Virginity

[KatiCentauri]

Not a terribly big deal. Sort of like trying alcohol for the first time, I'd assume.
It's not sacred to me personally, but it is to -some- people, and I say more power to them.
Sell it if you want but please stay a nice distance from me during...
Promise rings are a bit silly to me, but if that's what trips your trigger, yay you.
Personally, I'm waiting for someone tolerable enough that I would openly admit I'd had sex with. I suppose that would qualify as a mark for the love column.
Or Nathan Fillion.

The more virgins the better.

Means less children populating the world.

Can't argue with that.

 

[Cap'n Ninja]

Big deal/not: Not for me personally, but to others it is. For a lot of people I know it's depended on whether or not they have lost it.

Sacred/not sacred: It only holds as much meaning as you and your partner assign to it.

Something that can be sold?(should it) "Sold"? No. Prostitution is against my ethics.

Promise rings: Good in theory, but not the whole "Not 'til marriage" thing. It's a good idea if it's just waiting until both of you want it and not being pressured into it.

Should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity? As previously stated, until you're both ready and aren't being forced into it.

I'm waiting for someone tolerable enough that I would openly admit I'd had sex with. I suppose that would qualify as a mark for the love column.
Or Nathan Fillion.

You wouldn't admit to having sex with Nathan Fillion?
I'd be screaming it from the rooftops.

 

[lacktheknack]

Wow, the first few answers read like a /b/ thread.

Anyways:
Not a big deal.
Somewhere between.
No.
Good idea.
Marriage.

*FLAME SHIELD*

 

[Jaime_Wolf]

Might be a big deal, depends on whether the person thinks it's a big deal or not. A blanket statement would be inappropriate. For me, it was a medium deal.

Not religious, so not sacred in that sense. Also not really sacred to me in any other sense (it's just the first time doing something you'll probably do quite a few times).

If people want to sell it and it's their choice, why not? Laws against prostitution are pretty silly, even moreso given the now-standard justification that it's all to protect the prostitutes rather than to punish them.

Promise rings seem mildly hilarious to me. If you're that committed and the only thing stopping you is a religious or social convention, fuck it (and him/her). If you're that committed and you don't feel ready, you shouldn't really need a ring, but I guess it can't hurt.

You should wait until you feel like doing it. Any blanket "you should do x" statement is going to be pretty dumb. That said, I think waiting until marriage is probably a bad idea - an especially bad idea if you have strong views that marriage is an unbreakable bond as some religious people do. If you're entering into an unbreakable bond, you sure as hell better hope that the two of you are sexually compatible.

 

[geldonyetich]

One man's junk is another man's treasure.

Come to think of it, no, lets not apply a sexual connotation to a saying that includes talk of "one man's junk."

 

[Xcelsior]

Not a big deal
Not scared
Sure why not?
Promise rings are just stupid
When the opportunity arises...marriage lolwut?

 

[KatiCentauri]

I'm waiting for someone tolerable enough that I would openly admit I'd had sex with. I suppose that would qualify as a mark for the love column.
Or Nathan Fillion.

You wouldn't admit to having sex with Nathan Fillion?
I'd be screaming it from the rooftops.

Ah, poor word choice on my part.
I am waiting for love, or Nathan Fillion.

 

[WeOwnTheSky]

And do you REALLY want to wait until you're married? A: Why the hell would you? (Again, biased Atheist here)

Waiting till you're married isn't just a religious thing. Its proven that having a monogamous relationship and having sex within marriage drastically reduces your chance of STI's and the like.
I think waiting till marriage is best, but if you find someone you love and want to share that experience with, then why not? If you're really happy and its a good relationship, I think it kind of acts as a reminder of how happy you were at that time/ still are.

Personally I believe it is important, and not something you should just give to anyone. I think promise rings are good if you don't wear it when its convenient for you. If you wear it out of devotion or faith, good for you. Don't wear it just to look cool then take it off when your friends start making fun of you, then its just pointless.

 

[Cap'n Ninja]

I'm waiting for someone tolerable enough that I would openly admit I'd had sex with. I suppose that would qualify as a mark for the love column.
Or Nathan Fillion.

You wouldn't admit to having sex with Nathan Fillion?
I'd be screaming it from the rooftops.

Ah, poor word choice on my part.
I am waiting for love, or Nathan Fillion.

A wise choice.

 

[TheTaco007]

And do you REALLY want to wait until you're married? A: Why the hell would you? (Again, biased Atheist here)

Waiting till you're married isn't just a religious thing. Its proven that having a monogamous relationship and having sex within marriage drastically reduces your chance of STI's and the like.
I think waiting till marriage is best, but if you find someone you love and want to share that experience with, then why not? If you're really happy and its a good relationship, I think it kind of acts as a reminder of how happy you were at that time/ still are.

Personally I believe it is important, and not something you should just give to anyone. I think promise rings are good if you don't wear it when its convenient for you. If you wear it out of devotion or faith, good for you. Don't wear it just to look cool then take it off when your friends start making fun of you, then its just pointless.

A: Why do people have to be married to be monogamous?
B: If you're only having sex with 1 person, of COURSE you're less likely to get an STD. That's like saying that if you only eat food once a week you're less likely to get food poisoning.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Not bothered
Not scared
Selling it is for whores...
Promise rings are stupid... What do they do? put an electric fence over a vagina?

I can wait until I get a girlfriend who I know really like.
But till marige? Well, not really. I disagree, Darth Sidious... (The pope seriously looks like him...)

 

[WeOwnTheSky]

A: Why do people have to be married to be monogamous?
B: If you're only having sex with 1 person, of COURSE you're less likely to get an STD. That's like saying that if you only eat food once a week you're less likely to get food poisoning.

You don't HAVE to be married to be monogamous. I'm saying you should be monogamous regardless of marriage, and if you're married, then don't cheat.

And yeah, obviously, I'm just saying its a reason for some people to wait for marriage.

 

[major28]

who buys virginity i?????
has anyone honestly been having sex and thought hmmmmmmm this sex is pretty good but it would be even better if the vagina was bleeding YEAH

will i get probation for this or not lets wait and see

 

[jawakiller]

Do what you want... Unless it involves my chick, in that case, fuck off. But seriously do what you want. If you wanna sleep with some random babe, go ahead. If you wanna wear a fake ring, by all means, do so. That is, if you are responsible enough to deal with any consequence that might arise. If you're thirteen but feel you can deal with all the bullshit involved, power to ya. If you are twenty-five but feel like you're not ready than don't. easy.

 

[Cap'n Ninja]

And do you REALLY want to wait until you're married? A: Why the hell would you? (Again, biased Atheist here)

Waiting till you're married isn't just a religious thing. Its proven that having a monogamous relationship and having sex within marriage drastically reduces your chance of STI's and the like.
I think waiting till marriage is best, but if you find someone you love and want to share that experience with, then why not? If you're really happy and its a good relationship, I think it kind of acts as a reminder of how happy you were at that time/ still are.

Personally I believe it is important, and not something you should just give to anyone. I think promise rings are good if you don't wear it when its convenient for you. If you wear it out of devotion or faith, good for you. Don't wear it just to look cool then take it off when your friends start making fun of you, then its just pointless.

A: Why do people have to be married to be monogamous?
B: If you're only having sex with 1 person, of COURSE you're less likely to get an STD. That's like saying that if you only eat food once a week you're less likely to get food poisoning.

No, it's like saying if you eat at the same place every day you're less likely to get food poisoning. If they change the cook however, you could be getting the same food, but you might get food poisoning.
The place may also pick up a couple of new, better dishes too.

 

[DarthFennec]

Big deal/not
Umm ... not any more than any other sex :/

sacred/not sacred
Definitely not sacred, no. lol

something that can be sold?(should it)
If you want to. Personally I don't really care either way, mine's already gone 9_9

Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
Exceedingly stupid.

should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?
I waited till love, mostly because nobody would do it with me before then
Marriage is absolutely worthless. The only reason to get married is for tax reasons 9_9

 

['Stache]

Now this is a thread for the Escapist.

Hey-o!

 

[Odbarc]

[Big deal/not]
It is until you lose it.

[sacred/not sacred]
It's really more of a perspective of self-respect. You'll either share yourself with everyone or no one or something in between. Now a days, it seems like it's more of a tool to get yourself high (dopamine) than to engage in an act of love or reinforce a loving relationship.

[something that can be sold?(should it)]
Anything with a buyer, there will be a seller. The question is 'can it' - yes. And it does. Should it? No.

[Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)]
Pointless. A ring isn't going to stop you from getting raped when your drunk or keep your panties on. If anything, advertising your virginity will either you get ridiculed or lure deviants into hitting on you by people who just want your virginity.

[should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?]
Most guys will take any opportunity.
Most girls will wait for love.
All the 'love' experts say waiting for marriage is the 'best' but by perspective of people who experienced both, I'm told it's the same.

The worst part, everyone is trying to impose their values (or lack thereof) onto people and none of them really have a 'this is the one fact that's true from every perspective' to share.
Everyone is different. Chances are, your going to have some bad sex, bad experiences with sexuality, and bad partners in your life.
If you wait until your married, you can get rid of one or two of those negatives at least.

Lastly, sex is something that seems everyone has eventually anyway. Virginity should be for children and they should stay that way. I'm sure we can agree on that.

 

[superbatranger]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

It's important enough to me that I don't want to lose it to just anyone. Therefore, I don't think it can be sold. I feel that would just cheapen it. Waiting for marriage is somewhat unrealistic, so I'd rather wait until I find someone I care about.

 

[SkyeNeko]

Whats your view on virginity
not as big a deal as people make it out to be
sacred-ish.
yeah it can be, dont understand why people would buy it though. is it really that important to you to be the first person to have sex with someone???
pointless. i doubt the ring is going to stop you if you get horny.
depends, what does sex mean for you.