What's wrong with me?

[Vanguard_Ex]

Forgive me for making one of those self-centered 'Help me' threads but you guys are just such a massive help source I couldn't not at least try.

Right, to the bizznizz: As of late, to cut a long story short, I'm having girl troubles, I can't really have her due to location, and it's driving me insane. She's also sending me mixed messages like crazy, cept I don't know if they ARE mixed messages or whether it's just me. Thus the madness continues. It's getting me so down, and when it does I just don't feel like doing anything...I don't want to hang with friends, I don't want to play on WoW or the Xbox, I don't want to watch TV. Also, recently, I've started to lose my appetite. When it comes to dinner I know I should be hungry, but I just start to feel nauseous and overly full if I try and force myself to eat.

Is this just me going through a rough patch and nothing else? Or is there something more to this?
Again, I'm sorry for those of you who want a real discussion-promoting thread.

 

[El Poncho]

Ignore her, forget about her how to do this ? I don't know maybe start playing games more. Try cut off all communications with her. If you can't have her why try? Find someone new if you can. It's what I do when I know they are far away and I will never get to talk to them except online.

 

[Blimey]

Woah man, you sound like your love-sick. My advice? Forget about her. If you can't really have her, then just forget about her. Hard as that may be to hear, that's what you need to do. The longer you sit and get all torn up about this chick, the more miserable you'll make yourself. Several years ago I found myself in your situation, and I didn't ignore the girl of my affections. I kept pursuing it, until I saw her with another guy. I wasted my time, and was emotionally spent at the end. Took me a long time to get back in the dating scene after that. So, just don't bother. There's plenty more women out there.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

Woah man, you sound like your love-sick. My advice? Forget about her. If you can't really have her, then just forget about her. Hard as that may be to hear, that's what you need to do. The longer you sit and get all torn up about this chick, the more miserable you'll make yourself. Several years ago I found myself in your situation, and I didn't ignore the girl of my affections. I kept pursuing it, until I saw her with another guy. I wasted my time, and was emotionally spent at the end. Took me a long time to get back in the dating scene after that. So, just don't bother. There's plenty more women out there.

The sickest. I know it sounds ridiculous (although since you said you've been in the same place, it may not), but a huge part of me doesn't want to forget about her. She's like a fucking drug or something.

 

[Mr Wednesday]

You're a young guy. It's a timeless piece of guff, but it's also true: This Will Pass.

Women are ofen very good are making it clear they like a man. If you're not sure, then look elsewhere. I'm aware this is a bit like asking a dog not to bark, but bear with me. If you're not sure about her, try and be sure. You're in a bit of a vice given that at your age you can't just ask "are you into me" without much mockery. It sucks, but that, like everything else, won't last forever. Maybe friends can be of help, but I'm aware that's a tricky act to balance. See if any other women closer to you exhibit signs they might be into you. A saying about fish and seas springs to mind.

Trust me, I know from experience that the last thing you want is to realize you missed out because you were looking in the wrong direction.

 

[Blimey]

*Snip*

The sickest. I know it sounds ridiculous (although since you said you've been in the same place, it may not), but a huge part of me doesn't want to forget about her. She's like a fucking drug or something.

Yeah, I know exactly how you feel. You feel like your the walking dead, can't eat, sleep, think, or do anything. All you see is her, all you think about is her, all you want is her. Its rough man, and yes she is like a drug. In a scientific sense, she has caused your hormone's to go bat-shit crazy in your body. Basically she is your drug addiction, because your body has an intense desire to be with her, because its human nature. It may take time and effort to forget about her, but there are ways to make it easier. First, don't start playing tons of video games, that will only make it worse because you are alone. You need to get out of your house, go out with your friends, do things with people. Just feed your body social interaction. It will, at the very least, ease the emotions you are feeling. If you try to hide away with video games and such, you will only dwell more on her. And no, it doesn't sound ridiculous to be honest. I'm sure many of the guys on girls on this forum have gone through the same thing you are dealing with right now. Its just part of being human.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

-snip-

This is excellent advice, thank you very much. You sound very wise to be honest, and I'm going to take your advice as best as I can. As horrible and even shallow as this may sound, I'm only focusing so much on her because I have nothing better in the pipeline, you know?

