What Is Love?
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There's absolutely no need to rush into saying it. Just because you feel it, doesn't mean it needs to be said as soon as possible. It's something that is very easily confused with infatuation. I don't doubt everyone has confused them at one point in their life. Until you can be sure that it's not infatuation, and actual love, don't say it. Doing so can lead to an uncomfortable situation, or a hurtful end.
Continue hanging out with this girl, getting to know her, and don't feel like there's any sort of expectation to say "I love you". You're still young, and you two haven't been sexually intimate. Both play roles in relationships, and can heavily sway their direction.
If you still feel as if you love her down the road, after having spent lots of time with her, and seeing how she feels about the two of you, go ahead and say it. Hopefully it goes the way you'd like, and things work out. If not, it'll be a great learning experience for future relationships.
Best of luck!
Edit: Old threads are old...
Continue hanging out with this girl, getting to know her, and don't feel like there's any sort of expectation to say "I love you". You're still young, and you two haven't been sexually intimate. Both play roles in relationships, and can heavily sway their direction.
If you still feel as if you love her down the road, after having spent lots of time with her, and seeing how she feels about the two of you, go ahead and say it. Hopefully it goes the way you'd like, and things work out. If not, it'll be a great learning experience for future relationships.
Best of luck!
Edit: Old threads are old...
Honestly there is no answer to that, because it's one of those words that means something different to everybody. What I think of as love is probably completely different to yours and what I thought of as love a few years ago is different to what I think it is now. I'd be careful with the word though because if you use it without realising how it affects the person you say it too you could be letting yourself into a world of trouble. You sound like you're pretty inexperienced so I'd suggest you hold off on it for now, let your experiences teach you what it means rather than letting somebody else tell you because it's unlikely their views will match yours.
IMO, like any other emotion it comes from whatever external stimuli you attach it to. if your consistently elated with that person, then thats as love as love gets. obviously, that is fleeting and that feeling wont last forever on its own, so i guess your asking for the 'true love' people have so desperately tried to define over the course of humanity; but 'true love' in that sense isnt an emotion, its just a set of circumstances and actions that leads to a constant feeling of love with a certain stimuli beyond initial attraction (in this case,the stimuli is usually thought to be a person).
so, the answer your looking for...love is the ability to consciously feel love with a person beyond simple instinctual emotion. if you can honestly say you love someone from a rational (in the technical sense), conscious though process as opposed to just feeling it, their ya go.
then again, i am speaking through literally zero experience. like, absolutely none. seriously, there are 5 year olds with more experience with women than me. i want to stress that point; you are better off asking a child the meaning of love than asking me.
so, the answer your looking for...love is the ability to consciously feel love with a person beyond simple instinctual emotion. if you can honestly say you love someone from a rational (in the technical sense), conscious though process as opposed to just feeling it, their ya go.
then again, i am speaking through literally zero experience. like, absolutely none. seriously, there are 5 year olds with more experience with women than me. i want to stress that point; you are better off asking a child the meaning of love than asking me.
If you want my personal definition? Well, my personal definition borrows strongly from what Lennon sings about in his song. Love is wanting to be loved by someone else, and be willing to return that love to them. Love is knowing that you and that person could spend years together and still be happy.
Whether or not you can judge that feeling yet in your current scenario, that's your call, but that is what love means to me, which is why I find it so difficult when my girlfriend of 4 weeks tells me "I love you", and I have to either lie, and say it back, or not say it, and have the relationship go down from there. I can't tell if I love someone after 4 weeks, and I don't feel they deserve me lying to them, so relationships are tough for me.
But again, that's my perspective of what it means to love someone, and how long it takes for me to tell if I love them or not.Your definition of love may differ greatly from mine, so when you decide that you 'love' this girl is really based on what your definition of the word is.
As for your scenario? Keep seeing the girl. If things keep going well, and you still feel the same after a while, then you may very well be in love.
Well, I hope this helped at least a little.
Love is the desire to protect those you care about and generally want to be with them.Super_Nintendo_Chalmers said:
But true love...True love....
The stuff of my dreams, for it's nothing but a fantasy.
*moan*
dude, you can start loving someone after knowing them for years, or fall in love after just a few weeks. it's happened to me more than once. don't tell it to her right away cause she might think you're moving too fast but tell her at least before the month is up. if not, she might think you're moving too slow. anyway, try to work at a steady pace. if you truly love her, you'll know what to do.