TheKasp said:
Recently I watched a talk about the experiences of women while playing online. It was interesting, with examples of good and bad experiences (though the majority were bad). Several known websites were pointed out where people collect messages from people they had the 'pleasure' of playing with.
The video was downvoted to hell and the whole comment section was full about whining how there are no girls gaming, how it is their fault, how they asked for it by 'announcing their gender' (which can be anything from having a female sounding nickname to talking in a teambased competitive game) and weak differentiations between 'girl gamers' and 'gurrl gamers' (which is bullshit in its own way)... There you have it.
And the really fucked up part is that if they DIDN'T let people know they were female and then the other players found out later, one way or another, then they would catch shit for that too, I bet.
I have a copy of Mass Effect 3, I adore it, and I've wondered towards playing the multiplayer. I also have a brother who loves all the CoD and Battlefield type games and he would love it if I would get a headset and a copy and play him. But I have NEVER done either because one, it'd be my first time playing multiplayer ever and I don't know how well I'd do, I don't want to fuck something up for someone else cause I suck at multiplayer and don't know it yet.
And 2 because I'm female and I've heard all of the shit women go through when they go on multiplayer (not necessarily ME3, maybe they're a perfect utopia of multiplaying but I doubt it) and it scares me. I, as a person, don't really give a shit what anyone thinks about me, but I also have anxiety disorders which makes me worry and freak out over any negative comments I get so I always have a part of my brain telling me I'm horrible and I have to fight that all the time. Now I don't expect people to avoid telling me my faults when it's necessary and true, I take that information and do my best to face and deal with it...but possibly putting myself right in the middle of the vicious world where I either can't tell anyone who I actually am or risk being told I'm ugly, fat, stupid, bad at games, a whore, a *****, or that I'm going to be raped?...No, that's not being comeptitive, that's being hateful and I don't want to have to deal with that.