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

Yeah, I know exactly how you feel. You feel like your the walking dead, can't eat, sleep, think, or do anything. All you see is her, all you think about is her, all you want is her. Its rough man, and yes she is like a drug. In a scientific sense, she has caused your hormone's to go bat-shit crazy in your body. Basically she is your drug addiction, because your body has an intense desire to be with her, because its human nature. It may take time and effort to forget about her, but there are ways to make it easier. First, don't start playing tons of video games, that will only make it worse because you are alone. You need to get out of your house, go out with your friends, do things with people. Just feed your body social interaction. It will, at the very least, ease the emotions you are feeling. If you try to hide away with video games and such, you will only dwell more on her. And no, it doesn't sound ridiculous to be honest. I'm sure many of the guys on girls on this forum have gone through the same thing you are dealing with right now. Its just part of being human.

This literally made me say 'Wow' out loud. This is more succinct a way of putting it than I could ever have. And this is fantastic advice, I'm definitely going to get out as much as I can to make sure I don't go insane. Thank you so much man, this is fantastic advice.

 

[Nadlice]

Related to the title, nothing is wrong with you...

The advice you have so far is very solid, and you really only have 2 options. I know it seems like longing for her is an option, but it isn't. It will just get worse and worse if you pursue that. If there is no way it can work, you have to try to move on. You should try to have a good support network of friends, preferably those with emotions. It can help the burden of falling out of love immensely.

A slimier thing happened to me a while ago, and I did the stupid thing for 3 months. All I have to show for it is half of my friends are still exhausted about my melodrama, and a bunch of crappy poetry.

Another thing, find a creative outlet. And then go through an artistic depression. If there is no other way out of the hurt, art is a perfect way of draining yourself of emotion.

I have now created a wall of unremarkable advice. Go me.

 

[Tekyro]

A WoW player that seems to be interested in real women outside of porn? Does not compute.

Fixed that for you.

 

[SimuLord]

Woah man, you sound like your love-sick. My advice? Forget about her. If you can't really have her, then just forget about her. Hard as that may be to hear, that's what you need to do. The longer you sit and get all torn up about this chick, the more miserable you'll make yourself. Several years ago I found myself in your situation, and I didn't ignore the girl of my affections. I kept pursuing it, until I saw her with another guy. I wasted my time, and was emotionally spent at the end. Took me a long time to get back in the dating scene after that. So, just don't bother. There's plenty more women out there.

The sickest. I know it sounds ridiculous (although since you said you've been in the same place, it may not), but a huge part of me doesn't want to forget about her. She's like a fucking drug or something.

Just go have a few drinks or a cheeseburger or call the easiest slut you know and buy a big box of Trojans and get the fuck over it.

Not to go all R. Lee Ermey on your ass, but I've found in 32 years on the planet that the "a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do" attitude works wonders for eliminating whiny angsty bullshit from one's life.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

Il tell you what id do, tell her you have feelings for her, if she has them for you, fuck the location problem and go see her mate. I have a friend who takes a two hour buss to see his girlfriend, and the ticket is 22 dollars.

First off, you completely threw me by saying 'mate' and then saying the price of a ticket in dollars

Second, thank you very much...this is the sort of advice I really want, the 'fuck it, just do it' approach. It would cost me a fair amount and I wouldn't be able to do it very often but, we'll see...

 

[Blimey]

*snip*

This literally made me say 'Wow' out loud. This is more succinct a way of putting it than I could ever have. And this is fantastic advice, I'm definitely going to get out as much as I can to make sure I don't go insane. Thank you so much man, this is fantastic advice.

Hey, no problem man. I know how it feels to be going through stuff like that, I'm glad that I could be of some help. Now go enjoy life

 

[Scrat01]

I haven't. Lucky maybe?

