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Not a big deal at all.
Nothing is sacred.
I'm not touching this question with a ten-foot pole, next question.
Stupid, annoying, and useless.
Should probably only lose it to someone you love, but who am I to say whats right? In the end its your body and your choice. If you choose to wait till marraige or just give it away the first chance you get, then thats your choice. As long as you don't rub your choice in someone elses face or act like it makes you morally superior then everything is copasetic
Nothing is sacred.
I'm not touching this question with a ten-foot pole, next question.
Stupid, annoying, and useless.
Should probably only lose it to someone you love, but who am I to say whats right? In the end its your body and your choice. If you choose to wait till marraige or just give it away the first chance you get, then thats your choice. As long as you don't rub your choice in someone elses face or act like it makes you morally superior then everything is copasetic
Perspective for virgins:
Losing your virginity is not a life-changing event. If you were terrible with girls/guys before, you will in all likelihood continue being so. There is no touching heaven, no Tantric melding of spirits, no fireworks, no mindgasm (just a peengasm - and not even in all cases for all people). The most distinct memory I have from my V-day is "Goddamn, this condom feels like wearing a raincoat in the shower."
In today's age of generally declining religious fervor and conservative upbringings, virginity should not be held with high regard as something to be treasured. All I can say is, lose it when you are ready, and not because your friends or some other people are forcing or expecting you to do it. Also, guys, hold out for a girl with a thin waist; I know I'm glad I waited and passed on some earlier, larger opportunities, lol.
Losing your virginity is not a life-changing event. If you were terrible with girls/guys before, you will in all likelihood continue being so. There is no touching heaven, no Tantric melding of spirits, no fireworks, no mindgasm (just a peengasm - and not even in all cases for all people). The most distinct memory I have from my V-day is "Goddamn, this condom feels like wearing a raincoat in the shower."
In today's age of generally declining religious fervor and conservative upbringings, virginity should not be held with high regard as something to be treasured. All I can say is, lose it when you are ready, and not because your friends or some other people are forcing or expecting you to do it. Also, guys, hold out for a girl with a thin waist; I know I'm glad I waited and passed on some earlier, larger opportunities, lol.
I'm curious about those who've said the combination of "make sure it's with someone you really love and trust" and "you should test it out with someone before you marry them."
Here's my question: If you love someone enough to say, "Yes! This person is special enough to me to have sexual relations with them." and then it turns out to be sub-par, would that be an automatic dealbreaker for you? Would all the feelings you had for that person be nullified by lousy sex, or would those feelings still be strong enough to continue a relationship with that person? Or, alternatively, would you not let your feelings reach that high a level before attempting relations for fear that the world would come crashing down upon a poor bedroom review?
Here's my question: If you love someone enough to say, "Yes! This person is special enough to me to have sexual relations with them." and then it turns out to be sub-par, would that be an automatic dealbreaker for you? Would all the feelings you had for that person be nullified by lousy sex, or would those feelings still be strong enough to continue a relationship with that person? Or, alternatively, would you not let your feelings reach that high a level before attempting relations for fear that the world would come crashing down upon a poor bedroom review?
It's important to me.
Sacred to me as well.
It can be sold. Doesn't mean that it should be in my opinion.
I believe in waiting until marriage.
Sadly, I'm probably going to die a virgin at this rate.
Sacred to me as well.
It can be sold. Doesn't mean that it should be in my opinion.
I believe in waiting until marriage.
Sadly, I'm probably going to die a virgin at this rate.
Virginity is a social concept that adolescents are fascinated with, for the most part. I was a virgin until I got my first boyfriend, and a month or so into our relationship we ripped up my v-card. Until then, I had never thought of being a virgin as a big deal, I was just who I am and happened to not know or care much about anything sexual.
So no, I don't think it's a big deal.
I wouldn't call it sacred, because I'm not religious. I'll admit, I was a little scared, but that was of the consequences. What if my dad heard us? What if I did something wrong? What if I didn't please him? You know, that kind of thing. Afterwards we played BlazBlue, I was more scared of him beating me at my faaaaaaaavourite game than I was of anything relating to the nasty, lol.
I don't think it should be sold, because it's not a big deal. But hey, capitalism says...
Promise Ring? What's that? Like, I promise I'll do the nasty with you, or I promise I might get around to marrying you someday when I'm not busy being a kid? Because I've heard the term used in both contexts.
I say love. Or at least, the physiological perception of it. Mix in a few raging teenage hormones and bonding with a person then yes, it is acceptable to have an intimate relationship with them. I can speak from my experience like a bit of a wank, and say that if it wasn't for my boyfriend getting lethally ill and spending the first few weeks of our relationship in recovery in hospital (he waited until 48 hours after his appendix ruptured to get into emergency), where I spent a few hours every day at his bedside, we probably wouldn't have gotten so close so fast.
But hey, to each their own. I sense unique, thought provoking post, OP. Good on yeh.
So no, I don't think it's a big deal.
I wouldn't call it sacred, because I'm not religious. I'll admit, I was a little scared, but that was of the consequences. What if my dad heard us? What if I did something wrong? What if I didn't please him? You know, that kind of thing. Afterwards we played BlazBlue, I was more scared of him beating me at my faaaaaaaavourite game than I was of anything relating to the nasty, lol.
I don't think it should be sold, because it's not a big deal. But hey, capitalism says...
Promise Ring? What's that? Like, I promise I'll do the nasty with you, or I promise I might get around to marrying you someday when I'm not busy being a kid? Because I've heard the term used in both contexts.
I say love. Or at least, the physiological perception of it. Mix in a few raging teenage hormones and bonding with a person then yes, it is acceptable to have an intimate relationship with them. I can speak from my experience like a bit of a wank, and say that if it wasn't for my boyfriend getting lethally ill and spending the first few weeks of our relationship in recovery in hospital (he waited until 48 hours after his appendix ruptured to get into emergency), where I spent a few hours every day at his bedside, we probably wouldn't have gotten so close so fast.
But hey, to each their own. I sense unique, thought provoking post, OP. Good on yeh.
Big Deal. (Anyone who says otherwise is LYING THROUGH THEIR TEETH). It is a right of passage for boys and girls carried with quite possibly the largest amount of social stigma any other act we'll ever experience will carry. BIG BIG deal in fact. Til you lose it. Then it means little if not a bit of regret, or a wonderfully beautiful memory.
Not Sacred. At least not anymore. We're a fast-food society built on quick creation and instant gratification. The things leading to it mean more then the act itself now.
It probably shouldn't be sold. (Personal opinion I can't actually argue against someone choosing to sell their body from a freedom standpoint... Other then saying it's morally irresponsible and against my own beliefs which is REALLY hard to argue with lol.)
Promise rings are a waste. Like a minor roadblock it wont stop them forever.
Any opportunity. No sense fighting the flow of the next generation. Everything changes and by trying too hard to resist said change you'll just end up alienating yourself and feeling alone. (So unless you wanna feel different... yeah.)
Not Sacred. At least not anymore. We're a fast-food society built on quick creation and instant gratification. The things leading to it mean more then the act itself now.
It probably shouldn't be sold. (Personal opinion I can't actually argue against someone choosing to sell their body from a freedom standpoint... Other then saying it's morally irresponsible and against my own beliefs which is REALLY hard to argue with lol.)
Promise rings are a waste. Like a minor roadblock it wont stop them forever.
Any opportunity. No sense fighting the flow of the next generation. Everything changes and by trying too hard to resist said change you'll just end up alienating yourself and feeling alone. (So unless you wanna feel different... yeah.)
Yes- your first time is kinda a big deal, at least in my opinion.
No- Not in the sense religions make it out to be ("Sex before marriage is eeeeeeevil!!1!11"). The idea of virginity being sacred sounds like it was started as a propaganda to me.
It can- but it shouldn't.
Rings- I have a purity ring, but it's mostly because I'm in school and it's a great way to weed out the creeps. It helps that my parents didn't tell me to wear it, I chose on my own. I don't plan on getting married, and I'm not Christian or religious by a long shot, I just like how the ring reminds me that I have self-respect. But it's not like it gives you a moral high ground or anything, it's just for personal security.
Love- Waiting until marriage? Pffft. That's like implying one's life is not complete unless they have a spouse. Not everyone gets married. It's just a piece of paper, after all. But still, one night stands? Not very classy, especially not for your first time.
No- Not in the sense religions make it out to be ("Sex before marriage is eeeeeeevil!!1!11"). The idea of virginity being sacred sounds like it was started as a propaganda to me.
It can- but it shouldn't.
Rings- I have a purity ring, but it's mostly because I'm in school and it's a great way to weed out the creeps. It helps that my parents didn't tell me to wear it, I chose on my own. I don't plan on getting married, and I'm not Christian or religious by a long shot, I just like how the ring reminds me that I have self-respect. But it's not like it gives you a moral high ground or anything, it's just for personal security.
Love- Waiting until marriage? Pffft. That's like implying one's life is not complete unless they have a spouse. Not everyone gets married. It's just a piece of paper, after all. But still, one night stands? Not very classy, especially not for your first time.
Well if you write "My virginity" on a piece of paper, you could probably have somebody buy it :/9_6 said:
OT: Sort of yes and sort of no. I mean, for a lot of people, losing your virginity is a fairly big milestone, and on that same hand, for some sex is a really important step in a relationship, so losing your virginity is basically saying "You are the first person I like/love enough to take this step with". On the other hand, for some people sex is just sex.
Personally, I am still a virgin, I'm not freaking out because I have no-one special in my life to freak out for, and if I did, I'd imagine I'd be comfortable enough with them that I wouldn't freak out about 'being bad' so much as not making them happy (if that makes sense).
Not a big deal
Not scared
Shouldn't be sold
Promise rings are stupid and pointless
Wait until you find someone who you won't regret it with in 20 years.
Not any opertunity, but not neccessarily love.
but don't take my word for it, i'm still a virgin :3
Not scared
Shouldn't be sold
Promise rings are stupid and pointless
Wait until you find someone who you won't regret it with in 20 years.
Not any opertunity, but not neccessarily love.
but don't take my word for it, i'm still a virgin :3
Virginity? Meh. Sex in context is a good thing, sex in the wrong context can mess up lives.
Sacred? In my religion, at least according to the texts, not televangelists from Texas, your past does not matter, only your present and your plans for the future.
Sold? No, I strongly believe in the immorality of prostitution. But would I outlaw it? No.
Promise rings? Personal perogative. You're probably referring to purity rings though, promising chastity. Promise rings are a promise in a couple to remain faithful only to each other even though they're not married. Essentially a "pre-engagement engagement ring." I have one of those. My fiancee lost the right to wear her purity ring a while ago, lol.
Should you wait until marriage? Context required, I suppose. Is it a good idea? Yes. Is it a must? No. I personally believe humans were designed to be monogamous and mate for life, but when we screwed up and got banished, our programming got tweaked. Marriage is legally-enforced monogamy, but I believe personally-enforced monogamy to be equally valid. Married couples can cheat, and cohabitors have been known to stick together on occasion.
I'm probably going to get the "well you're a bad christian" lecture, but honestly, where does it say "Thou must needs wed to bring forth offspring, and the brideprice shall be seven head of cattle"? Prostitution and promiscuity are openly condemned, but not personal commitments. Only once anywhere does anything close have mention: where in the Mosaic law it demands that if an unmarried man rapes an unmarried woman, he be forced to marry her and pay more than the traditional brideprice.
Sacred? In my religion, at least according to the texts, not televangelists from Texas, your past does not matter, only your present and your plans for the future.
Sold? No, I strongly believe in the immorality of prostitution. But would I outlaw it? No.
Promise rings? Personal perogative. You're probably referring to purity rings though, promising chastity. Promise rings are a promise in a couple to remain faithful only to each other even though they're not married. Essentially a "pre-engagement engagement ring." I have one of those. My fiancee lost the right to wear her purity ring a while ago, lol.
Should you wait until marriage? Context required, I suppose. Is it a good idea? Yes. Is it a must? No. I personally believe humans were designed to be monogamous and mate for life, but when we screwed up and got banished, our programming got tweaked. Marriage is legally-enforced monogamy, but I believe personally-enforced monogamy to be equally valid. Married couples can cheat, and cohabitors have been known to stick together on occasion.
I'm probably going to get the "well you're a bad christian" lecture, but honestly, where does it say "Thou must needs wed to bring forth offspring, and the brideprice shall be seven head of cattle"? Prostitution and promiscuity are openly condemned, but not personal commitments. Only once anywhere does anything close have mention: where in the Mosaic law it demands that if an unmarried man rapes an unmarried woman, he be forced to marry her and pay more than the traditional brideprice.
