Vault101 said:
So Ive notcied there's this trend, I havn't experienced it first hand
basically as i understand it its females geeks/gamers who take on the whole sterotype more as a ploy to gain attention rather than it be somthing thhey are interested in (aside from aparently geeky girls being incredibly rare)
It's about acceptance.
Some groups are internally
very competitive. The "cheerleaders" and the "beauty queens" and the "jocks" and so on--their activities lead them to be fiercely competitive with each other, and that means being accepted into those groups is far from guaranteed.
But "geeks" are a group that seems almost
defined by being socially outcast, at least in one way or another. This means, to the casual observer, that they're just
looking for excuses to include someone--especially *gasp* girls. And, for the most part, it's true.
Because it's about acceptance on both sides. On the side of the wannabe-geek girl, she is guaranteed acceptance to the group because they're always recruiting and she's a minority within the group. Instant, guaranteed attention. To the geeks, having "members" like her validates the group and paints the group's strengths in a more positive light (ie, the "Chicks dig it" factor).
So, like most social back-and-forth, it's a bit disingenuous, but it's mutually beneficial, so we shrug if off and go about our business. I mean, after all, most of the superficial dating world runs on the same, tired transaction: Guys use attention (often through money) to get sex, girls use sexiness (often through sex itself) to get attention. It's absolutely an extreme generalization, but I'd defy you not to find countless examples in the people around you (geek or not).
Until people are honest
with and
about themselves, they'll use these labels as a crutch. And that means most of their interactions in that area will be at least a
little dishonest.
