what are you doing with your life?

[Bat Vader]

I am not doing much with my life at the moment. I work as a dishwasher at a retirement home. I have severe social anxiety which makes meeting new people hell. I have two good friends though. One lives down state and I will be moving in with him in October of 2013. My other friend is my co-worker. Since he knows I have social anxiety he tries to get me out of the house every once in awhile. Sometimes I go out and sometimes I don't.

I do want to start writing a script for an indie film in the near future. I just need to finish fleshing out the characters.

 

[Ham Blitz]

Sometimes yes, all I can say is I am going to college and work a job on the weekends that doesn't earn much money but since I don't spend much I am still gaining small amounts of money. One of my friends who graduated high school with me has already had multiple internships and is a TA now, another does nothing but works a small part time job, and the rest are, like me, in college. I guess I'm just kind of within the standard among my closer friends.
Though sometimes I do compare in the more social aspects of my life, at which point I am more of in the lower tier of that (don't go out much), but then again a good group of my friends go to colleges with multiple hour drives from where I am and I don't really have the time to drive that.
Actually, even more on topic, while working I ran in to one girl who I went to high school with. I didn't know her that much and she seemed like a nice girl back then which surprised me when she was pregnant senior year, and now, 3 years since then and she's pregnant again. It kind of made me sad seeing how her boyfriend (or more at this point, I don't know) wasn't too bright from what I hear so I don't know what they're doing now.

 

[mechashiva77]

Compared to my friends, I have it the best. But it still feels like I'm wasting away my college years and don't really have anything to show for it. I used to want to become a pharmacists, but college knocked any chance I had with that right away. I want to become a translator, but I always fear that there won't be any work for me after I graduate.

 

[Strazdas]

Wait a minute. your weirded out that a 20 year old religiuos female is having a baby? isnt that, kinda, what 99% of world females are doing anyway?


I often compare me to other people, some better than me, some worse. mostly worse and then gloat to myself of how cool i am

In the end, i am happy with my life.
i have a house (for which im still paying to the bank, but thats ok), i have a job i love, i have bachelors education going towards masters degree and i hope to obtain a reasonable computer soon ( a 4 year old laptop isnt really doing it for gaming anymore)..
As for woman and babies, wiman are fine, i never want to have children so i dont actively seek them. i could throw myself at generating spawns of my DNA, and that wouldnt be bad in the grand scheme, but i dont want to.

 

[Patathatapon]

Meh, I say fuck life with a big splintery spoon.

Life is already a never ending torment that we all have to go through, and I would rather not have more stuff to complain about. In fact this little video will probably sum up my opinion.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WXvsl8xgRxc

 

[Bvenged]

Similar experience:

As a 19 year old, I have now spotted a handful of girls that I went to school with on Facebook - who are now pregnant. My good mate has a girlfriend of (3 years I think?) and she's not pregnant, yet these other classy ladies now have kids at 19, 18, 17... and some don't even have jobs. If you have a kid, at least ensure you can bring them up in a good neighbourhood, with some financial backing and set them a good example by having a job (at the very least!).

I know it's bad to judge, but sometimes I wonder if these people think before having kids. I don't condemn them, but I don't think they really thought it through properly a lot of the time. Nothing makes me shake my head in shame other than seeing a 16/17/18 year old mum, jobless, smoking and standing around town at 11AM on a weekday.

[hr]

I have one regret for not doing in my own life, and that was not going off to Uni and now it feels like I've missed out on an experience with my mates... but as hard as I tried, I couldn't pass my Physics or Biology A-Levels, and without trying I dominated Computing (I'll be damned if I know).

Rather than sulk around being a jobless bum, or with a crappy job (which was my backup plan), I found a foundation degree that took me on with superb post-graduate possibilities. Other than a few hiccups on the Uni's part in the first year, it's been brilliant so far and it's really picked up the pace over the past few weeks. It's a computer-based subject that will likely (99% sure) lead to something more than sitting at the same desk typing the same shit for the next 40 years.

Moral of my story is: If you think life's getting you down, push back and things will start turning out for the best.

 

[Myndnix]

I often do, yeah. I'm looking pretty pathetic right now after all.
I'll be twenty three years old next month, and I've still never had a job before. Not at all for lack of trying; I've been looking for years, I've just never been hired.
I also went to college for a few years but had to drop out when I became seriously ill. After spending about six months homeridden, I was informed that the course I was taking is not being done again at my college and that I'd need to find something else. But I didn't have the qualifications for anything else. I spent another couple of years trying other courses in an effort to get more qualifications, only to fail the final exams both times, and once again, the college is no longer doing the courses I need to take.
So now I'm stuck with no higher education and the complete inability to get it. And still no jobs.
Thankfully, my parents understand this, mostly, so I've got a place to live...for now. They keep saying that if I don't have a job by , that I'll be out on the street, but they never follow through on that. Of course, I'm terrified that isn't going to last much longer.
I'm trying my best here, but I'm not getting anywhere.

Meanwhile, almost everyone I went to school with has been to university, and didn't fail, and now many of them have careers. Some don't, of course, some went to university and got fancy degrees only to learn that nobody is hiring in their field. Or that nobody ever hires in their field. I feel really bad for them, actually.

 

[petrolmonkey]

Yeah, since I failed some exams and am now resitting them. Some of my smart friends are getting ready for uni now, while I'm stuck in a sixth-form college. Makes me jealous sometimes.

I'm basically trying to heave a great ton of work off my shoulders. Not pleasant though.

Other than that, watching other people's relationships crash and burn or the opposite and wishing that I had some free to practice some drawing more.