Big deal/not
Normal part of developing.
sacred/not sacred
Not sacred. It's nature. It was happenning looooooong before any religion started make silly claims about sex.
something that can be sold?(should it)
It is possible, and as long as there are crazy creepers ready to pay for something like that, it makes me wonder who is more crazy here, the fool or the fool who follows her?
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
The most stupid thing ever invented by corrupt manipulative perverted people and worn by fakers, liars, cheaters, and a very small group of really shallow naive fools.
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?
When you are ready for it and old enough to know how to not get pregnant.
Normal part of developing.
sacred/not sacred
Not sacred. It's nature. It was happenning looooooong before any religion started make silly claims about sex.
something that can be sold?(should it)
It is possible, and as long as there are crazy creepers ready to pay for something like that, it makes me wonder who is more crazy here, the fool or the fool who follows her?
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
The most stupid thing ever invented by corrupt manipulative perverted people and worn by fakers, liars, cheaters, and a very small group of really shallow naive fools.
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?
When you are ready for it and old enough to know how to not get pregnant.
Big deal/not
I think virginity could be a big deal if the virgin wants it to be. After all, losing one's virginity is one of the great rites of passage. Having sex is a biological ability of an adult body, so the ability to have sex marks one as entering adulthood.
sacred/not sacred
Personally, I don't think so, but if someone really wants to wait until some predetermined point (for me, it was "until I love the person," and I don't regret it), I think it's admirable in that it takes a great deal of will and self-control to stay away from the combination of peer pressure, media saturation, and biological urge that push a young person towards sex. That said, I think a lot of people save themselves for the wrong reasons, and more than likely end up feeling let down when the moment finally comes; personally, I'm glad that I have a decent amount of sexual experience under my belt to call on when it's time to celebrate my wedding night.
something that can be sold?(should it)
I believe that a person's body is theirs to do with as they please, and that includes virginity. As long as both parties are of legal age and consent to the transaction, I really don't see any problem with selling one's virginity. Sure, they may regret it later, but how many people's first times are wonderful?
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
I personally don't think promise rings serve any purpose other than to allow religious organization to mark people as their own. A ring wouldn't prevent a teenager from having sex any more than a promise made to one's self. If anything, the ring seems to have the exact effect on some teens, constantly reminding them of sex and making sure it's on their mind more than ususal.
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?
I personally believe it's a good idea to wait until love (or what my teenaged mind was absolutely certain was love...), since both partners will be mutually caring and hopefully make the experience as pleasant as possible for each other. Of course, two virgins are likely to be clumsy no matter how much they love each other; likewise, someone may have a better experience if they lose their virginity to a more experienced partner.
In conclusion, I see virginity as something completely personal. I don't think there's any right or wrong way to handle it, but I think a lot of people need to think things through a lot more carefully and consider all the options.
I think virginity could be a big deal if the virgin wants it to be. After all, losing one's virginity is one of the great rites of passage. Having sex is a biological ability of an adult body, so the ability to have sex marks one as entering adulthood.
sacred/not sacred
Personally, I don't think so, but if someone really wants to wait until some predetermined point (for me, it was "until I love the person," and I don't regret it), I think it's admirable in that it takes a great deal of will and self-control to stay away from the combination of peer pressure, media saturation, and biological urge that push a young person towards sex. That said, I think a lot of people save themselves for the wrong reasons, and more than likely end up feeling let down when the moment finally comes; personally, I'm glad that I have a decent amount of sexual experience under my belt to call on when it's time to celebrate my wedding night.
something that can be sold?(should it)
I believe that a person's body is theirs to do with as they please, and that includes virginity. As long as both parties are of legal age and consent to the transaction, I really don't see any problem with selling one's virginity. Sure, they may regret it later, but how many people's first times are wonderful?
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
I personally don't think promise rings serve any purpose other than to allow religious organization to mark people as their own. A ring wouldn't prevent a teenager from having sex any more than a promise made to one's self. If anything, the ring seems to have the exact effect on some teens, constantly reminding them of sex and making sure it's on their mind more than ususal.
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?
I personally believe it's a good idea to wait until love (or what my teenaged mind was absolutely certain was love...), since both partners will be mutually caring and hopefully make the experience as pleasant as possible for each other. Of course, two virgins are likely to be clumsy no matter how much they love each other; likewise, someone may have a better experience if they lose their virginity to a more experienced partner.