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

Woah man, you sound like your love-sick. My advice? Forget about her. If you can't really have her, then just forget about her. Hard as that may be to hear, that's what you need to do. The longer you sit and get all torn up about this chick, the more miserable you'll make yourself. Several years ago I found myself in your situation, and I didn't ignore the girl of my affections. I kept pursuing it, until I saw her with another guy. I wasted my time, and was emotionally spent at the end. Took me a long time to get back in the dating scene after that. So, just don't bother. There's plenty more women out there.

The sickest. I know it sounds ridiculous (although since you said you've been in the same place, it may not), but a huge part of me doesn't want to forget about her. She's like a fucking drug or something.

Just go have a few drinks or a cheeseburger or call the easiest slut you know and buy a big box of Trojans and get the fuck over it.

Not to go all R. Lee Ermey on your ass, but I've found in 32 years on the planet that the "a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do" attitude works wonders for eliminating whiny angsty bullshit from one's life.

Interesting...I get the feeling we're two very different people but what the fuck, I may even give this a shot. Thanks.

 

[Ryuk2]

That's a serious problem. Seems like you are in love. Those are very bad news and your as good as dead if you won't take action. What action? Action of not giving a fuck. Do what you're always doing, if she sends a message - answer it as message, not a ''mixed message''. Don't assume something that your not quite sure about.
Take it all easy and you'll see that there's nothing to worry about as long as your not being a complete tool who lives just to see that one women.
Later you will hate yourself for loving her and it will probably ruin your life.

 

[Cowabungaa]

Il tell you what id do, tell her you have feelings for her, if she has them for you, fuck the location problem and go see her mate. I have a friend who takes a two hour buss to see his girlfriend, and the ticket is 22 dollars.

First off, you completely threw me by saying 'mate' and then saying the price of a ticket in dollars

Second, thank you very much...this is the sort of advice I really want, the 'fuck it, just do it' approach. It would cost me a fair amount and I wouldn't be able to do it very often but, we'll see...

Sometimes you just have to follow your heart, and if both yours and hers are saying the same thing, I don't see why you shouldn't go for it. If it's really something, maybe you can move out, get closer to her. It's important she's behind it too though, something like this requires effort from you both.

You shouldn't chase her without being sure about her feelings, sure there is a chance that it'll work out even then, but I wouldn't take risk. If it's all mutual however, well, I think real love is worth the risk. I'd give up everything I have for that, as a matter of fact I'm probably going to do just that.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

Il tell you what id do, tell her you have feelings for her, if she has them for you, fuck the location problem and go see her mate. I have a friend who takes a two hour buss to see his girlfriend, and the ticket is 22 dollars.

First off, you completely threw me by saying 'mate' and then saying the price of a ticket in dollars

Second, thank you very much...this is the sort of advice I really want, the 'fuck it, just do it' approach. It would cost me a fair amount and I wouldn't be able to do it very often but, we'll see...

Sometimes you just have to follow your heart, and if both yours and hers are saying the same thing, I don't see why you shouldn't go for it. If it's really something, maybe you can move out, get closer to her. It's important she's behind it too though, something like this requires effort from you both.

You shouldn't chase her without being sure about her feelings, sure there is a chance that it'll work out even then, but I wouldn't take risk. If it's all mutual however, well, I think real love is worth the risk. I'd give up everything I have for that, as a matter of fact I'm probably going to do just that.

Thank you man, this is slightly uplifting to read
Interesting that this seems to link to your own love life, eh?

 

[Cowabungaa]

Thank you man, this is slightly uplifting to read
Interesting that this seems to link to your own love life, eh?

No problem, never underestimate the power of hope.

And well, it kind of does, in a certain kind of way. It's more complicated than this, way more complicated (and probably more difficult as well). I'm in quite good spirits about it though. I'll just do my best, and we'll see how it works out. Of course I hope for the best result possible, but we'll have to start off slowly, do it all step by step. But if we both really want to go for it, maybe in a year or 2, well, now I can only dream about that moment but I'm hoping we can make it a reality together. I'm already 100% sure that it'll be damn worth every effort I put into it, she definitely is worth it, that's for sure.

But enough about that. So really, if you want to go for it, by all means go for it and don't give up. But do make sure your both behind it and both working towards each other, it really has to come from both ways.

 

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