I wouldn't worry too much about uni and having to do resits. I failed my AS levels, went to college for a year, dropped out, had a job, went back to college to do something I liked and now I have a relatively god job and don't face thousands of pounds of debt thanks to student loans. Sometimes screwing up is actually a saving grace.

As for people who I went to school with my age or younger, who are getting married, have kids etc. I don't care. I don't want any of that. Although it's still a sort of standard measure of success, I'm happy(ish) with how things are going. They could always be better and I'll never be a majorly successful person, but I could be doing a hell of a lot worse, but sometimes I do feel as though I wasted a portion of my life. Oh well, can't go back!

 

[Midnight Crossroads]

It's too easy to compare my life to those of my high school class mates. I like to compare my life to an old battle buddy who received a full ride to Harvard Med School. That's the quality of accomplishment for which I want to reach.

 

[unLucky500]

Mostly I'm replying because I love Footrot Flats and your avatar just... spoke to me. No one seems to know what it is anymore...

But in answer to your qeustion, yes, all the time. But not really in regards to relationships/family life and more to do with jobs and careers. I know people who are younger than me who are living their dream careers already. I'm 24 next year and I truly wonder sometimes if I'm just a screw-up. My extended family keep asking me why I don't want to be a teacher, because my current uni degree is an English and Theatre course. They can't seem to fathom why I wouldn't want to settle for something relatively stable like teaching and I've started to question whther I'm just weird for not wanting that. Go figure.

 

[Thaluikhain]

A lot of people I went to high school with are all annoyingly successful...but OTOH, everyone else looks so much older than me, so I have that to console myself with.

 

[Hoplon]

Well, I'm me and so by default at least 20% better than you.

People who aren't me are frankly an unfortunate lot. I would pity them but that would be a waste of time.

 

[A.A.K]

Trying to hold onto both my mental stability and my girlfriend. Recent events have made it very difficult to have both.

 

[VeryOddGamer]

What am I doing with my life?

Absolutely nothing.

Captcha: "cod heads prevail" God, I hope not.

 

[HardkorSB]

I stared at the screen dumbfounded mumbling "NO!..NOOOOOOOOOO...no no no nno noooo no NO!!??"

I didn't know Shia LaBeouf was on this forum.

I son't really compare myself to others that much. I do however have this idealized version of myself in my head which sometimes serves me as a reminder that I'm not doing as much in life as I could be doing. I like to compare myself to that, it's very motivating.

 

[Vault101]

What is wrong with having a kid at 20? That is rather normal. Hell it wasn't too long ago that we were having thousands of kids being born when they were 15/16. Before that it was 13/14 or whenever they first bled. I know many people who have had children while in college, yet they were able to balance out the difficulties of child-raising and going to school. Then again, I live in a small town so everything isn't overly expensive like it is in large cities.
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aside from it still being kind of young...theres nothing wrong with her having a child since from what I can gather she would be in a position to raise it

biologically it is normal (and as I mentioned I myself only have a few prime years left Ideally) socially though its not as common thease days because we'd all rather go out and have fun rather than spawn...I see nothing wrong with that eather

 

[Domogo]

Yes. While I still live with my parents at 22 years old, I try to rely on them as little as possible by paying my own groceries/gas/etc., and doing my own cooking/cleaning. One of my friends is in pretty much the same boat as me. We both finished post-secondary education with shit chances for jobs, and ended up working for relatives. I try to be responsible and save money where I can, but I'm always bound to get the "You live with your parents, you don't have to worry about money" talk. It always confuses me when I see people with nicely decorated houses and massive movie/music/game collections complain about being broke.

The only thing I look forward to nowadays is my main hobby - amateur kickboxing.

This sounds like an epic monologue opening for a movie haha maybe you should look into that.

OT: I get told that a lot but I really don't feel it... usually.

 

[Xaio30]

What am I doing? WHAT AM I DOING?

I'll tell you what I'm doing. I'm turning my life around. Getting a grip. The last year I've visited multiple Universities and finally concluded that I want to be a Software Engineer. Following this, I fixed my habits at home so I could start doing the laundry, dishes and cleaning more regularly. To top that off, I also bought myself a couple pony shirts that I often wear in public so my self esteem gets built up to acceptable levels.

I punched life in the gut and made it my *****.
I'm sleeping on top tonight.

 

[soren7550]

My roomies however, don't have any real cares in the world. Their parents pay for everything, they have cushy jobs they got through their folks, they're going to college, they have a bunch of friends, they smoke weed all the time, and I hate them all so much for it.

This is starting to sound like the backstory of a CSI killer...

How can I not help but feel like an utter failure when I have that all going on? They act like a bunch of jackasses with no regards to the law or anything, and they have everything, while I have through my whole life tried to do right by everyone, behave the best I could, do whatever I was told, kept to myself and quiet so as to not upset people, and I got just about nothing.

OK, yeah, if I read in the news about a bunch of pot-smoking kids brutally murdered by their frustrated housemate, I know who I'll blame

"I was nice! I was a good person all my life, and the world just shit all over me! Well, no more. Now it's time for me to teach them all a lesson! They want me to be a bastard? Oh, boy, be careful what you wish for!"

Haha, well, in my forensics class, I did find out that I shared 10 out of 14 or so common traits found in serial killers (the most out of everyone in the class). >=]

 

[AdamxD]

Yeah, I'm 19 and found out the other day that the first girl I ever had a crush on, also my age, is like a month away from having a baby. Meanwhile, there's me at University studying for a course with supposedly good job prospects. At least she doesn't have to put up with lab reports though!
Does get me thinking though. I've barely had a relationship that's lasted over a month.