I'll be honest, reading this thread makes me quite sad, there is alot of misinformation and personal opinion in these posts.
One of the problems is simply the word privilege, people take it to mean you are "entitled" to certain benefits, but that's not what it means in the context of feminism. Privilege means men simply have certain societal benefits that women don't have, simply due to the sake of their gender. A man will find it easier to enter certain fields of work, for example, engineering, a man will be paid more for the same work, men are expected to perform better under stress, thus making them better for certain positions, etc. This isn't say men are arrogant, or men are jerks, it's just to say our reality gives men certain benefits it does not give women. Patriarchical culture means a culture that gives men priviledges due to their gender and tends to favor a male worldview. The current american culture is that the average white male is the norm and those that deviate from that norm are subject to harsher standards/less benefits and it is generally more okay to have some form of prejudice against them. This doesn't necessarily apply everywhere, but it does in alot of places.
People have also thrown around things that us women get benefits for that men don't. Unfortunately alot of those issues are due to the same prejudices that seem to benefit men. Women are better caregivers, were weaker, were less able to handle stress, etc.
And finally, the OP said alot of incorrect things, alot of people conflate feminism with straw feminism (or feminazi as some call it), which is largely something manufactured so people can mock it, and hurts feminism. Feminists do not support superior female dominance in culture, it is simply seeking equal opportunities for both genders. There is alot of anger and hate on both sides and it's only really come to the fore recently, this is called culture backlash, and the increasing presence of feminism is trying to force out traditional ideas of masculinity, this "threat" to cultural norm is what's caused people to lash out, hyper masculinize, glorify certain attitudes of violence and dominance and the like towards women.
Note these are general societal/cultural issues, they do not say YOU are guilty of anything, nor does it say men cannot suffer hardships, it simply says the deck tends to favor the straight white male in the United States. Thus many arguments are directed towards "men" because it's a "male dominated" culture, but this does not mean they are targetted directly at any individual person.
I can also say I have never ever heard a single person say "check your privilege" except on forums like this where they try to talk about how feminism is stupid and oppressing men.
I've been gaming since the NES era, alas not Atari, and while attitudes have improved over the years, god knows there was a huge number of issues simply being female in games, but I tended to frequent the same areas of the internet, the same games and people grew to like me and I became the "norm". But let's be clear, despite us being a huge part of the gaming market, were still being treated by intruders by what is sadly a very vocal MINORITY of gamers, and it's unfortunate but the loudest voice is this minority. Gamers however feel very offended when women speak of "male gamers who are misogynists" because they take it as a personal insult, and thus rally together... unfortunately defending the very people they should get rid of. Much like how white people are not all associated with the KKK, it would be nice if gamers could condemn and put more effort into removing their toxic elements, so people did not associate "gamers" so negatively.
That's just my take on it.
Sorry for the lack of quotes but I read the entire thread and just didn't know where to start.
