You do realise this is why we don't ask, right? Why should it matter that it's a girl you're talking to. Why would that make you insecure. I don't get it.Salus said:I'm not sure that guy was trying to be a d**k. To be plainly honest, if I worked at a comics store and a girl wanted to know about X-Men comics my first reaction would be a mixture of "awesome" and "I'm not sure she knows what X-Men is." Like, I would be a bit ashamed to start going all-out nerd and start showing her the best-drawn panels of Wolverine ever in my favorite comic, my first reaction would be a little surprised, and I'd probably tell her that. It's simply that most girls aren't into comics, and my advice would change depending on whether she was a die-hard comics fan or a girl who wants to read X-Men because her boyfriend said he does.
Basically, I'm saying that maybe the guy felt a twinge of insecurity when a girl asked him about X-Men. I'm pretty sure the guy wasn't being elitist, just probably felt a bit vulnerable in that exact second. Imagine if a girl asked you what your favorite My Little Pony character is on your first date. Would you just start gushing about Fluttershy?
"X-Men ROX! You should go with the Phoenix Saga, where Jean Grey gets twisted by the Phoenix Club and the Phoenix is UNLEASHED!" *Gets keys and finds collector's edition comic, starts showing gnarly panels of Magneto going ZZZAAANNNGGG and all these muscular guards are going AAAHHH!" I know I'm sometimes hesitant to expose my inner nerd to (huge quote on quote) "Normal People."
By the way, I'm not into comics, though I do read a few.
I got very nervous recently buying my first Magic deck. (Plus disappointed cause I wanted black but they had run out of black).
I know how to play Magic, been playing it online for a while. I shouldn't have been nervous but I was because you can never tell when shitty elitist gatekeepers are going to spring `innocent` questions on you to prove your fakery.
Turns out neither of the shop assistants even know how to play Magic. Felt silly for getting nervous.
Nerds like to think of themselves as different from other people. We're not really.
I mean, the guy who approached me when I was staring at the back of the Dragon Age: Origins box who helpfully explained the game to me, probably didn't realise I had been frowning at it because I was thinking `Is it worth getting this on the Xbox when I've already finished it on the PC?`. Because to him I didn't look like the kind of person who would have played it. (And, no I didn't correct him because that would have been embarrassing for both of us).
Basically, nerds are just people and are guilty of making stupid assumptions before even asking a single question. We see some people and assume they are in our group and others we assume can't be.