been caught on security cameras.

His alibi evaporates and he's in prison for life.

At the end of the day his mind automatically replays his movements, hour by hour, because it was his ability to do that that saved him. After his release he developed the habit of meticulously documenting his whereabouts, eliminating time gaps that might leave him vulnerable.

If he's in an airport or a 7-Eleven, he makes sure the surveillance cameras get a good look at his face. Anytime he can swipe his credit card and sign his name, even to buy a pack of gum, he does it. He fills his wallet with receipts and the world with a conspicuous trail.

He feels most vulnerable when he is asleep, when, for six or eight hours a night, no cameras are watching, no witnesses are marking his presence, and no one but Louis Gonzalez III can say with certainty where he is.
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Schadrach said:
Your answer to it being difficult to get a conviction against the standard "beyond a reasonable doubt" if there's no evidence that the accused is the perpetrator, or in some cases no evidence that a crime occurred at all beyond the accusation of the victim is to make it virtually impossible to defend yourself instead?
No.

It would be nice if we could stop punishing women for coming forward with rape cases. It would be nice if we could stop convicting them for perverting the course of justice as soon as they fail to act like a robot. It would be nice if we didn't just dump them back on the street or, more likely, ask them to move back in with the person who they allege has raped them when they inevitably failed to secure a conviction.

Basically, I have no problem with the standards as long as we accept them for what they actually are, an assessment of whether there is enough evidence to convict someone of rape, rather than as a genuine assessment of whether an actual rape has occurred. The tragedy is how many people are going through the awful meat grinder that is a rape trial and are either coming away with nothing or actually being punished for coming forward.
So, you're fine with it so long as accusing someone specific and known to you of a crime they didn't commit isn't falsely accusing them unless there exists hard physical proof that no crime occurred at all (go proving a negative!)? Or only if that crime is rape? Is it reasonable to at least consider the possibility, in cases in which the accused was known to the accuser, named by the accuser as the perpetrator, and a motive exists as to why they might choose to lie, that it might actually be a lie?

evilthecat said:
I will never understand why you people are so obsessed with shutting down any kind of legal reform. I can only assume it's some misguided "boys versus girls" bullshit.
Name legal reforms you would feel are appropriate. Do these impugn upon the rights of the accused, which are generally there for very good reasons? Do they function to make it dramatically easier to convict someone of a heinous crime on little to nothing showing that the alleged perpetrator committed the crime beside an accusation, and the inability of the accused to prove a negative? What about reforms to protect persons from false accusations (such as giving them similar protections from the media as alleged victims, until such time as the accused is convicted, rather than perp walks)?

evilthecat said:
Imagine for a moment that Paul Greig is innocent (just Google Paul Greig rape for info). How would you defend yourself?
I wouldn't have asked for a trial by jury.

Imagine for a second you are Brian Banks. How should you have been able to defend yourself from that accusation?
I would have actually defended myself and not accepted a plea bargain.
Do you believe Greig would have fared better had it not been a jury trial?

Re: Banks; For a social justice-y person, you really don't seem to get that both conviction and sentencing are both slanted strongly against blacks and men. As a black man, knowing this, a plea bargain looks good when faced with the truth, which is that they'd doll Wanetta up to look as innocent, sweet, and harmless as possible, rehearse her testimony to make sure she'll deliver it in a fashion that will tug on a jury's heartstrings, and your only real defense is "Yes, I went in there with her alone and we made out. No, I didn't do the things she's saying I did to her. No, I really *can't* prove it, because no one saw us alone in there, and I wasn't recording it or anything." The only thing that would have made it worse is if she were an attractive white girl. Let me put it this way: Had Banks taken it to trial, how would he have defended himself?

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Schadrach said:
Would your desire for lowered standards apply to "not rape" cases where a woman forces herself sexually on a man?
Firstly, I'm not advocating lowered standards. Would you stop assuming that.
In a previous thread you got onto me for assuming the current standard of evidence for criminal trials, because you claimed it was something that is commonly fought against, and you seemed to be in approval of. Sorry.

evilthecat said:
I don't know what the fuck is wrong with straight men that you honestly think penetrating someone and being penetrated are remotely the same thing. All I'm going to say is try it. Seriously, fucking try it.

