Virginity

[MrJoyless]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

Big Deal...ish - (unprotected sex) as in making this choice could make you a parent and if you think you are able to take on that responsibility with the person you are nailing (or willing to pay the child support/abortion) then more power to you. (protected) But if you are taking the proper precautions then i cant see why anyone makes a big deal about it.

Not Sacred - as in something you will not go spend an eternity in an unhappy place for doing (if you believe in that sort of thing)

Something that can be sold - and should be sold if there is a market for it (there is) honestly ive been to countries with legal prostitution in some areas (like Las Vegas or red light districts) and i dont see any reason to care about women selling sex...i do have issue with women being forced or coerced to have sex but that is a different issue completely.

Promise rings - good if you mean it, pointless if you dont

Should you wait till marriage - nope, as long as you are willing to acknowledge the consequences of what you are doing then go ahead and have fun.
Or at any opportunity - if you are having sex with anyone willing to serve it just remember, you arent the first customer in line, and everyone customer before you had a little sample of your drink before you got a taste...ugh what a nasty image...so wear a fucking condom

 

[BENZOOKA]

It is one of the superstitions of the human mind to have imagined that virginity could be a virtue.
- Voltaire

It certainly isn't a big deal.

 

[Krantos]

What you do is your decision.
Can never be taken back, however. Anything like that should never be rushed into.
For myself, my wife and I lost ours to each other about 2 years before we got married (2 years after we started dating). Very glad we waited.

Like I said, losing it is something that can never be undone. Therefore it's something that should not be rushed into. In the end, though, it's up to each person what they do with it.

It's not really a big deal, but for those who feel that sex is the purest expression of intimacy, it feels good to know that you and your partner have only ever shared it with each other.

 

[Wintermoot]

Whats your view on virginity- not that important to me
Big deal/not- not
sacred/not sacred- its not sacred you had sex big deal!
something that can be sold?(should it)- its your personal choice
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)-bullocks, its just a stupid ring its not that it can stop your need for sexy time
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?- any opertunity

 

[JokerCrowe]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not - A: Not really, but I want it to be right
sacred/not sacred - A: Not religious, so no
something that can be sold?(should it) - A: You lost me. Selling virginity?
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good) - A: Don't know what it is, but if it is what I think it is, it just seems pointless
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity? - A: I'll wait till Love at least

But these are just MY views on the matter, I can't speak for the general public. Let them do what they want.

 

[blaize2010]

it is a big deal at least to me, because it is a bond that you share with somebody, not some random person. i don't believe you must marry to lose it, but i do think you should put thought into it

 

[Captain Pirate]

Relatively big deal. At least, it is for me. I mean, I'd like to lose my virginity.

Sacred... hmm, depends. If it's between a loving couple/husband and wife/something along those lines, then maybe. It all depends. I personally think it is sacred.

Can be sold, doesn't mean it should though.

Promise rings? What? Like, wedding rings? I don't understand the question.

Any opportunity, as long as it's in good nature, I guess. Humanity is too driven by sex (Literally, it's our main perogative: Reproduce) to limit it to after marriage. I am a Christian, but I'd have sex without getting married.
I would sleep with someone I really like, and if we were both sober, but if it was with some drunk girl I don't like too much, but would shag, I wouldn't do it.
Actually... Wait, no. I wouldn't take advantage of a girl. Or do it with some slut.

 

[Legion]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

Not a big deal, unless you want kids.
Not sacred, it's just sex for Christ sake.
That sounds strange, of course it can be, as for whether it should? *Shrugs*.
Promise rings are pointless and somewhat childish.
Any opportunity that you and the other person want to have sex, sure.

 

[CrashBang]

It is seen as a big deal and there is pressure surrounding it, everyone knows that. I lost mine at 16 and did feel pressure to lose it before I was 18 but that didn't mean I lost it with the first girl I could find. The girl I lost it to was my first real love. I've got a friend who's just turned 21 and he's still a virgin. I find that very strange and it has caused him to be crap at approaching women. I'd feel bad for him if he wasn't such a tool
I was scared. It's terrifying, IMO
It is capable of being sold but I'm firmly against it. Anyone who buys someone's virginity has mental issues
Promise rings are sad and stupid
I think you should wait til you're in love or, at least, in a solid relationship with someone you trust and see some sort of future with. I don't believe in one-night stands. Some of my mates have had them and love having them. I'll admit that I look down on them for it

 

[Valksy]

Not a big deal, not scary, not sacred. If people want to wait for marriage, that's their choice but this holding up the concept of virginity as some amazing sacred thing boggles my mind.

