Yeah, that what I was actually what I was going for.Lieju said:There's not just the fact that there are women (and men) who have been raped, there's also the fact that a society teaches women to be afraid of being raped the way men aren't. (Obviously this depends on where you live)
The reason, I suspect, why there is such a lack of empathy towards rape victims is that most men cannot see themselves ever becoming rape victims, and they're largely correct in that assumption. Unless you are:
a) A child.
b) In the prison population.
c) Gay or bisexual.
..the chances of it happening to you are virtually nothing. Even if it does happen to you in that situation, noone is going to treat is as your fault. There will be no allegations of "well, you should have struggled" or "are you sure you didn't consent?" or "it sounds like you were sending the wrong signals" or any of the other weird allegations of complicity female victims have to contend with, because of course no "normal" guy would ever want anything put inside him in that way.
This is why it's very easy for many men to trivialize rape, because as mentioned there's no fear. Even male prison rape can be treated as a joke, because it's still something which only happens to other people.
In actuality, some of the things you mentioned being taught to fear are not particularly dangerous, but you're right.. it's about the perception rather than the reality, and that's a big part of why I think it's so damaging to depict rape in an insensitive or male-centric way. It's not just insensitive to rape victims, it's also very enabling to actual rapists, who generally justify their actions by measuring themselves against the stereotypical (and virtually non-existent) "stranger assault rape in a dark alley" scenario.