What you're describing is a crime, in the UK it would be called "causing a person to engage in sexual activity without consent" and can result in a prison term longer than the average rape sentence if it is felt that the crime is serious or malicious enough, but it is not rape. Rape is not just whatever you arbitrarily think qualifies as "sex", it is the act of forcibly penetrating someone, which is entirely different.

This applies to women as much as men. Forcible cunnilingus is not rape either, it's a different crime, while penetrating someone anally with an object is either rape or the functionally identical crime of "assault by penetration", depending on your precise legal framework.
Current FBI definition:
?Penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.?
By the FBI definition, forcible cunnilingus can potentially count. Depending on whether or not you read that definition to require that the victim is the one being penetrated, it may also encompass "made to penetrate", though that is more questionable. The beauty of the way the topic is usually discussed is that men and women are currently subject to similar rates of sexual violence, the most common form in both cases involves forced sexual intercourse, and like the general populous, the majority of it is heterosexual. The net result being intentionally not counting the most common forms of sexual violence used against men, and then claiming it as proof that it's a gendered problem.

evilthecat said:
Schadrach said:
Most importantly, what should be the due diligence a man in your world (and presumably not women because they only commit "not rape") should have to go through in order to defend himself if falsely accused?
To have not committed the crime, obviously.

Under the definition of rape, if you don't believe that you have committed rape and your belief is reasonable, then you have not committed rape (unless you're having sex with a child, so don't do that either). This means that as long as you take basic measures to establish consent, you will never be at risk of being a rapist.

That is not much to ask.
You cheated. I said if falsely accused, implying that you already didn't rape someone. This can include cases where no sex actually occurred, or where there seemingly was consent, but afterward an accusation was made and the accused is claiming there wasn't consent and you didn't do whatever you did to try to establish consent.

Let me repeat it, assuming a world in which every legal "reform" you want regarding rape is taken and a woman willing to engage in deceit, how do you defend yourself from a false accusation of rape? What steps should you have to go through to protect yourself from a false accusation?

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Do you think that it's a reasonable requirement to place on men? If you are a man (and I have no idea) do you currently engage in this?
Do you not?

Fucking hell.
Again, without trying to evade the question by saying that the best way to avoid a false accusation is to not commit the crime (which is assumed in the phrase "false accusation", otherwise it wouldn't be "false").
 

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Not to be the one to post a random slightly off direction comment, but Dragon Tattoo didn't bother the author? Jesus, I couldn't get over SEEING that scene until a freaking week later. Not even the revenge scene made me feel better. That whole bit was downright traumatizing as hell, and it's just a movie!
 

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Schadrach said:
Actually I used STV and the BBC, who are of course totally MRA sites. Do you have a source somewhere that supplies more information than the BBC and STV articles on the case, or am I missing something besides the victim testimony and "clearly damaged"?
You do know that the justice system can choose how much information to release to the press based on the profile and sensitivity of the case right.

I looked at STV and the BBC, neither says that the only evidence was victim testimony. That claim only appears on a bunch of MRA sites. In fact, it's already clear that expert testimony was used from the fact that the psychiatrist's words were included in whatever information was released to the press.

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A black man facing a rape charge, why ever would he go for a plea deal against a crime in which victim testimony only is frequently enough for a conviction in a justice system where both conviction and sentencing are biased against both blacks and men (it's actually better to be a black woman than a white man when it comes to sentencing)?
Do you have any evidence of this fact?

Because you introduced these people as if they were your evidence, now it turns out that one of them wasn't even convicted. Can you back up your claim that victim testimony is "frequently enough for a conviction?"

Because my experience is that nothing short of a confession is reliably good enough for conviction.

Also, why should the fact that your legal system may or may not be racist impact on anything?

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Really? The main reason he wasn't convicted is because it was shown to be physically impossible for him to committed the crime (the utter lack of physical evidence that he had committed the crime didn't seem to be an issue to the prosecution after all, so they at least felt they had a decent chance using only victim testimony).
It is the prosecutions job to, you've guessed it, prosecute. This is a how a trial works. There is another side, the defence, whose job is to defend the client. Whichever side has the strongest legal case wins (in theory).

Again, is your point that he should never have been arrested or bought to trial when the victim had specifically named him?