In conclusion, I see virginity as something completely personal. I don't think there's any right or wrong way to handle it, but I think a lot of people need to think things through a lot more carefully and consider all the options.
i herd on the radio on day that a super model put her virginity on sell to millionaires and got 1.4 mil9_6 said:
now you may think how could they let her do that? and not put her in jail?
well the millionair "gav her" 1.4 for no reson then she "fell in love" and they had sex
she was 21 i think
Big deal/not Personally not a big deal, never was when I was a virgin and now I'm not I don't really care for/about it.
sacred/not sacred No, sex is sex so it doesn't matter who you have it with first
something that can be sold?(should it)It can be, eBay lol, but that's really desprate and sad.
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good) Really stupid, I would laugh ing your face.
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?What ever is right for you. For my virginity, it was love, a lot of sex after that has been random so eh.
sacred/not sacred No, sex is sex so it doesn't matter who you have it with first
something that can be sold?(should it)It can be, eBay lol, but that's really desprate and sad.
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good) Really stupid, I would laugh ing your face.
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?What ever is right for you. For my virginity, it was love, a lot of sex after that has been random so eh.
Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
Not really a big deal in losing it - For me (as a guy) it is more a state of mind
sacred/not sacred
To some degree I think it is
something that can be sold?
It can and has and shouldn't
Promise rings?
Pointless and stupid
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?
Wait till you are ready
I have read alot of the responses in here. For the record all of you who are stating sex is overrated are #1 not having good sex #2 Probably not talking with your partner about it. If you aren't rattling the walls - waking up the neighbors - seeing spots - can't walk afterwords - you are missing out greatly and I feel sorry for you.
To the ladies out there - alot of you sit there and take it. If you aren't having orgasms you need to get more in touch with yourself and you need to tell your partners what to do. Be honest and never fake it. If you fake it all you are doing is depriving yourself.
Me and my wife have been together for near 7 years and we both still love sex - don't find it boring or over rated. On average we have sex 4 to 5 times a week. I shared some of the responses here with her and she honestly is sad that so many of you don't find sex as one of the most awesome experiences you can have. I am not saying I am some sex God because I am not. But me and the wife are good enough for each other to keep us interested in each other for years so far with no sign of stopping. Don't think of yourself in bed - think of your partner. You do that and it will be a blast. If you are just there to get off - jerk it into a sock. It is quicker with much less awkwardness afterwords because it sucked.
Big deal/not
Not really a big deal in losing it - For me (as a guy) it is more a state of mind
sacred/not sacred
To some degree I think it is
something that can be sold?
It can and has and shouldn't
Promise rings?
Pointless and stupid
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?
Wait till you are ready
I have read alot of the responses in here. For the record all of you who are stating sex is overrated are #1 not having good sex #2 Probably not talking with your partner about it. If you aren't rattling the walls - waking up the neighbors - seeing spots - can't walk afterwords - you are missing out greatly and I feel sorry for you.
To the ladies out there - alot of you sit there and take it. If you aren't having orgasms you need to get more in touch with yourself and you need to tell your partners what to do. Be honest and never fake it. If you fake it all you are doing is depriving yourself.
Me and my wife have been together for near 7 years and we both still love sex - don't find it boring or over rated. On average we have sex 4 to 5 times a week. I shared some of the responses here with her and she honestly is sad that so many of you don't find sex as one of the most awesome experiences you can have. I am not saying I am some sex God because I am not. But me and the wife are good enough for each other to keep us interested in each other for years so far with no sign of stopping. Don't think of yourself in bed - think of your partner. You do that and it will be a blast. If you are just there to get off - jerk it into a sock. It is quicker with much less awkwardness afterwords because it sucked.
As another person stated in the thread, it's truly horrible to see how the world has become. I don't look at virginity as a sacred thing, but as a sacred state. So, yes I both see it as a big deal and a sacret state. And why sell it, when the prize you get from God for waiting is much bigger than anything earthly? Promise rings is a nice idea, I guess, but if you can't hold yourself, I guess looking at a ring would help. It would be much better to force yourself to cite a bibleverse, or listen to some gospel. (I tried it when I wanted to get rid of my addiction to masturbation, and it really helped.) So of course I definetely think that you should wait for marriage. If that means I'll be a virgin forever, I'll just look at my life as service for God, and not for other people.