Because frequently its invoked as a way of shutting down the discussion not engaging it, and frequently misses or flat out ignores that their often not being lumped in. Going back to what Jim C Hines said, comments using the #yesallwomen very rarely blamed or attacked all men, just laid down examples of how many women have had how some men act like their owed sex affect them both in general and in specific cases.Gorrath said:I can agree that it is ridiculous that someone would try and say their hurt feelings are more important than the shooting deaths of a bunch of people. If someone says that, they rightly deserve to be mocked. If someone says that they don't want to be lumped in a group with crazy people, and would prefer if they aren't stereotyped, that is completely rational and is not worthy of derision. I often see people being accused of the former when they are simply saying the latter.Windknight said:I think Jim C Hines summed it best when he talked about the angry reaction by men to the #yesallwomen hashtag.
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The idea that some people want their upset at 'being lumped in' with unpleasant types to be seen as more important than the harm those unpleasent types are actually doing needs calling out and mocking.
Being part of a majority in power does not make one automatically immune to the pressures and problems caused by stereotyping, and so people wanting to avoid stereotyping is completely understandable. People trying to claim that the "real" problem is that they're the ones who are being discriminated against are often out of touch with what other people experience. Unfair discrimination and stereotyping is its own problem. It's bad no matter who it happens to and we don't have to engage in arguments of degree when we can just fight the problem where ever we see it. I've never thought of this as a 0 sum game.
I guess a good way to sum up my stance on things is that I am not a women's advocate or a men's advocate, I am not an advocate for any race or gender. I am an advocate for people who are suffering and for ideas that bring about equality. I don't know a great deal about the yesallwomen hashtag, as I find hashtag movements tend to readily get hijacked by loudmouthed people on two or more sides of any issue who make their living off of being as divisive as possible. Not sure if everything i said was actually warranted as a response to you, so please excuse me if my post is needlessly long-winded or misses your point.
But '#notallmen' was invoked by people who didn't bother to notice that, and just wanted it shut down. The' I didn't do any of this, this is not my fault SO STOP TALKING ABOUT IT NOW' attitude where rather than just ignoring it, they want it stopped because they don't like other people talking about it.