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As for Tracy West, wasn't there some evidence that suggested she may have set it up (for example, that she researched the knots used to tie her beforehand)?
Hang on..

The argument was seriously made that because she named a specific attacker at the scene she could not possibly have been raped except by that person.

They just decided that she self-inflicted serious injuries on herself because.. yeah, that's easier than believing than that someone might name a suspect at the scene and then become irrationally convinced of their guilt through a well-known psychological phenomenon with very clear evidence behind it.

..you are not making a good account of the American legal system here, and not for any of the reasons you're trying to claim it's bad and unfair.

Schadrach said:
Of course, Gonzales was completely unaffected by his nearly three months in jail, and narrowly avoiding a lengthy sentence for a crime he didn't commit solely through having a very thorough alibi:
..as this pointless emotional narrative, narrated presumably through the prophetic power of the sacred muses, will illustrate.

I find it outright weird that you can be sceptical to the point of believing that a woman self-harmed rather than accept that she may have been attacked, but honestly expect me to be somehow moved or persuaded by this shlock. It's this kind of thing which really makes me wonder why you are so invested.

I'll be honest, I don't believe for one second this is about justice for you or for any of your men's rights buddies. This becomes painfully obvious when I try to research this case and find countless calls for Tracy West to be hunted down and raped.

It's about team blue and team pink, and the fact that you've become so caught up in trying to score points for your team that you've blinded yourself to any real issue which doesn't get you closer to the goal line. More on this later.

Schadrach said:
So, you're fine with it so long as accusing someone specific and known to you of a crime they didn't commit isn't falsely accusing them unless there exists hard physical proof that no crime occurred at all (go proving a negative!)?
Are you trying to prove my point?

Proof beyond all reasonable doubt. Wasn't the thing you were arguing for a few seconds ago?

But now that's suddenly not good enough, now you want it so that if you can't prove beyond all reasonable doubt that a crime was committed then you are definately innocent and the person alleging otherwise did should be considered to have committed a crime without it needing to be proved?

Also, do you know what a "false" rape accusation even is? It doesn't mean what you think it means. "False" does not mean "malicious". Making a malicious accusation is a serious crime, making a false accusation is not. False reports, even false accusations, happen all the time.

Schadrach said:
Is it reasonable to at least consider the possibility, in cases in which the accused was known to the accuser, named by the accuser as the perpetrator, and a motive exists as to why they might choose to lie, that it might actually be a lie?
You can certainly allege as much. People routinely do, and I can assure you it's a lot more common and causes just as much misery as you're claiming malicious rape accusations cause.

But by the same token, is it reasonable to consider the possibility that, in cases where the accuser was known to the accused, named by the accuser as the perpetrator and could theoretically have committed the crime that they might actually have committed rape?

Maybe. But that doesn't mean anything, because that's not the standard on which the law operates.

I'm sorry, but you cannot just walk up to someone who has come into court to testify about a traumatic event in front of the person they allege is responsible and accuse them of lying. That isn't how a court operates, it is not there to punish the people who come forward by placing unfair burden of suspicion upon them without meaningful evidence.

What the fuck is wrong with you?

Schadrach said:
Name legal reforms you would feel are appropriate.
Like I said. The big one is to stop assuming that a not guilty verdict means that no crime occurred. This will already solve 90% of the problems, because now it is possible to treat the alleged victim with the sensitivity due to someone who has been raped even if it cannot be determined that he or she has.

No crime has a 100% conviction rate. We cannot structure our legal system on the principle that everyone who commits a crime and gets taken to court will be convicted. Sometimes, we have to let people off. The biggest, the absolute biggest problem in rape at the moment is not lowering the standards of evidence or whatever the fuck you people think feminists are getting hard over, it's getting people to come forward, or in some cases to even recognize that they should come forward, it's getting people to feel like if they do come forward the justice system will not dismiss them, doubt them or hold them in suspicion without evidence, it's making rape trials into something other than systematic punishment of the alleged victim with very little chance of conviction and the risk of prosecution.

Fix that, and you've fixed a large part of the problem of the problem.

Schadrach said:
Do you believe Greig would have fared better had it not been a jury trial?
Not necessarily, it depends what evidence was actually used at his trial.

