"how then would you suggest you refer to someone male or female who sleeps with large numbers of people?"MagunBFP said:If you are judging someone then its judgemental, if not how then would you suggest you refer to someone male or female who sleeps with large numbers of people? And for the record I have guy friends who I have and will continue to say are sluts.Treblaine said:Summary:
-"Slut" is not a neutral descriptive term.
-It is a term of unfair arbitrary judgement
-It is sexist in its design, use and purpose
-You wouldn't accept it used against your own mother, don't use it against anyone else.
As for the fairness or arbitrariness of the word you're right, but lying and cheating can also fairly arbitrary and it does often depend on a certain point of view.
If it is so sexist and controlling and intended purely to shame a woman into submission so she meekly accepts that she is dirty and unclean and should be faithful only to the one man who took her virginity then why do women use it so very often?
In short a word is judgemental because you're judging. Call a Muslim a pig or a dog and thats one hell of a fight you're starting, call a Aussie a pig and he'll just shrug it off. It all depends on context.
We managed for centuries without a specific term for men who have sex often, we don't need a special one for women. And slut IS used against women, it's only ironically and ineffectively used against men.
I guess you could call both male and female who get laid often: "lucky"
"lying and cheating can also fairly arbitrary"
Absolutely NOT!
Lying is not telling the truth. Cheating is going against what you promised to do. These are objective terms, no perspective needed.
"then why do women use (the term slut) so very often?"
Because they are bound by the same rules FORCED ON THEM unfairly, they get marked out for being a slut if they break them they don't want to see one woman get away with it. When a group of women all defy these gender conventions of "female purity and submissiveness" then they only ever use the term slut ironically as in "ha ha, we're such sluts lol" much like how open homosexuals may use the term "fag" or black people may use the term "******". Not that closeted homosexuals don't use the term "******" is a mean and hurtful way or that there are not black people who are racist towards other black people in using terms like "******".
Also, the way you use judgemental is as if all judging is equal.
It is not acceptable to judge people in things that don't afflict others. Judging a vandal for destroying other people's property is completely different from judging people in their private loving relationships as negative.
The subtext is clear: men want woman all to themselves and women also confirm to that.