You have no authority here, Jackie Weaver
- Apr 3, 2020
I am even different again! Despite my image here as a self-indulgent egoist who talks about what gets her rocks off I am very quiet in real life. I am sociable but I listen more than talk or I zone out. So sometimes after a long time of not saying anything I will burst out with something, everyone will pause and then they will burst out laughing. I get so confused because I'm not trying to be funny.I have a kind of opposite problem, which is that I tend to be so deadpan pretty much no-one can tell whether I'm being serious or not.
I was just clarifying how I think, I wasn't being defensive of you anything, I just felt I did a really shit job of expressing how I think.I didn't say you were being childish, YOU were the one that made the comparison to a kid's mentality on the subject. I personally disagree with that comparison anyway, given my own personal awareness of my own sexual tastes as a very young kid. I'm not a neuroscientist so I can only speculate, but I would just say that your brain, when it was growing and laying down wirework, didn't wire into the sex/pleasure centers of the brain in some way. It's not a problem, though given your other comments about your struggles with solipsism and disassociation disorder, it might be related in some way? *shrugs* CT scan and MRI's probably would be enlightening in that regard. Regardless, it doesn't matter on a social level, if a single person isn't into boinking, so it's ultimately irrelevant.
My mind is basically scrambled, I wouldn't know exactly what I was thinking at the moment, but probably I was thinking of a completely unrelated discussion I've had with someone else which prompted me to say that in this post completely unprovoked, I guess what I'm saying is that I'm basically talking with myself half the time, pay it no mind, it's not really directed at you or anyone else.I'm not really sure what happened with this bit of your post? You quoted me, and then apparently someone else, and then started saying 'I don't want to debate if being ACE is queer, considering I said nothing of the sort in my post you quoted? So...yeah I have no idea what this response is about. It feels like you quoted me, but replied to someone else. The part you quoted was just me describing what you described as your physiological reaction to being picked up. It sounds a lot like what those of us who do have sexual desire, do experience in those first moments with a potential lover/partner. I mean I literally read what you said happens to you biologically when you get picked up, and it reminded me of how I would feel when I'd get close to someone for that first hint of a kiss, or intimate hug or whatever.
My only point is that it doesn't seem, at least on some level, to be any different than the rest of us, or at least my reaction anyway. So it's not that weird. Because when you and the OP talking about these things, you both constantly seem to try and qualify your comments, like you expect to be attacked from all sides. Like, as some of you have actually said, are "a freak." And, what you described, seems pretty standard, you just don't move beyond that point or whatever.
Sorry, but a lot of really personal information was being discussed, it turns out I wasn't as comfortable as I thought discussing it in general so I got super defensive, also you did kinda bring it up in this thread and I think I felt that probably not a lot of people would have remembered that, so you did basically tell them.No I said the exact opposite: that it is impossible to tell. There are too many factors that could contribute but we don't know whether they did. You might simply just be naturally ace. This is why I said people should not try to speculate.
Of course. I would never discuss something you did not openly volunteer. That would be a dick move.
Yes it is impossible to know but what matters here is that your experience is valid and everyone here I hope accepts you for what you are.
I'm so sorry I discussed things you were not comfortable with and for how that made you feel. I should have rephrased my point so that I was speaking as a hypothetical person and not about you (which was what I was trying to do). I will be more mindful in choosing my words about such a sensitive topic next time.Sorry, but a lot of really personal information was being discussed, it turns out I wasn't as comfortable as I thought discussing it in general so I got super defensive, also you did kinda bring it up in this thread and I think I felt that probably not a lot of people would have remembered that, so you did basically tell them.
How you feel is definitely fair. I do not use forums very often and sometimes my thought makes continuity between a post from months ago and this post now which is just stupid. Of course you might have been more open to discuss things back then and it does not mean it is proper for me to discuss them now. I will learn from this.In any case, it's OK, like I said I did provide that information voluntarily so I don't hold it against you, given the nature of what was being discussed it's obvious I didn't take it super well, which I think is fair and a natural reaction, it's kind off sensitive information after all, so I guess I'll leave it at that.
No, you told me how you feel and I thank you for that because it gives me chance to apologise. You acted completely fairly and came across as more mature than I didAgain don't like worry about it, but that's why I was acting like that I guess.