If what you've claimed about the case is true though, I'm pretty sure he would have stood a much better chance.

Schadrach said:
For a social justice-y person, you really don't seem to get that both conviction and sentencing are both slanted strongly against blacks and men.
Look, I apologise if you're not involved with the MRAs, but you repeat so much of the bollocks which they come out with.

Look, I get that some courts in America are pretty racist, and given the history of rape trials involving black men.. yeah, I can understand that element. But the idea that conviction and sentencing are "strongly slanted" against men is a bit weird. There is some evidence of a slight discrepancy in sentencing, but the idea that this factors into any decision making process outside of the fanciful imaginations of the men's rights lobby really doesn't work.

If you're innocent, you aren't meant to assume that a court will find you guilty unless there is overwhelming evidence against you.

I understand he took the plea on the advice of his legal team, and that had he actually been convicted his sentence would have been extremely long given the severity of the alleged crime, but the point is that he was not found guilty, he pleaded guilty.

We don't know what was going on in his mind, we can't speculate. But this is a circular example. We cannot conclude from his case that wrongful convictions are common because he was not found guilty, and we cannot conclude that he knew that wrongful convictions are common while using him as an example to prove the fact.

Schadrach said:
Had Banks taken it to trial, how would he have defended himself?
A jury can't be emotionally manipulated unless you request to be tried by a jury.

And a judge would have almost certainly found him innocent unless the prosecution could produce some evidence which you aren't mentioning.

Now, clearly he or his legal team felt that accepting 6 years was better than risking 40 years. It's never a judgement I've had to make, so I can't really comment. However, your account is flawed on the basis that it didn't happen. It didn't even need to happen. There is never the obligation for a jury trial to occur at all, and I don't understand the American legal system's obsession with them in cases where they are clearly inappropriate.

Schadrach said:
The beauty of the way the topic is usually discussed is that men and women are currently subject to similar rates of sexual violence, the most common form in both cases involves forced sexual intercourse, and like the general populous, the majority of it is heterosexual.
Where are you getting that from?

That is the dodgiest claim I think I have ever heard in one of these topics, and I would really like some evidence of it.

In fact, this is where I'm going to conclude the team blue argument, because this is what you seem to need. Unless men are being "raped" by women in equal numbers to women who are raped by men, you and your peers cannot seem to take rape seriously.

I'm sure as soon as we acknowledged that rape is not a crime disproportionately perpetrated by men, you know, like every other violent crime, then you'll suddenly find you can take rape seriously and suddenly develop a lot more sympathy about victim's rights. I mean that as a compliment. I don't doubt that you have good intentions, I do doubt that you are capable of fairly applying those intentions.

..which leads to this fucking playground bullshit which basically comes down to getting one up on the opposite sex because, oh no, that's obviously what they're trying to do to you with all their scary rape allegations. They just want more stuff for their team, which means you need to get more stuff too! No, this isn't about correcting a horrible crime which has been largely ignored until the last few decades precisely because the people it occurred to often happened to be women or men whose sexual orientation was now questionable, this is about women wanting more things when they're actually just as bad! Fuck evidence! They must be just as bad otherwise our team is bad and we can't have that!

I think this is probably the point where you've become so caught up in that bollocks that you've now actually lost touch with basic reality.

Schadrach said:
You cheated. I said if falsely accused, implying that you already didn't rape someone. This can include cases where no sex actually occurred, or where there seemingly was consent, but afterward an accusation was made and the accused is claiming there wasn't consent and you didn't do whatever you did to try to establish consent.
You claim you did.

You point out the exact ways in which you established consent. You are willing to go into detail about precisely how you did so, you back up your belief in your own innocence with evidence.

At that point, you cannot be found guilty unless it can be demonstrated that you are lying and in fact know you are guilty.

Do you want me to tell you how to get out of a rape accusation which isn't false? I can do that too. I've seen someone do it.
 

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evilthecat said:
Again, is your point that he should never have been arrested or bought to trial when the victim had specifically named him?
If there are no proofs or other witnesses ? Of course he shouldn't have been put on trial. Law is and should be based on presumption of innocence and in such case it's his word against hers.

Rape is crime that should be fought by prevention: monitoring systems, police patrols etc. and not by lowering our law standards to some tribal parody of court.