Why do so many people on the internet like to characterize Japan as sex-crazy?
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This surprises me.Terramax said:
In my last year of university, we had a few girls from Japan in our class (Sweden here). From what they told me, the ideal woman is shy and cute, and that equality does not fucking exist.
One of these girls became my pseudo-girlfriend/FWB (because we knew she would go back to Japan in a year), and that ideal was definitely noticeable, she didn't dare to take what she wanted in bed like other partners I've had. It was not as bad as Hentai/Jap porn, with the "unwilling" whimpers.
As far as Women are concerned: Seems to me that everything showing legs is A-OK but exposing much of your upper body is not.Terramax said:
A friend of mine studied in Japan for a year. She was walking around with a few Japanese friends, wearing a top with spaghetti straps. Many people in the street were staring at her like she was a god damn alien. Turns out her friends were even embarrassed because she was walking around like that, showing so much of her skin. This was not Tokyo however. She was studying in Hikone, a moderatly sized city. Its different in Tokyo but on the whole, the Japanese are much MUCH more conservative with "real" sex or attraction than any western country. Looks like they try to just ingore sex and hope that it works itself out.
***I LIVE IN JAPAN RIGHT NOW***
I think it's partially because things that seem extremely and blatantly sexual to us aren't, and things that seem inappropriate to us aren't to them. Extremely short skirts, even to the point where you can see a girl's panties when she sits down? That's just fashion. If there is a sexual aspect to it, you're supposed to pretend that there's not. Which is why you end up with huge girl groups all dancing around in insanely skimpy outfits in a way that's "not sexual" but clearly is, and that sort of gives the Japanese a rep for being sexual.
HOWEVER that Japanese are into monsters raping school girls and crap is ridiculous. Most Japanese people don't watch hentai, nor do they read sexual manga, and if you talked about it they'd look at you like you were a pervert (unless you were with the right group of guy friends). They don't talk about sex, although affairs aren't as big of a deal in Japan. That being said, they DO have a penis festival where they carry around huge cock'n balls statues and have penis Popsicles that you can buy. So I don't think the perverted side to the Japanese is entirely made up. I also don't think they're any more obsessed with sex than we are. But MAN they love penises. Seriously, young boys (elementary school) want to touch my crouch, talk about my penis, and even just yell penis for no reason.
I think it's partially because things that seem extremely and blatantly sexual to us aren't, and things that seem inappropriate to us aren't to them. Extremely short skirts, even to the point where you can see a girl's panties when she sits down? That's just fashion. If there is a sexual aspect to it, you're supposed to pretend that there's not. Which is why you end up with huge girl groups all dancing around in insanely skimpy outfits in a way that's "not sexual" but clearly is, and that sort of gives the Japanese a rep for being sexual.
HOWEVER that Japanese are into monsters raping school girls and crap is ridiculous. Most Japanese people don't watch hentai, nor do they read sexual manga, and if you talked about it they'd look at you like you were a pervert (unless you were with the right group of guy friends). They don't talk about sex, although affairs aren't as big of a deal in Japan. That being said, they DO have a penis festival where they carry around huge cock'n balls statues and have penis Popsicles that you can buy. So I don't think the perverted side to the Japanese is entirely made up. I also don't think they're any more obsessed with sex than we are. But MAN they love penises. Seriously, young boys (elementary school) want to touch my crouch, talk about my penis, and even just yell penis for no reason.
In my opinion, the things they are conservative with are just different than the things we are conservatives with. And it depends on where you live, that's true. I think part of it is that they don't feel the need to show off their breasts because frankly, they don't have them. They just approach sex differently than we do. The, "don't talk about that" mentality isn't so much the Japanese view on sex at it is the Japanese view on everything.Omgsarge said:
Yes, this is very true. It's all about the legs in Japan. The funny thing is, they don't think short skirts are that sexy. Like the west, where women show a bit of cleavage so often it's considered a very normal thing; in Japan, it's totally normal for women to show lots of leg. It had my and my foreign friends excited every time we walked down the goddamn roads of Kyoto, but Japanese men didn't see anything remotely racy about it.Omgsarge said:
It's a shame. My Japanese girlfriend is an amazing woman, but she doesn't wear skirts like most women in her countryland
I don't know if they're more conservative in that respects; just more that things are 'different'.
Indeed, women are supposed to be more desirable if they're shy and cute. Whilst I don't mind 'cute', 'shy' just pisses me off.TwiZtah said:
I've dated a few Japanese women, and the shy ones are a nightmare. You literally have to do ALL the talking on a date. It's like talking to a brick wall. But it's hard because you feel like they aren't interested in you (because they won't engage in conversation to any major degree), and you're the one constantly expected to make conversation.
Contrary to what you said about your friend though, I've heard from many other foreigners that most Japanese women are secretly absolutely crazy in bed! 'Sex mad' even. I've only slept with one so far, my current GF, and she supports this. She's not extravert or anything, but man, when she wants it, she isn't subtle about it, put it that way.
Because they all come from cultures where human sexuality is incredibly repressed and demonized as being morally wrong?crusador90 said:
Sexuality has always been a positive and even celebrated thing in Japan, less so though after the American occupation after WWII.
Google the Ososo Matsuri (Vagina Festival) if you think I'm not serious.
That's really fascinating because it adds further evidence to the idea that people enjoy doing things that are "off limits." E.g. In the UK alcohol is popular among teens because its taboo for teens to be drinking. Same thing with sex. Perhaps in Japan, if sexuality really is that common place then it doesn't seem taboo and so people don't get the same rule breaking buzz from it.Terramax said:
Come on now. Drawing conclusions on a group based on what you see and hear about them is not racism. Its not very smart to base you entire thinking of people based on just what you see even more so when you don't live there but ignorance and racism are two different things. When I hear people from other countries talk about americans in a bad light I don't think racism (not that american is a race but you get the picture) I just realize most of them are just basing that conclusion off what they have seen and heard about americans. It's human nature to do things like this. A survival instinct.Moth_Monk said:
Honey Boo Boo is a reality t.v. show about overweight rednecks who make their youngest daughter enter beauty pageants. It's supposed to be funny, I guess, but the few times I've watched it I felt like one of those ass holes who point and laugh at animals at the zoo. I don't really get the appeal, but apparently someone watches it. It's one of those "look how horrible these people are" shows. I do feel bad for the daughter though, she's basically been made into a laughingstock.Queen Michael said: