Woman's worries

[GestaltEsper]

Since there seems to be such a prevalence of guys complaining about their dating problems, and while I must admit I find each one amusing in their own way, I figured we'd do something to balance the equation. I'm sure girls have problems too so come on in and vent/discuss here. I'll be in the back watching ZP.

 

[Woodsey]

This will inevitably devolve into a bunch of self-described "nice guys" who are incredibly misogynistic without realising it, and generally mean spirited towards other men for doing better with women than they do complaining about their problems.

 

[EeveeElectro]

NO. I JUST SIT HERE AND BE WOMANLY AND MEN FLOCK ROUND ME, OBVIOUSLY.

Seriously, it's been 4 years since I've been single so I can't really say I have dating problems.
Apart from mine and my boyfriends conflict about pretty much everything ;_; but that's probably more to do with out genders.
I remember I used to be pissed off surrounded by all these attractive girls who were horrible to me and thick as shit but had a new boyfriend every week. I wasn't sure what the guys saw in them.

I had to look outside of my school for a boyfriend, someone who didn't know how much I was hated and school and took me as they saw me. I think that's a pretty good idea if anyone is struggling to find someone at the minute.

 

[trollnystan]

Is it a problem that I DON'T date, don't want to date, don't like going out to bars, and am hoping to meet a funny, nice guy someday who loves to cook (so I don't have to) and doesn't mind that I'm crazy by, I don't know, bumping into him in the street or something?

... Yeah that sounds kinda bad... >_>

 

[Catchy Slogan]

I've only ever been on 1 date in my life.

I'm not very interested in dating. I'm happy as I am.

EDIT:

This will inevitably devolve into a bunch of self-described "nice guys" who are incredibly misogynistic without realising it, and generally mean spirited towards other men for doing better with women than they do complaining about their problems.

Haha! Hit the nail on the head right there. It's so funny/frustrating when they're always bitching about being 'friend-zoned' and how 'lucky' they are to have a guy like them. If they aren't into, they aren't into you. Get over it. It isn't the end of the world.

 

[Rawne1980]

Wouldn't it be easier to start a "Guys who have dating trouble seeking women who has dating trouble" dating thread.

Then all the blokes who have problems getting dates and all the women who have problems getting dates can all meet up and get dates.

I know people out there have a hard time with the "opposite sex" (or even same sex depending on your orientation) with regards to getting a date but there seems to be a hell of a lot of people on these forums with that very problem.

It's seriously getting to the point where i'm starting to feel guilty for never having that problem myself.

Makes me wish I could give people a bit of my confidence and share it around a bit.

I'm not saying there is anything wrong with being shy or lacking confidence it just can't be helped.

 

[manythings]

This will inevitably devolve into a bunch of self-described "nice guys" who are incredibly misogynistic without realising it, and generally mean spirited towards other men for doing better with women than they do complaining about their problems.

You son of a *****!

But seriously women don't play videogames, silly OP... actually is there a chick version of a neck beard?

Is it a problem that I DON'T date, don't want to date, don't like going out to bars, and am hoping to meet a funny, nice guy someday who loves to cook (so I don't have to) and doesn't mind that I'm crazy by, I don't know, bumping into him in the street or something?

... Yeah that sounds kinda bad... >_>

Dating was invented by TV. If ever there is a time you're liable to be lied to by another person it's when you're "getting to know each other". Stick with talking to people like people not potential romances, that just objecifies and reduces them. If something can happen it will.

 

[Hagi]

Besides what the posters above me said, what's so freaking horrible about being on your own?

I've personally found that those capable of being on their own are much more capable of being in happy and healthy relationships. While those incapable of being on their own generally hop from one crappy relationship to the next, desperately looking for someone else to compensate for their own inadequacies.

If you feel you need a partner then what you really need is some time on your own to come to terms with yourself.

At the moment where you 'just' want a partner you're good to go.

 

[aba1]

This will inevitably devolve into a bunch of self-described "nice guys" who are incredibly misogynistic without realising it, and generally mean spirited towards other men for doing better with women than they do complaining about their problems.

SHHHHHHH dont tell them then what will I have to giggle at every morning >.>

 

[Pimppeter2]

"Does he like tomatoes on his sandwhich?"

The answers no by the way, sugartits

OT: From my experience women have friends to talk things through with more then men do. My friends are supportive if im having actual problems, but if I ran around crying about how this chick likes another guy better than me, they'd just call me a ***** and get me some poon

 

[Sarcastic_Applause]

i Don't know why, but the concept of 'Dating' has always sounded so unnatural to me; just the whole thing really. Then again, this is coming from someone who has only been in 1 long-ish relationship with a guy about 3 years ago.

Dating someone (of either gender), just never really appealed to me; not because i'm too lazy to go looking, it's just that i'm busy with what i want to do in life.

Is it a problem that I DON'T date, don't want to date, don't like going out to bars, and am hoping to meet a funny, nice guy someday who loves to cook (so I don't have to) and doesn't mind that I'm crazy by, I don't know, bumping into him in the street or something?

... Yeah that sounds kinda bad... >_>

As a guy who thought the same way about three years ago, I can say this with all honesty.


Most people wont just randomly walk up to your door and ask you out on a date.


If you want to meet someone, you are going to at least have to go places, even if its just a bookstore.



OT:

I have a feeling, a small feeling, that this thread will soon be overrun with guys going "girls dont have dating problems! Guys just cant find girls that want them!".

which sadly is classic "good guy syndrome".


To those guys who I know are reading this thread:

Quit it.

Quit acting like life has it out for you, quit being lazy.

That sounds about right for people who declare themselves 'nice guys'; a small percentage are actually being sincere, whereas the rest use it as an excuse for their own incompetence.

 

[GestaltEsper]

OT: From my experience women have friends to talk things through with more then men do. My friends are supportive if im having actual problems, but if I ran around crying about how this chick likes another guy better than me, they'd just call me a ***** and get me some poon

So in other words...this was pointless. Well so much for variety.

 

[trollnystan]

SNIP

As a guy who thought the same way about three years ago, I can say this with all honesty.


Most people wont just randomly walk up to your door and ask you out on a date.


If you want to meet someone, you are going to at least have to go places, even if its just a bookstore.


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Don't I know it. Last time I opened the door to a stranger it was a cop. *badum-dum-tish* (It actually was though. Turned out a neighbour had been stabbed by her boyfriend =/)

I guess I've always liked the idea of meeting someone through someone else, like a workmate or something, and thus build up a friendship first before jumping into the harrowing waters of Relationship Sea.

So far, no go. But you are absolutely right, I do not go out enough or socialise enough, and thus I have no one to blame but myself for my lonely, barren, desolate life. /violin /dramaqueen /self-pity

 

[intheweeds]

Well, if guys think its difficult finding a straight girl that thinks their hobby is ok, they obviously haven't tried finding a lesbian girl who does.

I have a long term g/f these days, I have learned to accept a girl who 'tolerates' it every once in a while. I usually spend every minute i have alone gaming for that reason.

 

[Macgyvercas]

If they aren't into, they aren't into you. Get over it. It isn't the end of the world.

Of course, when it happens more often when you care to admit, it's kind of hard to see that viewpoint. Don't get me wrong, I agree with you on this, I'm just playing Devil's Advocate for fun.

 

[Blueruler182]

Is it a problem that I DON'T date, don't want to date, don't like going out to bars, and am hoping to meet a funny, nice guy someday who loves to cook (so I don't have to) and doesn't mind that I'm crazy by, I don't know, bumping into him in the street or something?

... Yeah that sounds kinda bad... >_>

*Bump* Hi there...

Kidding. It's not crazy, I've never gotten why there was a dating scene in the first place. I understand we're all social creatures and everything but dating's just seems to have been turned into a sport.

 

[zehydra]

If they aren't into, they aren't into you. Get over it. It isn't the end of the world.

Of course, when it happens more often when you care to admit, it's kind of hard to see that viewpoint. Don't get me wrong, I agree with you on this, I'm just playing Devil's Advocate for fun.

Of course. That's where the anger comes from. I've seen quite some threads entailing dudes being friendzoned frequently, and that's when the threads show up.

Few people show interest in me often, but I'm also not their "nice guy" friends either.

I'm a nice guy, I'm respectful of other people, but I have rarely been friendzoned, because I've rarely gotten a relationship with a girl who meets my standard on a good enough level to even warrant asking the question anyway.

A lot of frustration also probably stems from the fact that these so-called "nice guys" aren't the kind of outgoing men that women are often physically attracted to, and this notion is rather alien to them. That is, "How could a person possibly find a behavioral trait physically attractive?"

 

[FernandoV]

If they aren't into, they aren't into you. Get over it. It isn't the end of the world.

Of course, when it happens more often when you care to admit, it's kind of hard to see that viewpoint. Don't get me wrong, I agree with you on this, I'm just playing Devil's Advocate for fun.

Of course. That's where the anger comes from. I've seen quite some threads entailing dudes being friendzoned frequently, and that's when the threads show up.

Few people show interest in me often, but I'm also not their "nice guy" friends either.

I'm a nice guy, I'm respectful of other people, but I have rarely been friendzoned, because I've rarely gotten a relationship with a girl who meets my standard on a good enough level to even warrant asking the question anyway.

A lot of frustration also probably stems from the fact that these so-called "nice guys" aren't the kind of outgoing men that women are often physically attracted to, and this notion is rather alien to them. That is, "How could a person possibly find a behavioral trait physically attractive?"

Ugly people are silly. They don't understand, they just don't.

 

[zehydra]

If they aren't into, they aren't into you. Get over it. It isn't the end of the world.

Of course, when it happens more often when you care to admit, it's kind of hard to see that viewpoint. Don't get me wrong, I agree with you on this, I'm just playing Devil's Advocate for fun.

Of course. That's where the anger comes from. I've seen quite some threads entailing dudes being friendzoned frequently, and that's when the threads show up.

Few people show interest in me often, but I'm also not their "nice guy" friends either.

I'm a nice guy, I'm respectful of other people, but I have rarely been friendzoned, because I've rarely gotten a relationship with a girl who meets my standard on a good enough level to even warrant asking the question anyway.

A lot of frustration also probably stems from the fact that these so-called "nice guys" aren't the kind of outgoing men that women are often physically attracted to, and this notion is rather alien to them. That is, "How could a person possibly find a behavioral trait physically attractive?"

Ugly people are silly. They don't understand, they just don't.

and how does that relate to my post?

 

[FernandoV]

If they aren't into, they aren't into you. Get over it. It isn't the end of the world.

Of course, when it happens more often when you care to admit, it's kind of hard to see that viewpoint. Don't get me wrong, I agree with you on this, I'm just playing Devil's Advocate for fun.

Of course. That's where the anger comes from. I've seen quite some threads entailing dudes being friendzoned frequently, and that's when the threads show up.

Few people show interest in me often, but I'm also not their "nice guy" friends either.

I'm a nice guy, I'm respectful of other people, but I have rarely been friendzoned, because I've rarely gotten a relationship with a girl who meets my standard on a good enough level to even warrant asking the question anyway.

A lot of frustration also probably stems from the fact that these so-called "nice guys" aren't the kind of outgoing men that women are often physically attracted to, and this notion is rather alien to them. That is, "How could a person possibly find a behavioral trait physically attractive?"

Ugly people are silly. They don't understand, they just don't.

and how does that relate to my post?

Ugly people usually have to be nice because it their only redeeming quality. Ugly nice people get friendzoned. You're welcome.