I do vaguely recall an ebay virginity thing. It belongs to the person and if someone wants to buy it, so long as everyone is able to consent, then none of my business. I do raise an eyebrow at those who chase virgins specifically - their choice but they probably know they are a crap shag and hope that a virgin won't realise this.

Let's be honest. Like any other physical activity, you do get better with practice. Emotional resonance is good if you want it, but knowing and understanding how your body reacts is pretty damned important.

 

[MarlaminLTarmiko]

I shall just answer this in list form, as I am a lazy bastard.

Not a big deal, or at least I should assume so. First times are perpetually terrible anyway.
I'm an atheist, so the latter
I don't think it SHOULD be but if someone decides to do so then I have no objection, its their life.
As you said, pointless.
I view marriage as a somewhat pointless ritual as well, so I'll go with no. But again if someone wants to then fine, good for them.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Not especially, but I guess it is kind of a milestone in growing up.

Not really sacred. It's always better between a loving couple but that's not to say it's not fun otherwise.

Isn't that basically prostitution? Sure, I suppose you can, but you're a massive skank if you do.

Promise rings are the stupidest idea since the chastity belt.

It's up to the person. Only idiots tell eachother which is right and wrong. Personally, I didn't really care, and it was great. I would only suggest that being with someone with a little experience will make your first time better.

 

[Rosette]

I am very liberal so
not a big deal
not sacred
No
stupid
when you feel ready.

 

[Wilko316]

For me not really, I'd actually really like it too happen but I'm not as bothered as I probably should be about if it doesn't.

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo, bring it on.

I don't think it should be sold, I've always thought of losing your virginity as a part of life that's one of those 'damn, I remember when...' moments. Paying for it would be like cheating yourself out of a memory.

Stupid.

Probably not marriage. Fuck yes to love, I'd much rather my first time be making love than just sex. It depends what the opportunity is really.

 

[Dyp100]

Virginity has never been a big deal for me, I can see why some people might see it as a big thing but not for me.

I have yet to have sex, because I wanna wait for someone I love but really I don't care what people do, it's their life. Sex is sex, if they wanna lose their virginity for fun then let them, if people wanna wait for marriage then they can do so.

I suppose I am a little nervous that it'll go shit my first time (as it tends to) and I'm especially wondered my first time will come pretty late and with someone who is already versed in sex.

 

[Zachary Unkle]

Big deal/not STFU Jared... Conflicts with friends aside,I don't see being a virgin as such a big deal
sacred/not sacred It's not sacred,but that doesn't mean that the first chance you get,go straight to sex.
something that can be sold?(should it) It's kind of disgusting selling your body to someone you don't even know,but people were given free will.
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good) Stupid
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity? As a catholic,I've been told to wait till marriage,but really,If I was truly in love with a girl and she was okay with it,I'd go for it.

 

[Kenko]

How the heck can you sell virginity?

From what ive heard, some wierdo's will actually pay a pretty batch of cash to take a girls virginity.

 

[higgs20]

it's as big a deal as you make it.

as far as I remember, wasn't scared.

whatever brings in the money I suppose, but how would you find a buyer, not exactly something to put on ebay.

stupid.

don't see the point if you feel ready and get the opportunity, go for it.

 

[zwoodco10]

I love all of these people that keep saying how stupid promise rings are.

So, essentially, you are saying that someone else's decision to wait until they marry the person that they want to spend the rest of their life with is stupid? What happened to being open-minded?

 

[Bonino90]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

-Not really a big deal to me
-I can't say I see it much as a sacred "thing" , If you put too much in to it, saving yourself for that special night, you will most likely just end up being disappointed. If there is love in the air and both are feeling it, go for it I say.
-Promise rings?, I think it's stupid , but hey, whatever floats your boat.
-I would say that as long as both want to, go for it. But it means more when you're doing it with someone you have feelings for in my opinion.
But I respect the people who see it in a different manner.